Platonic relationship weirdness?

Mate, stop trying to justify yourself. Do (or dont do!) what ever you want.
All that about discussing other guys, etc is female psychy designed to kick you into gear...spirit of competition, and all that. She's into you. I have female friends but we dont grope each other on the settee, under a blanket, all weekend!
 
KaHn said:
My god why don't you just actually open up to the fact that you are actually falling for this girl, no matter what you say about not wanting anything and her appearing to want the same, you spend so much time with each other and flirt all the time that something is moving forward wether the two of you know it (if she didn't I would check to see if she was retarded as women know these things long before us), unless you actually talk to her about the feelings you have then you will never know, she might get sick and find someone else to play "hide the pork length" with.

This is my impression of your screwed up love life and nurturing experiences with this girl, without knowing either of you but that is the way I would read the signs which you two are giving off.

KaHn
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But we don't spend all our time together.

We didn't see eachother for 6 years, chatted for 3 nights on MSN, I spent the weekend with her, and we have chatted on the phone for a bit twice this week.

I've had the same amount of contact with some other friends over the same time period.
 
krooton said:
Sort of like the comforting aspects of a relationship that you tend to miss after being single for a while. General physical contact, cuddles, sharing a bed, but everything with absolutely no sexual/physical connotation.
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Did you do each others hair and exfoliate too? :p

Seriously though that sounds like a pretty nice situation to be in. So long as you're sure she wasn't puting it out signals that you missed.
 
z0mbi3 said:
Did you do each others hair and exfoliate too? :p

Seriously though that sounds like a pretty nice situation to be in. So long as you're sure she wasn't puting it out signals that you missed.
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Which in itself would be a problem.

If I were to act on said signals, and they didn't actually exist, it would mess stuff up.

If I don't, and there are signals, she might get tired of waiting and move on.

Or there are none, and it is just an uncommon situation that can continue as is.

Ah, the wonders of life, ey?
 
Look mate this is simple, you are both on the rebound.

If you sleep together it will no doubt be nice as it sounds like your relationship should probably have gone that way 6 years ago, but you still have to bear in mind that one or both of you will be having rebound sex so it probably won't last.

So long as you are going in with a credible no-strings-attached attitude you won't get hurt when it starts breaking up.

Good luck either way.
 
Moley said:
Look mate this is simple, you are both on the rebound.

If you sleep together it will no doubt be nice as it sounds like your relationship should probably have gone that way 6 years ago, but you still have to bear in mind that one or both of you will be having rebound sex so it probably won't last.

So long as you are going in with a credible no-strings-attached attitude you won't get hurt when it starts breaking up.

Good luck either way.
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Fair enough, but how would she be rebounding if she split from her ex a year ago?

I'm sure I'll have moved on from my ex within a year.
 
Sounds to me like you're asking our permission to tap her.

You've already said she's "hot", and now you're trying to convince us (yourself?) that it's not a rebound thing, so you fancy her and if you did tap, it wouldn't be on the rebound...

I'd just relaaax a little bit if I were you - do what you want to do and do NOT take advice from the intarweb.

And this thread is still fairly worthless without pix, without knowing the objective hawtness of the intended target I can't offer you any advice (which you should ignore, but I'll give it all the same) anyway...

:)
 
krooton said:
Fair enough, but how would she be rebounding if she split from her ex a year ago?

I'm sure I'll have moved on from my ex within a year.
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OK thats even clearer then, you're on the rebound and she's not.

Go ahead and sleep with her but be aware that out of the blue for no reason at all your feelings towards her could change - with you not wanting her anymore - and she could get hurt.

If you're going to do the deed it's only fair to warn her that she might just end up as rebound sex.

EDIT: Oh yeah, I nearly forgot - we need pics to be able to properly advise you....

:D
 
Fine fine fine, sheesh!

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nice one Krooton.
Not going to comment on what you should do expept that shes very pritty so try no to hurt her. But do what you feel is best normally things will pan out nicely that way
 
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"I'd hit it"

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Seriously now krooton, go hit it before someone from this forum does ;)
 
Mr^B said:
So, you don't find her attractive at all? Not even 1%?
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Of course I do, but you can see the attractiveness of someone objectively, I don't want to shag every attractive woman I know :p

If it were a different time with different circumstances, I wouldn't hesitate, but I cannot vouch for myself entirely given the situation, and I'd really rather not hurt her.

Plus she is fully aware of my situation, and I wouldn't have thought that people would go for those just recently out of a hectic relationship.
 
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