Why can't parents discipline their kids by means of a slap?

Problem is that, there is a possibility that you'll get reported by your own child for molesting or abuse.

Game over.
 
I was highly confused when I first came to the UK, if I was naughty I assumed I would be smacked (at school) but oh no, these days they send you to a naughty table to "reflect" on your actions. As far as I am concerned, hitting your child (within reason) is perfectly acceptable - though its a little odd in this case.
 
when i was younger i was slapped on my hand etc when i was naughty and it taught me not to do it. as i grew into my teens it changed to being kicked in the shins when i was naughty, and if me and my brother wudnt stop fighting my mum would bang our heads together. it worked.
and i shall certainly be disciplining my children by smacking. no naughty step in my house, a swift smack to the hand or bum.
 
im sure half of the stupid teenagers that phone the police when they get slapped would be much happier living in care instead :rolleyes:
 
As far as the OP goes, the girl in question is 13, which I think is too old to respond positively to physical discipline.

I have not yet been in a position where hitting my daughter was the right thing to do, hopefully I will never have to be.
 
Wolly liberal comment ahead.

I will never hit my son to discpline him. In my opinion, it only teaches children that violence is a way to solve problems and impose respect.

There are far easier ways to discpline any child: they all want things it may be a toy, or a food treat such as ice cream etc. Denying them these pleasures is carries far more influence on their behaviour. The key is to follow through with your threats and keeping your discpline. Smacking is, again in my opinion, just a excuse for lazy parenting, as the other tehcniques require far more work.
 
The law doesn't yet prevent reasonable chastisement afaik. A slap across the face is not reasonable, the problem with a teenage daughter is that a slap on the backside would probably have been reported as sexual assault in this case.
 
toyotacelicagt4 said:
One quote....

.... "No pain, no game"
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At least get the quote right! ffs!

And people have the nerve to say "you know what I mean" so it's fine; NO, some people are just thick.


To enter this debate regarding slapping/hitting: I think that if parents give time to their kids instead of games consoles and other electronic baby sitting devices, the children have a chance of learning how to behave and what is acceptable without a smack. I'm not against a short sharp shock, provided that it is not over used; it's a little like someone using the F word every other word, it loses its effectiveness and make 'em look like a ****.


One of the questions asked about youngsters on the street is, why aren't they at home? or what are the parents doing? ...... they are out because the parents haven't and won't give 'em any real quality time; they are too busy watching pap on tv or doing their own thing to worry about why their kids have grown up carrying knives on the street or in gangs or both.

Time and patience are the most precious gifts that you can give to your kids; nevermind their own tv, computer, ps3 or telephone, show them that you love them and take them to see nice things; they will grow up as nice people who will pass it on to the next generation.

Here endeth the lesson for today .. ;)
 
malfunkshun said:
Well singist, I doubt you have kids but having a few myself I agree with you completely.
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I have two 'boys' .... now 35 and 33 who are doing ok and know right from wrong (almost as much as one can expect).

I know that life is hard and my advice above is hard to follow when one is part of the rat race but that doesn't make it false/wrong.

regards.
 
Wow, if I had been that little ******'s dad then I would have slapped her for being a little ******, and slapped her into next ******* century for that Police stunt.

Children need to learn their place, they are not adults, and should not be treated as such.
 
If you were smacked as a child and it did you no harm - you probably will smack your own children.

If you were not smacked as a child and it did you no harm - you probably won't smack your own children.
 
fluffmct said:
If a parent hits a kid, they are telling their child that behaviour like that is acceptable.
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I got smacked on my legs when I badly misbehaved, otherwise I'd just get shouted at or sent to my room. Do I go around solving my problems with violence? No. Am I off the rails? No. Am I mentally scarred? No.

If a child needs to be disciplined and a smack here or there is the only way to do that, then it should be done.
 
I don't agree with smacking children. It doesn't teach them a good lesson, it teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to get someone to do what you want them to do.

It amuses me that some people think the way to get a child not to hit someone, is to hit them....
 
JodieG said:
I don't agree with smacking children. It doesn't teach them a good lesson, it teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to get someone to do what you want them to do.

It amuses me that some people think the way to get a child not to hit someone, is to hit them....
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You THINK it teaches them that violence is an acceptable way to do things, yet if you ask the majority of people who were smacked as a child, I can almost guarantee they won't think "To get this to happen, I must smack people!"

And you do realise that most children won't know what it is like to be smacked (until they are smacked) and so they don't know how they are making the other person feel?
 
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