is it better to be ignorant and moral ? or informed and immoral ?

something_totally_different · 13 Sep 2008 at 05:09

basically its a question about many things in life, but in this case we are talking privacy...

If you thought your other half was either cheating on you or at least not treating you right in the sence that you thought they were telling lies about you to others, and you knew the answers were inside conversations between that person and their friends, would you breach their privacy to find out the truth, or just swallow it and continue in ignorance...

do we have a right to know by any legal means if someone is cheating on us or treating us badly ?

does taking this action make you as the perpetrator a bad person ?

ConTRo13R · 13 Sep 2008 at 05:12

hard q lol tbh in an ideal world id prefer to be ignorant and pretend but then again i generally hate people lol so i would invade on the privacy and not care whether im deemed a 'bad person'

so informed and immoral, give a '****' what society thinks

Tombo · 13 Sep 2008 at 08:08

ConTRo13R said:
hard q lol tbh in an ideal world id prefer to be ignorant and pretend but then again i generally hate people lol so i would invade on the privacy and not care whether im deemed a 'bad person'

so informed and immoral, give a '****' what society thinks

In English please?

footman · 13 Sep 2008 at 08:34

ConTRo13R said:
but then again i generally hate people

how do you rationalise being such a sociophobe?

Tefal · 13 Sep 2008 at 08:36

footman said:
how do you rationalise being such a sociophobe?

By either having sociopathic tendencies, or an anxiety disorder?

That or he's just bitter and jaded.

Manics · 13 Sep 2008 at 08:56

I don't understand this thread.

footman · 13 Sep 2008 at 09:04

Manics said:
I don't understand this thread.

Its a pretty pointless thread really. I only poked my nose in because I want to put off going to the gym, but Im also interested why anyone should have such a general hatred of people.

Abraham · 13 Sep 2008 at 10:40

if you truely feel the need to breach their privacy then the damage is already done no matter what you find, it's not better to be one or the other really, but one spells the end of your relationship and the other doesn't (at this point in time)

ConTRo13R · 13 Sep 2008 at 12:32

footman said:
how do you rationalise being such a sociophobe?

Simple! and i hate you more for questioning

Tefal said:
By either having sociopathic tendencies, or an anxiety disorder?

not at all

FrostedNipple · 13 Sep 2008 at 12:36

Ignorance is bliss.

semi-pro waster · 13 Sep 2008 at 12:56

something_totally_different said:
do we have a right to know by any legal means if someone is cheating on us or treating us badly ?

Short answer would be no, you don't have the right to know if someone is cheating on you in a legal sense. Morally the question may have a different answer.

I can't see it having a particularly happy result if you start spying on your partner because that means you don't trust them whether your suspicions are justified or not. Even if you don't find evidence that they are cheating on you the question will probably still remain, what if they were smart enough not to commit the matter to a recorded medium? Put simply, you either trust them to be honest with you or you don't, if you don't then the future is limited and probably not that happy either.

Shoseki · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:15

Only dig for truth if you can handle it - and handle how to justify your feelings when picked up on it.

If you go rifling through someones text messages because you don't trust them, find something and then can't talk about it because you invaded their privacy, you got problems - and they will probably come out at some point during a slagging off match that you went through her things.

Good karma says, don't do things you can't justify or at least explain/defend with *normal* explanations.

KNiVES · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:17

ConTRo13R said:
Simple! and i hate you more for questioning

not at all

I'm such a cool 13 year old over the internet and I hate everyone and I hate you and no I'm going to be even cooler and dodge questions about why I'm acting like such a muppet.

I do hope you're 13 years old.

Tefal · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:24

KNiVES said:
I do hope you're 13 years old.

KNiVES, we've told you before, no grooming on the forums.

KittensCake · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:28

Tefal said:
KNiVES, we've told you before, no grooming on the forums.

Hahahahahaha

Bertie Smalls · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:35

something_totally_different said:
basically its a question about many things in life, but in this case we are talking privacy...

If you thought your other half was either cheating on you or at least not treating you right in the sence that you thought they were telling lies about you to others, and you knew the answers were inside conversations between that person and their friends, would you breach their privacy to find out the truth, or just swallow it and continue in ignorance...

do we have a right to know by any legal means if someone is cheating on us or treating us badly ?

does taking this action make you as the perpetrator a bad person ?

Is no one else concerned about the mental stability of the OP ?

JBuk · 13 Sep 2008 at 13:45

Bertie Smalls said:
Is no one else concerned about the mental stability of the OP ?

nope

the only thin i'm concerned about at this present moment is what i'm going to fill my stomach with

Tefal · 13 Sep 2008 at 14:18

JBuk said:
nope

the only thin i'm concerned about at this present moment is what i'm going to fill my stomach with

Seamen?

KNiVES · 13 Sep 2008 at 14:19

Tefal said:
KNiVES, we've told you before, no grooming on the forums.

God damn it

JBuk · 13 Sep 2008 at 14:24

Tefal said:
Seamen?

nope, not into sailors

and I wouldnt eat semen either