Girlfriend "cheats" on me in our engagement party

Im both disappointed and angry but Im keeping my anger under wraps. Im actually devistated :(

Jesus I'm sorry I really am but man up ffs and save your relationship, you've got something special there, the way your acting atm seems your the one with the issues not her, like I said I'm sorry but your taking this too seriously, be angry yes but no way does she deserve to be dumped like this becuase you can't handle an inconsistency in the relationship and deal with it.
 
If you don't take her back you are a fool. Everyone does things stupid when they are drunk. She didn't cheat on anyone and in her drunk mind it was probably 'funny'. She is ashamed and clearly regrets it immensely.

You would be an absolute fool not to take her back.
 
Jesus I'm sorry I really am but man up ffs and save your relationship, you've got something special there, the way your acting atm seems your the one with the issues not her, like I said I'm sorry but your taking this too seriously, be angry yes but no way does she deserve to be dumped like this becuase you can't handle an inconsistency in the relationship and deal with it.

Inclined to agree so we can get some closure on this thread! You missed the chance for the man up before, go nail it (and her) on the head!

Go and tell her you are sorry but want to continue working on it, and that you're still not 100% happy. The only thing that can make you happy is sex on demand for the rest of your life in reparations for the damage she caused.

Bada Bing Job done ;)
 
We live in the same house! We have talked loads and will keep talking - the one thing Ive hit on is why she did it and she does not know.

Im both disappointed and angry but Im keeping my anger under wraps. Im actually devistated :(
Well, do you know every facet of your subconscious? It might be true, she simply doesn't know.

Or, doesn't realise that she has a deep-seated fear of being left uncared-for.

Or, doesn't want to express that fear even if she has realised it, because telling you she worries will be insulting to the way you treat her (which is probably very well).

Have you been very calm and collected ("under wraps") about all this or have you really shown her how hurt, angry and upset you are?

She needs to know.

But also, there's a lot at stake here.

I think the magnitude of upset ("devastated" is a big word) is testament to how much she means to you. If you two get over this, I think you'll be a good, strong couple.
 
Jesus I'm sorry I really am but man up ffs and save your relationship, you've got something special there, the way your acting atm seems your the one with the issues not her, like I said I'm sorry but your taking this too seriously, be angry yes but no way does she deserve to be dumped like this becuase you can't handle an inconsistency in the relationship and deal with it.

Thing is you didnt see what happened or hear what she said. Im very upset... Im sure if it was other way round my girlfriend would have scatched my eyes out and cut my D*** off with a rusty spoon!
 
Thing is you didnt see what happened or hear what she said. Im very upset... Im sure if it was other way round my girlfriend would have scatched my eyes out and cut my D*** off with a rusty spoon!

Salad Fingers likes Rusty Spoons....

From the reading the 1st post I would dump her, I can't stand girls that try and make you jealous especially after you have known her for...how long? In addition to that she did it right in front of you, who is to say after an argument in 1 or 2 years she won't go out get drunk and sleep with someone? She could have known about it all and hope'd you would forget, thinking she has you now and can abuse the relationship you have.

However it seems you have a much deeper attachment evident from your experiences of the lows in life and her being there every step of the way. If you even slightly believe you can still be with her, there is a great possibility you will stay with her even if this haunts you forever.

I can't say which I would do and I don't think its fair if someone else can, evaluate how you feel and keep talking with her eventually you will both make the right choice.
 
Yeah, it wasn't fun.

I had to pretend I cut my face at football when I went into work on Monday, lol.

I wouldn't stand for that. I would calmly tell her the next day that if that occurred again she would be waking up alone. It's her decision - either she controls her drinking before she gets to the drunken attitude or doesn't need to be part of my life.

Nobody should have to put up with that total lack of personal respect.
 
Thing is you didnt see what happened or hear what she said. Im very upset... Im sure if it was other way round my girlfriend would have scatched my eyes out and cut my D*** off with a rusty spoon!

Well if you have made your mind up then that's fine. There's nothing we can do.

It's your girlfriend, do what you want. Everyone is different in this situation.
 
Thing is you didnt see what happened or hear what she said. Im very upset... Im sure if it was other way round my girlfriend would have scatched my eyes out and cut my D*** off with a rusty spoon!

You can't dwel on what ifs, and you can be upset in a relationship, like I said before just work through it, take it one step at a time, it will make your relationship stronger in the end, 10 years from now your both be laughing about this over a dinner at your wedding anniversary if you want, it's up to, you control your future, you can choose to stay with the woman you love or you can throw it all away becuase of one mistake, your honestly telling me that your not prepared to forgive the woman you love ?, your not prepared to give her a chance to prove herself ?, to help her evolve and work through her mistakes like I'm sure she would help you, it's what helps build the foundations of a strong relationship.
 
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Give her a 2nd chance but make it known (as you have already) that it's not acceptable behavior.

You'd be a prat to throw a good girl away over whats happened in my opinion.

Maybe, but imagine it the other way around, if a guy would have done it. Would a woman forgive a man?
 
Well if you have made your mind up then that's fine. There's nothing we can do.

It's your girlfriend, do what you want. Everyone is different in this situation.

That tbh. Everyone acts differently in situations. Some would have lashed out and ended there and then in front of everyone, some would never have brought it up again and kept it to themselves.
 
If you were that serious about getting married, then this rather trivial incident shouldn't really phase you. Take a week or two apart and then see how you feel about it. I guarantee that you'll probably remember why it is you got engaged in the first place.
 
Sounds wierd how she wanted you to act all alpha and then next day want you to act be completly the opposite.

Looks like only you can decide how much you feel for her and how much you can forgive.
 
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