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Hi all,

Normally I wouldnt turn to random internet people over personal issues, but I have a conundrum and want to get a general consensus.

I have a friend turning 30 in December and he has pre-booked a weekend away for myself and 6 of our friends.

He had a novel idea, instead of going to a really exotic place, we would go to a really small boring place to do something different.

Problem is, he has booked £300 worth of transport, activities (including a concert trip to Doncaster on the Saturday), and accomodation without consulting anyone - and wants payment up front.

£300 for a weekend in Scunthorpe.

I have my reservations and Im not sure what to do next. He did it all without consulting anyone (I didnt even agree to go in the first place, much less pay that much money).

Also, for that sum of money we could go somewhere good.

He is normally a really awesome dude and a good friend, its really out of character for him to do something like this, so I have to tread carefully and be careful with my criticism.

I have offered a compromise of 1 nights accomodation and some boozing (no concert), but he would have to do some canceliing/offloading of concert tickets. Im pretty sure about half our friends are just going to straight up say "no" they cant afford it.

I could probably afford it, if I saved a bit, but I cant justify it.

Anyway: Internet - Is he in the wrong as much as I think he is, and whats my best course of action from here?
 
Just say you cant afford it, would never spend that amount of money on something i never wanted to do. But as you said hes your friend so I understand you wont want to let him down.
 
Gaz1988 said:
Just say you cant afford it, would never spend that amount of money on something i never wanted to do. But as you said hes your friend so I understand you wont want to let him down.
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Very helpful! :p

Depends how good a friend he is - and I'd say the better he is the more you can let him down. For instance I wouldn't mind having an argument with my best friend as we'll both get over it the next day, but a not-so good friend might mean it'd be more permanent.

If he's the former just tell him straight - "You didn't even ask me fool, I can't afford £300 let alone for a trip to Scunthorpe. Douche."
 
If hes your "FRIEND" he should understand!

Never mind letting him down, its his own stupidity that's letting himself down.
 
Should have got written (e-mail) confirmation of people that wanted to go before booking. Idiot. Don't give him your money - you could fly Barcelona, stay in a hotel, and go out for a swanky meal for less that than!!!!

Scunthorpe indeed.....
 
I wouldn't want to spend £3 in Scunthorpe, let alone £300.

It's obvious that turning 30 has brought an end to the usefulness of this ancient human, and he should be culled.
 
You can probably buy most of Scunthorpe for £300.

I'd tell him 'no'. It was a ridiculous thing to do :/ If he wanted to go somewhere British and cheesy, you could have gone to Blackpool or somewhere similar!
 
£300 each? OUCH!

If it's £300 for the 6 of you together, then just cough up... but judging by what he's booked, that'd be a small miracle.

Jeeeez I mean I felt hard-done-by when I had to pay about £100 or so for a hen-night which included a boat ride and accommodation. At least as a bridesmaid I got a free dress and pair of shoes out of it!

£300 ain't on, in my book.
 
It should be the people, not the location, that makes a trip fun.

however, a £300 trip to scunthorpe is pushing it...
 
Seems like a bit of an error of judgment on his part; just talk to him about it.

For that sort of money you are not even confined to the north. Come and spend your money in London where there will be real economic impact. At least here it wont all be re-spent in the bookies or greg's the baker.
 
Dolph said:
It should be the people, not the location, that makes a trip fun.

however, a £300 trip to scunthorpe is pushing it...
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My thoughts exactly.

The people are fantastic, him included. Id be happy for one night and some boozing/yarns - but your second line sums it up nicely.

Thanks for the feedback everyone, Ill have a chat with him about it.
 
Helium_Junkie said:
Without having even talked to anyone about spending their money he needs a slap.
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Agree 100%

Consult your other friends and see what they say about it and then if enough of you agree come to him and try and work out some more fun activities (i.e boozing over the concert)
 
He obviously holds himself in high regard if he thinks you'll all be willing to shell out £300 for his Birthday....

Tell him you can't afford it...end of
 
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