Made some threads on here before about girl problems and in between the sarcastic replies you normally get a few decent opinions so here goes:
I live in a uni house, 5 lads and 2 girls, I didnt really know anyone movin in other than to stop and say hi to in the street. Except my best mate who knew pretty much them all better than me, we got the 2 rooms in the basement.
Anyway, in the freshers week this year (start of September) he goes and sleeps in one of them's bed and tried it on with her, he was leathered and is an idiot so she turned him down. Before that they were pretty good mates but it went dead awkward between them and although you wouldnt notice it from the outside they both felt a bit crap about it, especially her as she is a bit insecure.
Anyway, a month or so after that I spent some time with her and developed a bit of a crush I'd say, nothin more than, I went and told my mate about it and we had a laugh about it and it never really went any further than that. A few weeks after that (beginning of November I'd say) I was feeling pretty turd and she came down and we spoke for hours about things. I'll be the first to admit I have a lot of issues (some of the threads I've made on here have been about that) and she had almost all the same issues about bein alone and not feeling comfortable anywhere, that sort of thing.
Coupled with that I went out with her 2 days later for a meal and to a comedy night and had an amazin night with her, after we went to my room and drank a bit more wine. At this point I'd like to point out that I would have jsut done somethin here but with the housemates thing (which I kept being reminded about) it didnt seem like it would go without repercussions. Because of this I decided that yeah it went a bit further than a crush and developed feelings for her.
I told my mate all this and on a daily basis too, he just kept sayin it was a bad idea cos we lived together and things but I said that it was fine as long as I didnt start gettin down about it.
Saturday night everyone except me and this other guy (we had work) went to this massive drum and bass night, when I got up on Sunday mornin to go to work they were all still up in the lounge drinkin etc. I get home from work at 6 or so and they are in his bed together. I jumped to conclusions immediately but then rationalised that he's my mate and after what happened last time they wouldnt do anythin. I also thought that it said a lot about our friendship that I could find him and a girl I'm into in bed together and not mind.
Anyway, last night I wormed it out of him after ages that he had in fact, had sex with her. This is devastating to me, I'd say around 20% the fact that for the first time in 3 years this christmas I finally realised that my ex isn't actually the only girl in the world and I really liked her but the rest is completely his betrayal.
Would anyone else here find it in their hearts to forgive either of them, technically she didnt do anythin wrong other than sleep with her housemate (I reckon she knows I like her but I never said anythin so that cant be counted) but still, you know.
I know she wasnt my girlfriend and all that but surely its still off limits to your bestest mate if you say you like a girl?
I live in a uni house, 5 lads and 2 girls, I didnt really know anyone movin in other than to stop and say hi to in the street. Except my best mate who knew pretty much them all better than me, we got the 2 rooms in the basement.
Anyway, in the freshers week this year (start of September) he goes and sleeps in one of them's bed and tried it on with her, he was leathered and is an idiot so she turned him down. Before that they were pretty good mates but it went dead awkward between them and although you wouldnt notice it from the outside they both felt a bit crap about it, especially her as she is a bit insecure.
Anyway, a month or so after that I spent some time with her and developed a bit of a crush I'd say, nothin more than, I went and told my mate about it and we had a laugh about it and it never really went any further than that. A few weeks after that (beginning of November I'd say) I was feeling pretty turd and she came down and we spoke for hours about things. I'll be the first to admit I have a lot of issues (some of the threads I've made on here have been about that) and she had almost all the same issues about bein alone and not feeling comfortable anywhere, that sort of thing.
Coupled with that I went out with her 2 days later for a meal and to a comedy night and had an amazin night with her, after we went to my room and drank a bit more wine. At this point I'd like to point out that I would have jsut done somethin here but with the housemates thing (which I kept being reminded about) it didnt seem like it would go without repercussions. Because of this I decided that yeah it went a bit further than a crush and developed feelings for her.
I told my mate all this and on a daily basis too, he just kept sayin it was a bad idea cos we lived together and things but I said that it was fine as long as I didnt start gettin down about it.
Saturday night everyone except me and this other guy (we had work) went to this massive drum and bass night, when I got up on Sunday mornin to go to work they were all still up in the lounge drinkin etc. I get home from work at 6 or so and they are in his bed together. I jumped to conclusions immediately but then rationalised that he's my mate and after what happened last time they wouldnt do anythin. I also thought that it said a lot about our friendship that I could find him and a girl I'm into in bed together and not mind.
Anyway, last night I wormed it out of him after ages that he had in fact, had sex with her. This is devastating to me, I'd say around 20% the fact that for the first time in 3 years this christmas I finally realised that my ex isn't actually the only girl in the world and I really liked her but the rest is completely his betrayal.
Would anyone else here find it in their hearts to forgive either of them, technically she didnt do anythin wrong other than sleep with her housemate (I reckon she knows I like her but I never said anythin so that cant be counted) but still, you know.
I know she wasnt my girlfriend and all that but surely its still off limits to your bestest mate if you say you like a girl?
