I think she is cheating……

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Magic_x_uk said:
Even my travel insurance doesn’t cover "break up's" lol Damn that £700 (just for flights as apartment is free) that’s money if we don’t go, wasted that I paid for.

To the people saying I don’t have concrete evidence. You are right in some respects. But come on, receiving calls and texts from someone you never speak about.

Would be concrete evidence if I saw her T-Mobile bill next month though wouldn’t it!?
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She may not mention him, as she may know how you would react.
For all you know he could be a gay guy.
 
Oh dear god I cant believe this thread is still going on. It's obvious that she wants to get with the new guy but isnt saying anything because she wants you as the fallback guy incase it doesnt work out. She's swinging from branch to branch.

I was in the same situation last year and it went on for 4 MONTHS with me going through hell not knowing if I was being paranoid, stupid, etc but I finally had enough and walked away. She came back trying to get with me a few months after and said she'd only slept with him "a few times" despite claiming she never did at the time! This was a lie anyway as it turns out he was over much more often! So NO she wont confess all when you ask her if anything is wrong. She will simply lie.

I was sleeping with my ex then her other bloke was coming over during the weeks I was away (long distance relationship). I didnt have evidence so went crazy thinking I was paranoid despite all the signs which were the same as you have. Then one day she was stupid enough to leave a huge email she'd sent him as a word document on her laptop I was using to web browse. I didnt take notice of it at the time and didnt open the document, but when I was looking at autotrader the next day I noticed the word document had disappeared! It was called "messages.doc" so I got suspicious and did a search for it. Found a folder full of word document emails so that was that sorted. It was kinda like a diary of cheating lol. She even claimed when I showed her the files that she "Had never sent them and just likes to write" so was lying right to the end...

I look back now and think how stupid I was for not seeing what was obvious. Dont do the same.
 
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Dont think she is "registered" on the My "T-Mobile" bit, wouldnt want to try and then suddenly she gets a text at work saying "welcome to T-Mobile, thanks for joining your account online" that may be a bit bad. Instead I'll do it later tonight. Maybe. Just so I am sure of course. Wouldn't want to go in without being 100% sure I am right about my concerns.
But I think I am
 
Magic_x_uk said:
Do I have no proof ? why suddenly so many text's sent but obviously deleted, why massive call times each day but name deleted?

why is she acting so different?
why is she saying these things to me ?
why is she now thinking the holiday will be a waste of time?

why has she suddenly after 368 days suddenly gone from texting me 20+ times a day to 4 or 5?

why is she cold towards me.
why is there an air in my own home.

She has known what I do in my career for over 7 years. So it is no surprise what I work.

Why has her drive in the bedroom deminished.
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Jesus Christ, it is so simple! She *IS* seeing someone behind your back and right up until the point where you asked her how your relationship was going a couple of days, ago as you posted, she thought you were totally oblivious to her affair. Now you even having theat conversation she knows you have rumbled her and the number is up. This is probably the clearest ever case in the history of mankind of a bird wanting the thrill of a danger shag whilst simulatneously wanting to hang on to her safe money pit.

I get the impression from your not so subtle veiled threats of revenge that you are probably quite a quiet emotional bloke who keeps things bottled up. The way you have been suggesting things like burning her cards etc on here is actually you subconciously or conciously asking for permission from us to do something bad to her. Given what appears to be a pressure system building up inside of you, you should be very wary of it blowing up and you doing something serious which would make your reputation would almost certainly be unrecoverable in that area at the very least, or at worst you land you in serious trouble if you end up doing something violent. The call it a crime of passion in legal terms. This thread may well become evidence in the near future unless you gracefully back out of this relationship pronto.
 
Magic_x_uk said:
Even my travel insurance doesn’t cover "break up's" lol Damn that £700 (just for flights as apartment is free) that’s money if we don’t go, wasted that I paid for.
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Just get a friend to go with you! It's £50 at most to get the names on the flight changed over. If none of them are intrested you could easily pull a beast at the weekend and offer her out for a free holiday, they'll jump on the offer! They'll even jump on you everynight of the holiday, even on the blob.
 
Sounds like this is one ****** up 'relationship'

You sound like M15 on a mission to monitor, and be unindated with information about the target. Sorry, i mean your girlfriend!

Let it go, stop reading texts, stop reading logs, stop looking at phone bills and trust the damn girl!

You sound like your getting worked up over probably nothing, my girlfriend texts guys all the time and I dont for one minute think the minute my back is turned she is out boning him! - Just, no!

