Bad News : My wife has had a miscarriage

Draeger

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Some of you guys will know we got married a week or so ago.

Last night, we were at friends hanging out, having a good time, we stayed over.

This morning at our friends house, my wife was feeling really ill with stomach pains and had woke to discover she had been bleeding overnight.

Went to hospital and had some tests done.

She has had a miscarriage. Was about 8 weeks pregnant.

We have to go back tomorrow to get a scan done to confirm it.

We are both gutted.

I don't really know what to feel. My head is just spinning.
 
It's a sad thing to hear but if she's young and fertile then there will be plenty more chances. I know that's not the most comforting sentence in the world but best of luck, just treat her like a uber-princess for the next few months!
 
Ice Rich said:
Really sorry to hear that, did she know she was pregnant?
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Hi,

Nope, we had no idea she was pregnant. She used a home pregnancy test kit a few weeks ago and it came up negative, then her period started again so there was no reason to believe she was carrying.

It's just strange, circumstance wise.

I don't think its hit us both home fully, yet.

After speaking to the hospital staff and a load of friends tonight, it appears that this is a pretty common thing. Happens to around 1 in 3 couples trying for a baby.

Thank you all for your kind words.

I don't even know why I'm posting this on the interweb!! Guess it helps to "talk".
 
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Really, really sorry for you both. It's awful and you both need lots of TLC. Don't forget that your wife's hormones will be all over the place for a while yet to add to the turmoil that will be going on. I know that it doesn't help, but so many first pregnancies end this way and it soesn't mean that it will happen next time.

A young lady over the road from me went through exactly the same thing in February this year and she is now 12 weeks pregnant and throwing up all over the place.

Best wishes to you both and remember that we are all here for you.
 
Draeger said:
After speaking to the hospital staff and a load of friends tonight, it appears that this is a pretty common thing. Happens to around 1 in 3 couples trying for a baby.
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Yup, pretty much everyone I know who has kids, or wants kids has had a miscarriage at some point. My mum had one quite late on between my sister and my brother, and my best mate suffered one recently. (my friend was only a few weeks gone like your wife)
 
My brother's wife miscarried in feb 06 and they had a son in January 07. Very sorry to hear about your wife, from what I can tell, it is much more common than I used to think. One of our best friends has been trying for a baby for 4 years now and it has been really hard on her, so I know there is now real bright side at the moment, but hopefully a child will follow for you both soon :)
 
sorry to hear that, not a nice thing at all.
My wife miscarried at about 8 or 9 weeks. Was the worst day of our lives, having to go to the hospital and having the scan. Knocked her back a fair bit mentally and emotionally.
But we now have 2 kids.
Reckon its the bodies way of getting ready.

Best advise i can say is to be there for her. lots of support is the best way to get through this.
 
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