Travelling - Girlfriend Issue

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Hi Guys,

I'm off travelling/working around asia soon but leaving behind my girlfriend of almost 2 years.

Has anyone else done something like this? It's going to be very hard not being able to see her or really talk to her whilst i'm there, time differences and costs of phone calls and that.

Anyone managed to survive something like this? We're going to be apart for 9 months although there is a slight chance that she'd be able to come and see me midway through.

This whole travelling thing seems like a one-off opportunity but leaving behind the girl i'm madly in love with is making me doubt it.

Any advice / thoughts / musings?

TY
 
JonoB, if you're going to post something like that, at least give a reason.

What use is that post to anyone? Really?
 
how comes shes not going with you?

i reckon 9 months apart would end the relationship
 
I lived 9 months in NZ while engaged other one was over here. If she is the one it will be okay. You cant not go on a once of a lifetime trip just because you will miss her after all if she is the one whats 9 months compared to the rest of your life.

If you re that worried take her with you?
 
if your girlfriend is as madly in love with you as you are with her, she will understand - she won't be happy about it but she'll definitely understand!

my friend Dazzy B went travelling around south america for 6 months (not quite 9) and hasn't seen his girlfriend once but they are still together
 
You have to evaluate what's more important. This trip (which personally if you're young I would consider extremely exciting and an invaluable part of your development) or being with your girl. I don't think it'll work for such a long period without seeing her, 2yrs is a long time. If she can join you for a bit it might be better, but you have to live your dream.
 
Just go. Get her to get Skype or something if you like, to talk to her for free.

Personally I'd just go and have the time of my life and not think about her, maybe send her a couple of e-mails now and then.
 
You could not go, but then few months down the line split up and then kick yourself for not going.

Or you can go, build on your career, and still have a hope of being with her.

I'd defo take the option of going. As the saying goes 'Its once in a lifetime' lol cheeeeeesy :p
 
She can't really come with, I'm going with a mate and we've already got employment and places to stay lined up.

I do see this trip as something very important, getting away for a bit is something I'm very keen to do.

I'm worried that if we are to break up, it would be purely because of me going away. I'm not too keen to spend the rest of my life wondering 'what if?' (dramatic, much?)
 
Don't worry, there are plenty of guys who will look after your girl while you're away ;)

I wouldn't go.
 
paradigm said:
I wouldn't go, but then I value love above all.
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This happened to a friend of mine after we finished college.

He went travelling and had been seeing his GF 1.5 years or so. Knowing his GF at the time (and not being so madly in love) I think they had a big discussion about it and decided to end it whilst things were amicable before he left.

It gave him the freedom to do what he wanted whilst he was out there and tbh I think he was a little bored of her by then anyway (good timing).

If you both care for each other as much as you say you do, then it shouldn't be a problem - 9 months isn't a long time in the grand scheme of things.
 
Dump her and then pick up some lady boy in Phuket, join a crazy new age commune in Goa, Squirt more bum gravy than you imagined you could ever hold in Phnom Penh. Come home having catalogued all the greatest experiences you are ever likely to have and if it's still meant to be you'll get back together.
 
Im in the same situation. Just recently i signed up to join the Royal Marines and ive got 32 weeks of training ahead of me. Of which i'll be lucky to see her atall. Its a tough decision but if you both love eachother, it'll work out just fine.

Best of luck.
 
00bob00 said:
if your girlfriend is as madly in love with you as you are with her, she will understand - she won't be happy about it but she'll definitely understand!

my friend Dazzy B went travelling around south america for 6 months (not quite 9) and hasn't seen his girlfriend once but they are still together
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Um. if my girlfriend, who i would marry tomorrow, went away for 9 months without me i wouldn't understand at all. I wouldnt be happy either.

In my personal opinion, you've got the rest of your life to go travelling. If travelling is that important to you, you'll make the chance next year, or the year after, or whenever. You'll make that chance when it's possible to share it with your girlfriend.

I'm not saying i'm right, i'm just saying that you've made this into a "what do i want more" situation, and somone is gonna get upset.
 
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