Oh dear what have I done (potential relationship disaster within)

You *could* tell your girlfriend you want some time to think about things, then try it on with this other girl, see how it goes, if not so well tell your girlfriend you miss her and get back together.

I have done this in the past, however that I did and it worked doesn't change the fact that it's morally reprehensible and you fully deserve to be savagely mocked for having no balls if you do this.

Decide what you want and stick to it.
 
What I personally was not suggesting he does was sleep with this girl whilst staying with his gf. I suggested he pick and not hurt everyone involved which is where he is heading fast!

Either stick or try new things. The fact you are thinking about it should suggest maybe things with the gf are not going so well and you need to talk to her a bit more?
 
This one is so easy.

1 - If you want to stay with your girlfriend, text/email this other girl saying sorry for messing her about but you do have a gf. End of story, never speak to her again.

2 - If you want to go out with her [she is clearly very interested in you] dump your gf.

Option 3.

Say you live with your gf but that things are complex but you need to move on from her and really like her [new girl]. This means you will get the new girl, find out where she lives [easy enough after the first time she's ridden your meat machete] and stay there lots having made arrangements to move out of your present place.
 
Lysander said:
This one is so easy.

1 - If you want to stay with your girlfriend, text/email this other girl saying sorry for messing her about but you do have a gf. End of story, never speak to her again.
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Until you next go through security and she shouts at the top of her voice "THIS ONES GOT A GUN!" ... or something
 
You wouldn't have said you were single if you had a proper relationship with your girlfriend. Your interest has seemingly swayed elsewhere. It happens. Dump your girlfriend and take it further. Don't cheat on her though; show her some respect for those 4 years.
 
bigredshark said:
You *could* tell your girlfriend you want some time to think about things, then try it on with this other girl, see how it goes, if not so well tell your girlfriend you miss her and get back together.
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Don't do this, in my experience once you "take a break" from your relationship it'll never get back to how it was before.

Come clean to the girl, tell her you are actually in a relationship but didn't want to say so in case she didn't want to meet, or something along those lines, if she is as nice as you say she should understand, there's no reason you can't be friends just make it clear to both her and yourself that it won't go any further than that for the present time and you won't do anything that might jeopardize your relationship. Well that's what I'd do anyway. I don't think you should leave your current partner as you might find a few months down the line that's shes a nutter and have serious regrets that you threw away a great relationship with someone you love.
 
You've been with your gf for 4 years? Why aren't you married? You can make any excuse you like, but if she was "the one" you would have committed to each other long ago. I married my wife exactly 6 months after first meeting her - despite there being 100's of obstacles.

Go and meet this other girl - see if you click. That's how life works.....you meet people....form relationships.....meet new people......form new relationships.....people get hurt along the way. You're not married - it's OK to check out other people. If you think your current gf is really the one then stop stalling and take yourself off the market! If not, you have to go check this other girl out. Maybe she's "the one".
 
Curio said:
You've been with your gf for 4 years? Why aren't you married?
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Maybe he doesn't want to get married... I know I don't but that doesn't stop me having a fulfilling relationship.


Curio said:
Go and meet this other girl - see if you click. That's how life works.....you meet people....form relationships.....meet new people......form new relationships.....people get hurt along the way. You're not married - it's OK to check out other people.
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What tripe.
 
L33, this situation reminds me of the book/film "High Fidelity".

Long story short, guy has long-term relationship issues and ditches his EX. Only to go around a bit and realise grass isn't always greener.

Towards the end of the film, the guy has a revalation about relationships and basically how other woman can look better than what you got; because its a bit of a fantasy in your head and some lusting. What you don't see is the relationship 5 years down the road with all the problems and day-to-day relationship stuff.

It is a pretty accurate (I think) description of how men see things really.

What you have to take into account now is your girlfriend, as someone previously said, take the new girl out of the equation and then put yourself in reverse. What if your GF came to YOU with this? How would you feel? What would you do?

Are you ready to throw 4 years away with a girl that you 'love'?

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Either all of the above..... or hit it tbh.
 
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