She is with you for a reason. Think about it.
 
Bubo said:
Jesus Christ, it is so simple! She *IS* seeing someone behind your back and right up until the point where you asked her how your relationship was going a couple of days, ago as you posted, she thought you were totally oblivious to her affair. Now you even having theat conversation she knows you have rumbled her and the number is up. This is probably the clearest ever case in the history of mankind of a bird wanting the thrill of a danger shag whilst simulatneously wanting to hang on to her safe money pit.

I get the impression from your not so subtle veiled threats of revenge that you are probably quite a quiet emotional bloke who keeps things bottled up. The way you have been suggesting things like burning her cards etc on here is actually you subconciously or conciously asking for permission from us to do something bad to her. Given what appears to be a pressure system building up inside of you, you should be very wary of it blowing up and you doing something serious which would make your reputation would almost certainly be unrecoverable in that area at the very least, or at worst you land you in serious trouble if you end up doing something violent. The call it a crime of passion in legal terms. This thread may well become evidence in the near future unless you gracefully back out of this relationship pronto.
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I can 200% assure you I wouldnt do anything stupid to a women. I would never hurt a women physically, you took that very very the wrong way.

I'm a nice guy, just wanted to be treated well and honestly.

if it ends, it will be tears, heartache, sleepless nights for a while. Less money in the house, quieter in the house. BUT I wont feel like I feel right now!

As for the burning of credit cards, I was joking!
 
No pictures or anything like that. Too old for that :)

I dont want revenge, but why does part of me want revenge, from silly things like returning her clothes to the shop, to letting her work know what's been going on with 2 of there staff, in works time. To even letting her parents know how low her daughter has stopped!

Saying that, she may have confided in them already, who knows
 
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I see no progress here. I see no evidence of this situation changing for the better or any solid attempt on your part to sort this out. You are just going over old ground with a few new bits of information now and then which, to be perfectly honest, does nothing to help resolve your current situation.

I do sympathise, believe me. But all I see is A LOT of talk and no action.

There is however A LOT of good advice in this thread. You really should have confronted her by now. I simply do not understand why you haven't done so. I’m not talking about the "evidence" you may have regarding the potential cheating lark but the state of the relationship itself. Just simply talking about your relationship with her may reveal hidden truths naturally, while although painful to hear, will provide a certain amount of relief for yourself and your partner.

Not knowing, as I'm sure you understand, is one of the hardest elements you have had to deal with. However, you don’t know what she’s going through. She could be just as traumatised about this situation and is desperate for a way out. The fact that you both live together makes things that much more difficult.

This is end game. Perhaps meeting somewhere neutral would help, go for a quiet drink somewhere and lay all cards on the table. Simply ask her “Do you want to work things out, try and salvage our relationship or call it a day? Be honest.” Or something along those lines.

In closing, I feel there is too much mistrust, doubt and a sprinkling of paranoia (perhaps justified, perhaps not) for this relationship to continue. In the future, who knows… time does wonders for all kinds of emotional ailments.

Please, for your own mental health if nothing else, just get this sorted. NOW.
 
Bubo said:
This is probably the clearest ever case in the history of mankind of a bird wanting the thrill of a danger shag whilst simulatneously wanting to hang on to her safe money pit.
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Dont know if its appropriate or not, but that just made me lol. no offence intended to the op. just the comment itself made me laugh.
 
Bubo said:
Jesus Christ, it is so simple! She *IS* seeing someone behind your back and right up until the point where you asked her how your relationship was going a couple of days, ago as you posted, she thought you were totally oblivious to her affair. Now you even having theat conversation she knows you have rumbled her and the number is up. This is probably the clearest ever case in the history of mankind of a bird wanting the thrill of a danger shag whilst simulatneously wanting to hang on to her safe money pit.

I get the impression from your not so subtle veiled threats of revenge that you are probably quite a quiet emotional bloke who keeps things bottled up. The way you have been suggesting things like burning her cards etc on here is actually you subconciously or conciously asking for permission from us to do something bad to her. Given what appears to be a pressure system building up inside of you, you should be very wary of it blowing up and you doing something serious which would make your reputation would almost certainly be unrecoverable in that area at the very least, or at worst you land you in serious trouble if you end up doing something violent. The call it a crime of passion in legal terms. This thread may well become evidence in the near future unless you gracefully back out of this relationship pronto.
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Hang on a minute Sherlock, that's a bit much!
 
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