Sleeping Arrangements

LordSplodge said:
To BB & Knip I agree that the inequality between boys and girls is wrong. In my house it would be equal.
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Agreed. I would have a blanket age of 18 before they could sleep in the same room. 16 for sleeping in separate rooms, but it all depends on how mature I think they are at the time.

Burnsy
 
My mam & dad let my ex stay in the same bed as me when we were both 15, it was usually me kicking her out becuase she took up too much room.
 
Depends if I had a shotgun or not really and it does matter male and female. Daughter - never without the gun preferably, probably 17ish, depending on maturity/the lad in question. Son, 16ish but again it would depend. The lower age for the lad is because I would have had a quiet word and be secretly proud, following in his dad's footsteps so to speak. Daughters are different.
 
I only think its really acceptable when you're 16+ at least. My mum finally let me have my boyfriend sleep over when I was 18 and bringing in a wage :p

16/17 is the best age to start I think if anything.
 
Kitchster_uk said:
The lower age for the lad is because I would have had a quiet word and be secretly proud, following in his dad's footsteps so to speak. Daughters are different.
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Why are daughters different, I really dont get it, your son would just be sleeping with someone elses daughter?
 
Im 20 and I wouldn't dare ask my parents if my gf (if i had one) could stay over. When my older sister (24) comes home, if her bf comes too he stays in the spare room and not my sisters. It's been that way in my family for years, your only allowed to sleep in the same bed as your partner when your married. Probably something to do with my parents being fairly strict catholics.
 
geuben said:
Im 20 and I wouldn't dare ask my parents if my gf (if i had one) could stay over. When my older sister (24) comes home, if her bf comes too he stays in the spare room and not my sisters. It's been that way in my family for years, your only allowed to sleep in the same bed as your partner when your married. Probably something to do with my parents being fairly strict catholics.
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A friend of mine has parents like that, except she has a child with her partner! They're not married though so aren't allowed to sleep in the same room when visiting, which of course makes everyone feel really awkward so she hardly ever goes home anymore and her parents miss out on seeing their first grandson grow up.
 
knip said:
Why are daughters different, I really dont get it, your son would just be sleeping with someone elses daughter?
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It's called double standards. Also, the guy tends to get their own way when it comes to cover up or not and is in general going to be more dominant (not ina bad or kinky way...) and I am therefore more in control of him behaving than someone elses son. Plus, if it went pear-shaped, I don't have the baby to hold.

I dislike children anyway and don't hae a paternal bone in my body so this is all highly unlikely anyway but hey, double standards are a parents right tbh. My house, my rules - start paying towards the mortgage and that'll give you more percentage bargaining power. Or even better, my way or the highway
 
HEADRAT said:
This is a really difficult question to be honest, you will never stop people having sex if they want to, would I rather it happen in the safety of the home rather than on the back seat of a car or in a park that's a real tough one tbh.

HEADRAT
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This is a rather simplified summary of course, but for the most part I agree. Of course, I'd have taken the time to actually meet the person my son\daughter is dating in the first place...since I won't be dealing with this in real life for probably another ~1.5 decades I don't know for sure.
 
Never in a million years would my mum allow my girlfriend to stay over in the same room/bed unless we were married and I'm 21! Getting an hour alone in my room to watch a DVD is impossible without someone making themselves known so we can't get up to nothing. It's not like I can't be trusted, it's just how my parents were brought up and while i'm still living under their roof I have to respect that. They would still be very opposed to us sharing a room end of, be it on holiday or me staying at her's but what they don't know won't hurt them. ;)

My girlfriend lives with her grandparents who are still quite old fashioned but outside of their house they're not bothered one bit as long as we're responsible.
 
I was 16 when I first brought a lass home to stay. My folks didn't care as it meant I wasn't down a back alley.

I'll do the same when I eventually have kids.
 
I'm 21 and my girlfriend has never been allowed to stay in the soom room. Your house your rules. I know If I had a daughter I wouldn't be letting anyone stay in her room.
 
From the 1st time they were interested in boys (around 12) I gave them both a talk in my own 'don't beat around the bush' type of way.
I told them boys only want one thing and they'll do and say anything to get into their knickers.
I also told them that sex is absolutely wonderful and should be experienced at their own convenience but they should be very careful about protection and I didn't expect them to go with boys for at least another 2 years.
I always re-gave the talk and around 15 when they had boyfriends I made sure they listened even more.
They were both around 17 when they had their respective boyfriends in and in front of their boyfriends I told them 'Don't forget to use contraception'.
Of course this caused much embarassment to the lads who didn't know where to put themselves but at least they know where I stand 'Shag my daughters but don't get them pregnant'.
I'll still have the odd comment now just to hammer it home but I know one is on the pill and the other has got something in her arm.

All I can say from my experience is to be straight, honest and supportive because you're not going to stop them.
I prefer they are shagging under my own roof than up a dirty back alley like I had to.
 
Respect to the parents in here. It's amazing how naive some are about what their teenage sons/daughters get up to.
 
Around 14, parents trusted me, which IMO is the most important thing. I know my aunt dosen't let her son (26) let his girlfreind of 6 years sleep in the same bed under her roof. What does it really acheive?
 
Blackstar said:
I have major respect for you as a parent, you seem to do a really good job. :)
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Thank you but remember parenting is the hardest job in the world.
I now have around 100 x 14 to 16 year old girls I have to advise + support although I doubt I will be as blunt with them.
I'll have to see when my first major incident happens.
 
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