Girlfriend "cheats" on me in our engagement party

trescodrucey said:
the whole "aren't you jealous" thing

It was a test.
She wanted you to stand up for her, get mad etc.
Alcohol obviously brought it out in the open, maybe went a bit to far.

Don't be a tw**. Get her back.
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I'd agree with this.

Not a very nice situation at all though.
 
Very strange behaviour.

Perhaps because your not jealous she somehow took it to mean "doesn't care as much", even though I'm sure she does know. It's definately worrying though - I mean, how can you trust her to go out for a drink knowing she can't control herself. It's a tough situation to be in.
 
That sucks. Seems like she's got a lot of making up to do.

As has already been said, booze can make someone a completely different person, but, as has also been said, a leopard never changes its spots.

If she can lay off large quantities of drink then problem solved. But every time she is out your going to be wondering 'what if she gets too drunk again?'
 
She may have acted like an attention seeker who**, but as the man said, she never usually drinks.

Get drunk, and little ideas can get displayed in the worst possible means
 
Get a ******* grip man. For **** sake. What she did was stupid, yes, but you go and act like a ******* baby about it trying to make her feel like **** because you are too ******* immature to have a serious relationship.

Jesus. Im sure she feels deep remorse for what she did, why go through an engagement if she did or are you so unstable she wants to get out of the relationship?

Christ almighty.
 
lucky escape tbh, before the wedding etc. I wonder how she would have reacted if you had done what she did, gone off and danced with other girls in a bid to make her jealous.
 
Odd situation really. She's obviously shown some commitment to you (she did say yes, unless she went down on one knee in the worlds wussiest event after gay pride), and it sounds like she wants to be shown some back.

As trescodrucey says, I think she wanted to see some fight from you, make her think you really want HER.

Yea, booze is a funny one, it can bring out some uncharateristic shows from people, it is a drug afterall and she did sound like she'd had too much. For example, I'm fine on most things, but give me any wine and...

2 years, well, has this kind of thing happened before? I don't think it has. Though in what would be a finger up against "feminist relationship ****" I suggest you never let her forget it and use it to your advantage...
 
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I think she obviously tried provoking a reaction because she's about to invest her life in you and she's worried there's an imbalance in commitment. The alcohol just spruced things up a bit.
 
trescodrucey said:
the whole "aren't you jealous" thing

It was a test.
She wanted you to stand up for her, get mad etc.
Alcohol obviously brought it out in the open, maybe went a bit to far.

Don't be a ****. Get her back.
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There are ways of testing a man that don't involve her kissing other men and rubbing their penises. If the OP goes straight back to her after that stunt then he's just enabling her for future shenanigans. If she's genuinely sorry and the OP can forgive her then fair play, but he shouldn't just blindly accept her back.

Also you need to fully star out your swear word.

trescodrucey said:
maybe went a bit to far.
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Unless their relationship is polygamous then there's no maybe about it, a line was obviously crossed.
 
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mejinks said:
Get a ******* grip man. For **** sake. What she did was stupid, yes, but you go and act like a ******* baby about it trying to make her feel like **** because you are too ******* immature to have a serious relationship.

Jesus. Im sure she feels deep remorse for what she did, why go through an engagement if she did or are you so unstable she wants to get out of the relationship?

Christ almighty.
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errrrr.. what? :)
 
Thats a tough thing to deal with. But she did leave the guy who tried to snog her. She may have been a little flirty in her dancing, but I wouldnt consider her to have "cheated".

The real issue is the history of bad reactions to alcohol. If you didn't know about it before, you do now so can be more careful. If you don't think you can trust her to stay away from serious amounts of drink (you say she's ok on a small amount), then you have a problem.

Do you think you can trust her?

People sometimes freak out when they drink too much. Don't let one night of lost control taint a wonderful two years of trust and love.
 
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