Poll: Who has cheated on their partner?

Who has cheated on their partner?

  • Yes

    Votes: 114 19.9%

  • No

    Votes: 458 80.1%
  • Total voters
    572
G|mp said:
At least you can discuss it though, if manoz knew he was going to be offended by it why did he even click the thread?

I was man enough to admit i did it and whilst being slightly ashamed of it it didn't stop me enjoying it at the time

Nobody got hurt :)
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I wasn't offended till I saw the stats and that I couldn't see until I clicked the thread. You claim your man enough to admit it, sure there's a degree a truth in that(if you were man enough you wouldn't of done it in the first place) but boasting about it isn't helping you. Being only "slightly ashamed" makes my point only more valid.

The getting hurt/not getting hurt issue is only half the issue, I wouldn't expect you to know that though
 
manoz said:
I wasn't offended till I saw the stats and that I couldn't see until I clicked the thread. You claim your man enough to admit it, sure there's a degree a truth in that(if you were man enough you wouldn't of done it in the first place) but boasting about it isn't helping you. Being only "slightly ashamed" makes my point only more valid.

The getting hurt/not getting hurt issue is only half the issue, I wouldn't expect you to know that though
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Grow a dick ffs


Also who boasted about it?

I didn't at any point
 
I've cheated and been the cause of someone cheating. I'm not proud of it but it was fun at the time.

Surprisingly, both my ex and the girl i cheated on her with still talk to me :confused:
 
DampCat said:
Yes, with my current one, on my ex. It's possible to meet the right people at the wrong time.
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If i understood that correctly, did you cheat on her for long, or did you realise the one you were with wasn't "the one" for want of a better phrase.

i.e. did you think the spark had gone with the current gf, see this new girl, started chatting etc, then had doubts about current relationship, and talked and decided to end the relationship?

The reason I'm asking is, I'm trying to understand why people cheat. There are some just blatantly obvious cheating like Gimp (no offence lol) who did it for "fun" which I can only put down to being young and immature.

Then there are some who feel the "spark" has gone from their current relationship, and seem to try and find a new "spark" instead of confronting their current gf with their feelings and trying to "re-ignite" the spark with their current gf.
 
RDM said:
That would pretty much count as cheating to me.

The general rule I use is "Can I tell my partner what I did without her getting upset?" If the answer is no, then it would be cheating. And no, never have, never will, would end one relationship before starting another (though hope never to have to do that).
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Meh I'm not perfect but I'm young and so is she. Worse things have happened at sea.
 
-westy- said:
I'll raise my hand. Its not something i'm proud of, but not something i'm going to lie about either. But then she cheated on me, so what goes around comes around.

I can honestly say that i'm a better person now, than I was then.
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Here here. *raises hand* also. People make mistakes. As long as you learn from them, there is hope for you yet :)

*voted yes* :(

manoz said:
...(if you were man enough you wouldn't of done it in the first place)...
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Some of the replies in this thread are rather naive :rolleyes:
 
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ttreaders said:
If you cheat on your partner then you shouldn't be with them simple as that.
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Uh, no. Depends entirely on the situation. My girlfriend forgave me and we got back together last November. Things are better than ever and she has helped me become a better person.

It's not always black and white. If it was, things would be much more simpler and there wouldn't be as many threads about relationships and the like in this forum :)
 
ljt said:
If you feel the "spark" has gone out of the current relationship, then talk to your partner first, either sort it out with them or call it a day, and then find someone else.
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Unfortunately life sometimes goes down the route that you cannot talk, for whatever reason, then things get worse steadily. Many many many relationships hit this point unfortunately.
 
ljt said:
The reason I'm asking is, I'm trying to understand why people cheat. .
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You are better off reading one of the many specialist books on this subject (and not just one by a bitter woman) rather than expecting people here to really give you decent answers (not just through stupidity but also because a lot of people here really wont know the real reason as to why they cheated (because they are unable to admit it to themselves)).
 
ljt said:
If i understood that correctly, did you cheat on her for long, or did you realise the one you were with wasn't "the one" for want of a better phrase.

i.e. did you think the spark had gone with the current gf, see this new girl, started chatting etc, then had doubts about current relationship, and talked and decided to end the relationship?

The reason I'm asking is, I'm trying to understand why people cheat. There are some just blatantly obvious cheating like Gimp (no offence lol) who did it for "fun" which I can only put down to being young and immature.

Then there are some who feel the "spark" has gone from their current relationship, and seem to try and find a new "spark" instead of confronting their current gf with their feelings and trying to "re-ignite" the spark with their current gf.
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I had the same situation myself, I really dont know why your talking about 'sparks', dont be so naive, sometimes people in a relationship that has run its natural course dont have such an easy way out and have to stay plodding on due to financial circumstances or more, if 2 lives are heading in different directions then nothing will get it back to how it was, people change, and you cant decide when you will meet someone else, it just happens

also many people are conscious of the fact youre a long time dead and dont want to miss any part of life, who are you to judge how they behave, what people dont know doesnt hurt them, cheating over a long period of time with the same person is different, and maybe this is what youre referring to, but **** happens, everybodys lives are different
 
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finga said:
I had the same situation myself, I really dont know why your talking about 'sparks', dont be so naive, sometimes people in a relationship that has run its natural course dont have such an easy way out and have to stay plodding on due to financial circumstances or more, if 2 lives are heading in different directions then nothing will get it back to how it was, people change, and you cant decide when you will meet someone else, it just happens

also many people are conscious of the fact youre a long time dead and dont want to miss any part of life, who are you to judge how they behave, what people dont know doesnt hurt them, cheating over a long period of time with the same person is different, and maybe this is what youre referring to, but **** happens, everybodys lives are different
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I wasn't judging anybody, I'm not here to condemn, I am here to try and understand peoples motives.

I merely used the lack of "spark" as one situation where cheating seems to be apparent, I'm well aware there are many other situations. Please do not confuse my observations of some people as me judging them
 
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ljt said:
I wasn't judging anybody, I'm not here to condemn, I am here to try and understand peoples motives.

I merely used the lack of "spark" as one situation where cheating seems to be apparent, I'm well aware there are many other situations. Please do not confuse my observations of some people as me judging them
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stop with the sparks then lol, wtf is a spark, i have 'relationships'

it was more of a statement than an accusation of you actually judging, dont take it personally;)
 
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