You knowingly paid £300 for her to look her best for another man. Sigh.
I think she is cheating……
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You knowingly paid £300 for her to look her best for another man. Sigh.
Oh just a thought, check it isn't your birthday or anniversary or something coming up and all the secrecy is about organising you a surprise - that would be a bit crap if you dumped her and then found out she'd organised a massive party behind your back, haha 
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Oh just a thought, check it isn't your birthday or anniversary or something coming up and all the secrecy is about organising you a surprise - that would be a bit crap if you dumped her and then found out she'd organised a massive party behind your back, haha
No that was Sunday just gone when I took her out for a nice meal!
Tomorrow I have the day off, perhaps I should spend the day packing for her, returning the outfit. Wiping her laptop, microwaving her bank cards and anything else that would make me feel that i'm getting revenge. But I dont think i want revenge, I just want honesty.
What... with heavy suspicions that she was seeing someone at work? Ok...
No, be sensible. Return the outfit at least... she should be paying for this herself given the circumstances (ie: you know there's a possibility of some bloke hiking it up that evening). As for the rest... as soon as she comes home confront her, get the truth, then calmly say you want her to move out and the relationship is over, that it's for the best. Wait till she leaves then cry your heart out, go to a friend if you need to.
Just don't break down in front of her, be as cool and calm as possible (which is easier said than done I know).
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So your girl lives with you yet is complaining about not spending enough time with you?
How does this work exactly? I mean most people work/study/benefits during the day, so how does she expect to see you more?
Perhaps you could say to her that you have planned a romantic weekend away because of what she said and that all she would have to do is miss the "works do" to come along with you.
Thats going to be a pretty quick indication if she would rather go out with work or go with you on a romantic weekend. Only problem there...you have to actually plan a weekend away
The other concern is still the messages. I mean if you are sure 10+ messages are going missing/deleted everyday then something is fishy. I mean, not many people I know or who have asked delete messages as they receive them, hardly ever infact. Most people do a "housekeeping" on their phones when bored or memory full. They will only go out of their way to delete messages that they don't want to be seen.
Whatever you do, man up before the weekend and sort it out. It seems clear she gave you the oppertunity last night when going on about not seeing you enough. Unless you live completley seperate lives and that is the reality, sounds like she is the one who just started making her exit moves....
Good luck mate, keep us updated with your progress. Also make sure you hit it one last time if the doors on the relationship are closing for good
How does this work exactly? I mean most people work/study/benefits during the day, so how does she expect to see you more?
Perhaps you could say to her that you have planned a romantic weekend away because of what she said and that all she would have to do is miss the "works do" to come along with you.
Thats going to be a pretty quick indication if she would rather go out with work or go with you on a romantic weekend. Only problem there...you have to actually plan a weekend away
The other concern is still the messages. I mean if you are sure 10+ messages are going missing/deleted everyday then something is fishy. I mean, not many people I know or who have asked delete messages as they receive them, hardly ever infact. Most people do a "housekeeping" on their phones when bored or memory full. They will only go out of their way to delete messages that they don't want to be seen.
Whatever you do, man up before the weekend and sort it out. It seems clear she gave you the oppertunity last night when going on about not seeing you enough. Unless you live completley seperate lives and that is the reality, sounds like she is the one who just started making her exit moves....
Good luck mate, keep us updated with your progress. Also make sure you hit it one last time if the doors on the relationship are closing for good
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don't bother mate. get your 300 back but don't mess about getting "revenge". You don't know she's been cheating on you, maybe she hasn't. She's got her eyes on someone else though
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She may have feelings for him but hasn't actually done anything yet. Don't think that she's necessarily been cheating on you. She may like this other fella and she's a tad confused as she likes you too (she keeps saying she loves you) but as he's new she may be drawn to him more.
Talk to her, don't do anything rash, don't punch her in the ovaries or throw her stuff out or whatever but talk to her civilly and be direct, if it turns out for the worst then if you feel the need to get back at her then do so but it won't make you feel any better as you sound as though you still love her.
Don't be weak but also don't be 'Alpha' just be smart, confident and decisive.
Good luck
Talk to her, don't do anything rash, don't punch her in the ovaries or throw her stuff out or whatever but talk to her civilly and be direct, if it turns out for the worst then if you feel the need to get back at her then do so but it won't make you feel any better as you sound as though you still love her.
Don't be weak but also don't be 'Alpha' just be smart, confident and decisive.
Good luck
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You cracked one off on her laptop?
thats just low
yeh her favorite coffee mug would've been better
The key thing. Don't show too much emotion, just do it and show that you aren't hurt by your decision. You'll look like a right b****** to her but then again what comes around...
Oh and feel free to email me his address so I'll go and get him for ya! Pow! Pow! Pow!
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Oh when it finishes I'm sure somehow, someway everyone in her work will find out, trust me on that one!
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Unless I've missed something fundamental, you seem to be preparing to throw this girl out on the street for something you have no proof about?
Is she actually cheating? You seem to have convinced yourself, but have no facts or admission or anything for that matter, apart from your own suspicous mind working on overdrive!
Is she actually cheating? You seem to have convinced yourself, but have no facts or admission or anything for that matter, apart from your own suspicous mind working on overdrive!
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What he/she said. Good luck
Unless I've missed something fundamental, you seem to be preparing to throw this girl out on the street for something you have no proof about?
Is she actually cheating? You seem to have convinced yourself, but have no facts or admission or anything for that matter, apart from your own suspicous mind working on overdrive!
From his side it should be ended. He does not trust her and that will be very hard to regain. He would need to tell her what he has been doing and that would be hard to forgive.
The relationship is on the road to nowhere, so why let things get very very bad before it ending?
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Unless I've missed something fundamental, you seem to be preparing to throw this girl out on the street for something you have no proof about?
Is she actually cheating? You seem to have convinced yourself, but have no facts or admission or anything for that matter, apart from your own suspicous mind working on overdrive!
Do I have no proof ? why suddenly so many text's sent but obviously deleted, why massive call times each day but name deleted?
why is she acting so different?
why is she saying these things to me ?
why is she now thinking the holiday will be a waste of time?
why has she suddenly after 368 days suddenly gone from texting me 20+ times a day to 4 or 5?
why is she cold towards me.
why is there an air in my own home.
She has known what I do in my career for over 7 years. So it is no surprise what I work.
Why has her drive in the bedroom deminished.
Have you spoken to her about any of the points mentioned? You need to sit her down and confront her, if she says everything is ok, you need to insist that it isn't and you want to know whats going on and where the relationship is going, if you talk to her more she is more likely to open up.
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That's the most telling sign of all. If I re-check this thread tommorrow and see you pussy-footing about after KNOWING all the signs are there I think i'll unsubscribe to this thread and add you to my ignore list... it will be too painful to read.
Stop being such a wet bloody blanket confront her once and for all tonight. There will be other women, she is not the only one in the world.
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