Mates/girl trouble (apologies for the long post)

The phrase ****ing where you eat comes to mind.

Seriously fella, I have been in a similar situation and it's not cool. I was fortunate with not living with anyone involved, so it was easier to cut ties.

The only way you're going to get rid of that horrible gut wrenching feeling is to get it out, seriously, of BOTH of them. Not together at the same time because that would be ridiculously awkward, but you need to find out from her.

Depends if you want to tell her you like her too to throw it in the mix, but if you live with these people then I'd move on fast otherwise you're going to be eating that ****.
 
Hang on, he tried it on first, THEN you, then him again.

Seems to me like you both like her, not you liked her first or he liked her first (if anything it's him), so it comes down to who makes the right move first and he won.

It's not ideal, and I'd not like it if it happened to me particularly, but he's not done anything wrong if you ask me.
 
She knows, your friend told her right after he slept with her. As for him, hmm.. **** him tbh. Or just forget about it. