Who was her brothers mate, who kept telling her stuff like how she was fit, and wanted a bit of her, ringing her constantly. yeh right.
Stfu.
I think she is cheating……
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Who was her brothers mate, who kept telling her stuff like how she was fit, and wanted a bit of her, ringing her constantly. yeh right.
Stfu.
[FnG]magnolia;11963509 said:Remember, just before finishing with her and you're banging her back door in, to tell her about the 14 page thread you made about this on the intarwebs. That'll take the sting out of the tale.
So to speak
Nothing like a good rodeo
This is where the line should be drawn. Do you really need more convincing, or are you just going in search of a ever-so-slight possibility, because you dont want to accept what's most likely going on?
Just how it looks to me..
Fair play, i wasn't to know what the situation was.
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So her speaking to a man means she being ploughed out by him on a regs? If this was the case i'd be getting it every night but sadly this isn't the case
So you expect me to sit around when he phoned her constantly and sometimes was around at her house due to being her bros mate, and telling her how she looked fit and how i wasnt "good enough" for her.
Come off it.
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I lol'd - maybe he should tell as he is banging her back door in? Salt in the wound so to speak
Play a game of rodeo
Edit: Damn too slow
No problem, i did it because i love her im still with her today and she realised what it looked like from my perspective, he doesnt ring her, he said he'd contact her again in 6 months to see if she was single, she said dont bother i believe.
1 and a Half years down the line and still going strong.
EDIT: i did mention to her if i see him at her house i would beat the crapola out of him in front of her brother and her family, because he angered me that much.
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Your post wasn't exactly clear about that, though. It reads like "I caught my lass talking to some bloke so I put an end to it, proper like."
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To the OP.
I was with a girl for 5 years - we had bought a house together and were seriously starting to settle down.
She got sent to a site job about 180 miles away so she was up there during the week. Over time things started to get strange and in the end she walked out - very amicable, but she said "things just aren't working" etc.
I was knocked for 6 for several months, but in the end a relationship has to work for both people. In my case I knew it was failing but she had the courage to act on that rather than just try to keep things going for appearances sake.
I look back on it with mixed emotions - it was my first real relationship and that will always be special, secondly I am so much better off now than I would have been had we got married, had kids and then split.
So my advice (10 years later) would always be face up, don't put off.
If you are worried then you are not getting the reassurance from her that you need. Talk to her about this issue. You don't need to be specific "are you boning that guy at work", but just general - "I'm not happy at the moment with how things are going, I feel that I am not central to your life". Whatever you do *talk* to her, if the relationship has any chance you must be able to communicate with each other. If you can't talk about the feelings you have the relationship *will* fail at some point.
I hope things work out for the best. Don't feel that you are less of a man for not taking the 'alpha male' route, but you do need to address the feelings you have in some way sooner rather than later.
I was with a girl for 5 years - we had bought a house together and were seriously starting to settle down.
She got sent to a site job about 180 miles away so she was up there during the week. Over time things started to get strange and in the end she walked out - very amicable, but she said "things just aren't working" etc.
I was knocked for 6 for several months, but in the end a relationship has to work for both people. In my case I knew it was failing but she had the courage to act on that rather than just try to keep things going for appearances sake.
I look back on it with mixed emotions - it was my first real relationship and that will always be special, secondly I am so much better off now than I would have been had we got married, had kids and then split.
So my advice (10 years later) would always be face up, don't put off.
If you are worried then you are not getting the reassurance from her that you need. Talk to her about this issue. You don't need to be specific "are you boning that guy at work", but just general - "I'm not happy at the moment with how things are going, I feel that I am not central to your life". Whatever you do *talk* to her, if the relationship has any chance you must be able to communicate with each other. If you can't talk about the feelings you have the relationship *will* fail at some point.
I hope things work out for the best. Don't feel that you are less of a man for not taking the 'alpha male' route, but you do need to address the feelings you have in some way sooner rather than later.
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Whilst that's all very well and good, it's not high enough on the e-drama scale which this thread merits, no deserves! Back to the OP's issue.
I didnt want to get into the ins and outs of it, because it still winds me up today to think about what he was playing about at. But i did make it clear he was ringing constantly which a normal male friend would not do. unless they had some sort of special friend relationship going on, non sexual. or if he was gay.
Thats bang out of order, the 6 months comment would have made me flip totally. I think i would have smashed a brick into his face.
This was better than any TV soap any day, reminded me of myself.
SHE IS CHEATING AND WILL DUMP YOU!!!!
I suspected my ex of cheating a few years ago. Installed a keylogger onto my laptop, her msn was full off cheating emails (times they were meeting for a shag etc). I even pretended to be her and asked the bloke how he felt about me (her), he said everything I needed to know.
The funny part was when I confronted her, she deleted all her emails and said nothing happened. The keylogger had copied them all without her knowing and when I showed them to her she was speechless.
I kicked her out, felt terrible for months (as I loved her). I now look back and lol at how dumb I was.
If you need to keylog it's already over.
SHE IS CHEATING AND WILL DUMP YOU!!!!
I suspected my ex of cheating a few years ago. Installed a keylogger onto my laptop, her msn was full off cheating emails (times they were meeting for a shag etc). I even pretended to be her and asked the bloke how he felt about me (her), he said everything I needed to know.
The funny part was when I confronted her, she deleted all her emails and said nothing happened. The keylogger had copied them all without her knowing and when I showed them to her she was speechless.
I kicked her out, felt terrible for months (as I loved her). I now look back and lol at how dumb I was.
If you need to keylog it's already over.
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Would you have ripped it out the wall first?
Yes exactly, telling her he'd be in contact after 6 months to see if she'd split with me or i with her, and to see if she was available kinda did it for me in terms of anger, he doesnt go around the house no more i believe. Also the "Not good enough" , "he doesnt deserve you" finished it off. Thats why i had to step in.
With my teeth
Of course!
@ the OP.
If you love her that much sit down and have a CONVERSATION, just say do you think things are working out etc, i feel like we've been distant and i dont wanna be etc, and if she says "Im seeing somebody else" or something of that effect, then you will know, if she questions it, and asks why you say these things? and is saying she thinks everything is fine, i wouldnt be so worried, she must have a heart afterall.
What would knowing how long she stayed on the phone to him or how many texts she sent to him prove?
I used to call my friends for hours at a time. I text one more than I text my boyfriend some days. It just proves she's spoken to him. Why does that have to be so sinister?
After a while the honeymoon period wears off maybe she's just realised that she isn't happy anymore. A year isn't that long a time to get to know someone. There doesn't have to be any alterior motives to wanting to break up with you, maybe she just doesn't love you anymore and doesn't know how to say it as she knows how you'll react. Maybe this guy is just a friend and is a shoulder to lean on for her.
If you want to know the truth just ask. Don't go around snooping and "waiting for evidence". Be a man and just talk to her about it. Evidently your communication with each other has diminshed!
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