Could you date someone that was not... lets say "bright"

Dracata · 10 Sep 2008 at 12:42

I did once (my first 'real' long term relationship in fact), we didn't really have a huge amount in common, and to put it bluntly i'd say she wasn't particularly intelligent, she was training to be a vet nurse and didn't really know about any other subjects, nor was she interested.

It made for a strained relationship in which I was probably a patronising **** sometimes, although it's hard not to be in certain circumstances..

Adnams Drinker · 10 Sep 2008 at 12:47

Depends on your precise definition of 'thick' or 'not bright' - the missus has always said that she's not as academically gifted compared to me. I'm not exactly an academic genius myself, but what I would say to that is that she far outstrips me in what we'd call basic common sense - I have a tendency to over-analyse or over-complicate, whereas she has an uncanny ability to cut through the crap and get straight to the root of the problem.

We like to think that what one lacks, the other provides and together we form a perfect whole

... ewww, pass me a bucket someone

TheMagicPirate · 10 Sep 2008 at 12:47

I was dating a girl last year and one of the main reasons I broke up with her was because she was less clever. She was a lovely girl and could perform daily tasks easily enough, but I couldn't have talked to her about the LHC, or the credit crunch or anything like that.

Shame really because she was pretty hot.

One of the thing I love about my current girlfriend is that she is intelligent, it's definitely something I look for in a woman.

oweneades · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:08

KittensCake said:
The problem is, if you're male, and you decide not to, that pretty much eliminates 99.9999999999% of women. You really have no choice.

Tunney · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:12

Intelligent women give me a hadron.

Solari · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:14

I did last time around - she had no common sense and was awful with financial matters. No earth shattering philosophical conversations but she was quite good with technology (no ann summers jokes, please

) and excellent in the sack. That lasted 2 years, but I'd never be with someone again who wasn't at least my equal mentally (not a difficult condition to satisfy, fortunately

)

DiscoDave · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:22

Nowadays intelligence is a very important element of attraction to me. I'm looking for proper relationships now and not flings so my next girlfriend would have to be someone that can hold a conversation, discuss complex topics and so on.

But then again intelligence comes in various different forms, I was never fantastic at school (C grade student) but after GCSE's I started to learn things that really interested me and I started getting A's and B's (and a 2:1 degree), so I guess there's academic intelligence and real-world intelligence, and probably many variants thereof.

Shoseki · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:25

DiscoDave said:
Nowadays intelligence is a very important element of attraction to me. I'm looking for proper relationships now and not flings so my next girlfriend would have to be someone that can hold a conversation, discuss complex topics and so on.

Maybe this is just me, but can't every girl do this? :confused:

Maybe not the same complex topics that you would like to talk about, but thats a difference in interests, not difference in abilities...

Dj_Jestar · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:28

No. Tried it before with a complete stunner, but she was as thick as what comes out the rear end of a pig. She didn't last.

DiscoDave · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:33

Shoseki said:
Maybe this is just me, but can't every girl do this?

Maybe not the same complex topics that you would like to talk about, but thats a difference in interests, not difference in abilities...

I suppose it depends on the subject ie philosophical, scientific, business or technology related

Admiral Huddy · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:36

Yes, I married my Wife

Actually, she is more intelligent than I am. I don't think she is confident enough to use it.

Shoseki · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:40

Dj_Jestar said:
No. Tried it before with a complete stunner, but she was as thick as what comes out the rear end of a pig. She didn't last.

So if you asked her about her favourite soap or celebrity, she'd have nothing to say about them? I always assumed they endlessly over-analysed how why when where and who they did what to...

Admiral Huddy said:
Yes, I married my Wife

Actually, she is more intelligent than I am. I don't think she is confident enough to use it.

I didn't realise intelligence had to be actively engaged through confidence

Dj_Jestar · 10 Sep 2008 at 13:43

Shoseki said:
So if you asked her about her favourite soap or celebrity, she'd have nothing to say about them? I always assumed they endlessly over-analysed how why when where and who they did what to...

I didn't realise intelligence had to be actively engaged through confidence

She was really dim. I mean really, really dim. Also phenomenally high maintenance. She ended up being a stripper and more recently one of the phone in girls on the live sex chat channels, because she literally has no other talent. Nothing at all. Just a pretty face, hot bod, and empty head. That is a completely honest description.

Conversations with her were difficult.. usually ended up going along the lines of (e.g. after cinema):

Me: So what did you think of the film?
Her: It was ok. The black bloke, what's his name?
Me: Samuel L Jackson
Her: He should be in more films.
Me: He's been in loads, and probably loads more to come.
Her: Oh, good. What's his name again?
Me: Samual L Jackson.
Her: Cool.
Me: So what about the plot?
Her: What plot?
Me: Of the film we just saw..
Her: Oh, dunno. I need some new shoes.
Me: *facepalms*

kiwi · 10 Sep 2008 at 14:16

Without rolling out the cliches, a tight body gets less tight but a sharp mind stays sharp

semi-pro waster · 10 Sep 2008 at 14:24

Shoseki said:
I didn't realise intelligence had to be actively engaged through confidence

If you aren't confident in your own abilities then you might not express your opinions even if the points you have to make are pertinent.

Dj_Jestar said:
Conversations with her were difficult.. usually ended up going along the lines of (e.g. after cinema):

I think that would drive me insane. I'm not demanding genius level, I'm not that smart myself but someone who can hold and follow a simple conversation is a good start.

pepps007 · 10 Sep 2008 at 16:35

i like em athick as xxxx simple reason they are more willing for role play if u know what i mean. thick all the way for me.

Admiral Huddy · 10 Sep 2008 at 16:37

Shoseki said:
I didn't realise intelligence had to be actively engaged through confidence

It doesn't but she doesn't have the confidence to use it.

Dj_Jestar · 10 Sep 2008 at 16:40

pepps007 said:
i like em athick as xxxx simple reason they are more willing for role play if u know what i mean. thick all the way for me.

What a meaningful life you must lead

Intelligent girls are more convincing in role play

allllec · 10 Sep 2008 at 16:56

Ben M said:
No, I don't have the patience, I'd end up strangling her.

Exactly what I was gonna say.

benneh · 10 Sep 2008 at 18:00

I have done, and it didn't work out. In-fact it was unbearable. The sex was great, and I did fancy her. But when the sexy shine dulled down I found myself left conversing with a near vegetable, and all was not well (it went on far too long, but in the end I did manage to break it off). My advise would be to stay away from the simpletons, unless you class yourself as a simpleton. No good can come of it.