Are you in a relationship with a person of a different ethnic minority to yours?

Nitefly said:
Its their culture, but from a western point of view, yes. It would be unfair to lable them as such because it simply is following tradition.
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I find it hard to accept such things when westerners are called racists for such menial things, yet different cultures are allowed to hate and slander western people to their hearts content and it's ok.

But I won't be losing any sleep over it, unless I happen to end up in a situation such as Ben's.

Gilly said:
More prejudice than racism. More superiority complex than anything I guess.
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Yes, I suppose that's more accurate. Must be very difficult to be faced with such views from someones family.
 
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Fubsy said:
I find it hard to accept such things when westerners are called racists for such menial things, yet different cultures are allowed to hate and slander western people to their hearts content and it's ok.
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If you say so, personally I don't think either are ok.
 
Fubsy said:
I find it hard to accept such things when westerners are called racists for such menial things, yet different cultures are allowed to hate and slander western people to their hearts content and it's ok.
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There is a bIG difference between not wanting to date/marry someone of a different culture and hating them. If someone white doesn't want to go out with me, does that automatically make them racist? Of course not, you're missing the point.
 
DB_SamX said:
There is a bIG difference between not wanting to date/marry someone of a different culture and hating them. If someone white doesn't want to go out with me, does that automatically make them racist? Of course not, you're missing the point.
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Oh hang on, I see it as they wouldn't go out with you for the sole reason that you are from a different culture/colour/religion, that's what I'm on about.
Say they go "sorry i can't go out with you because you are black." That's a bit wrong if that's their main reason.

If they don't fancy you, then they just don't : /
 
Well it seems I was wrong.

If by tradition they shun people from differing cultures then that must make it alright then.
 
Nitefly said:
My ex-'gf' was pakistani muslim... non-practising mind.

I actually thought she was a spanish Jew :o
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Bit similar to my situation. My wife is pakistani muslim (again not practicing although some of her family are). She looks spanish too.

Half her family love me. The other half hate me because I'm white (she never speaks to that side of the family now). My dad hated her because she's not white (he's dead now but I didn't talk to him for years because of it). That's their problem not ours. Our lives are richer and theirs are poorer because of it.
 
Fubsy said:
Well it seems I was wrong.

If by tradition they shun people from differing cultures then that must make it alright then.
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Alright, maybe it is in a way racist. I just don't like using that word because as soon as it is hinted most people are suddenly sparked into some sort of holy crusade against it. They choose not to marry outside their Caste, outside their religion, and indeed other cultures - and that's up to them, doesn't make them some sort of evil Nazi culture.
 
No, but my wife is. She married a white Australian.

I get along fine with the inlaws.

:)
 
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Gackt said:
Alright, maybe it is in a way racist. I just don't like using that word because as soon as it is hinted most people are suddenly sparked into some sort of holy crusade against it. They choose not to marry outside their Caste, outside their religion, and indeed other cultures - and that's up to them, doesn't make them some sort of evil Nazi culture.
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Well it's one thing when it's their own personal choice, but it seems in this case that's being forced onto something else by putting pressure on their children not to date people of other races.
 
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