If a kid throws stones at other kinds they need beating, not told "you shouldn't do that love, now here's a big bag of sweets"
Why can't parents discipline their kids by means of a slap?
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If a kid throws stones at other kinds they need beating, not told "you shouldn't do that love, now here's a big bag of sweets"
Nah should have taken off and drove back home
Don't be ridiculous, I never suggested such things.
What is a slap if not hitting someone in the face?
Although why does every one blame somthing else, from society to sugar to parents?
Some kids are just ****s.
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As long as its open palm I doubt you'd get in any serious trouble.
I was getting off plane a little while ago and was standing in the aisle. I was wearing flipflops. I felt someone stand on my foot. I looked down and a tiny boy with lightup shoes was standing on my toes. I politely moved my foot. Audaciously, he put his foot right back on my toes. Instinctively, I gently placed my foot (which was about the size of his leg) on top of his, so he would understand. And then I burst out laughing.
I think how that pertains to slapping is obvious.
I think how that pertains to slapping is obvious.
There's some ridiculous statements being thrown about in this thread. I was never hit as a kid and I turned out fine - does that counter your arguments about you being hit and turning out fine? Nah didn't think so.
Saying that, I listened to my parents and they didn't need to resort to violence to earn my respect. If a parent hits a kid, they are telling their child that behaviour like that is acceptable.
Saying that, I listened to my parents and they didn't need to resort to violence to earn my respect. If a parent hits a kid, they are telling their child that behaviour like that is acceptable.
Thats the same argument parents use to absolve themselves of responsibility. Didn't they create their children? They're genetically linked, regardless of nurture.
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I got a few slaps across the back of my legs when I was a kid, albeit not the head etc. I'm fine, these new kids need to be smacked a little, but then again quite a lot of "off the rails" kids' parents are apathetic to their children and won't.
The govt. want a solution to end the wayward kids of today but won't condemn the obvious one.
The govt. want a solution to end the wayward kids of today but won't condemn the obvious one.
Never understood this.
If it's abuse, then a child would think it's acceptable because it's done out of no fault of their own.
Disciplining a child by a swift swipe on the back of the leg is an instinctive way of knowing from right and wrong.
What you said is exactly what the Daily mirror said back in 1999.
anyone who was hit isnt using the YOU MUST HIT YOUR KIDS arguement, its the YOU MUST PHYSICALLY DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILDREN IF ALL ELSE FAILS.
Some kids do not feel guilt or remorse etc like others do, they need to be punished in a way which does hurt them etc.
We all learn differently, some kids deserve to be hit, some kids dont.
Easy thing to do, give all kids a clip when they truly deserve it - the ones who dont need it wont get a clip, the ones who do will.
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Fair point, but then not standing up for yourself and just taking it isn't a brilliant lesson either. Although I wouldn't want my (hypothetical) kid(s) to be violent, I wouldn't want them to be wusses either.
please dont even entertain that quote as a fair point, it isnt.
The use of physical force in this case is different to the use of physical force of hitting someone for no reason.
Its like soldiers shooting civilians walking towards them for no reason, compared to soldiers shooting enemy combatants attacking them.
I have to agree with fluffmct. I've seen many examples of children becoming violent because parents use overly aggressive behaviour to try and discipline their kids.
Instead, I think it is our current level of society that has created today's brats. The economy has been in a boom since the 90s - parents have more money to spend, and they spend it on their children - many games, clothes etc that those parents never used to have when they were kids.
Instead, I think it is our current level of society that has created today's brats. The economy has been in a boom since the 90s - parents have more money to spend, and they spend it on their children - many games, clothes etc that those parents never used to have when they were kids.
Some kids do not feel guilt or remorse etc because they have been brought up in that way, often they'll feel like physical punishment means nothing because they get smacked for every little thing they do wrong.
If my dad had ever hit me I would have known that I had crossed the line beyond all lines, like putting myself and others at serious risk or something. I was brought up to think that physical punishment was wrong whereas most of the scum on the street think its fine. I'm from a very rough part of town so I've seen it first hand.
I have to say I agree with this. I was hit maybe twice as a child, it made me realise if I did something very wrong I should suffer a consequence, I didn't want to be hit, so I behaved. Made sense to me as a child. One thing that gets me these days is how restless all children seem to be, at restaurants or on trains parents don't hold enough authority to keep their kid sat down and behaving.
And I agree again but to the point where physical discipline is only an acceptable means of discipline given it is a last resort or upon the situation, quite a lot of parents would just hit because it's an easy way out, which is completely unacceptable.
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There is a line though. If a kid does go off the rails though what are you meant to do ground them? Afraid its not always that simple.
Not being hit as a kid doesn't mean you won't stand up for yourself. Knowing when to physically defend yourself is more about knowing when you're in the right.