child support agency have given me two options:

rjkoneill said:
dont get me wrong - i love my daughter more than i could tell you

i have no regrets other than the circumstances being different [which i wont go into]

its just the situation this company has put me in

and the fact they speak to you like you are dirt
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The CSA are a mess and always have been. It's stupid that you have been put in this position. Punishing the people who want to help their children and not being able to find those who want to get out of their responsibilities. :mad:
 
Heatsinked said:
Sell your PC and any luxuries / other stuff you can do without until your back on your feet.
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i sold my 360 the other day
i have 3 dvds left

i cant sell my pc as it was a gift from my dad
and i cant get rid of the ps3 as it was a gift from my girlfriend

everything else i own is worth jack
 
If possible do everything you can to avoid the CSA

My family were having problems with them because they were taking payments from my stepdaughters dad and they were not being passed onto her (her mother). Also the amount they were taking was a lot more than we were getting.

After speaking to the alcoholic scumbag that is my stepdaughters biological father we reached an agreement to pay a set amount a month which was reasonable to both parties. We informed the CSA that we had made our own agreement, filled in some forms -job done.

She now gets her money reliably (amazing for this idiot) and he doesn'y have the CSA skimming money off the top.

Any way for you two to make an amicable agreement like this? Using a middle man (mums, friends whoever) makes it dooable even if things between you are not amicable.
 
SB118 said:
That bit always confuses me, when does the other parent become responsible for the upkeep of the child?
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This is it, surely the other parent has responsibilty as well. i know kids are expensive, but not that expensive. God forbid if i ever get in a situation like this i will do anything i can not to get the CSA involved.
 
What's the problem with paying it monthly if you can afford to weekly?

I strongly suggest you sort something with the mother to remove the CSAs involvement, there's no need for them to be sticking their oar in and causing you problems.
 
its goint to just throw me into a massive pit of debt

i see no way of getting out of it

i owe money on too many things to want more debt

im just facing facts that i need to get out of my house and start over

i just feel that everything is being taken away from me no matter how hard i try

i dont see why i should sell my stuff i worked hard for just to get me by
i go to work every day

i do housecalls on the side fixing broadband and pc problems

i do everything in my power to make sure that i keep my head above water and that £35 a week is paid to my daughter

but that obviously isnt enough
 
Speak to the mother of your child, explain the situation - Maybe get a mediator involved. Don't forget that the payments to her are likely to be disrupted more if she goes through the CSA.

Good luck fella.
 
Janesy B said:
you're only paying £140 a month, it sounds like you are in finacial troubles anyway
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im not exactly mr rich if thats what you want to call it

but £140 out of £850 is a lot when minimum outgoings [not including maintenance] are £750 without food
 
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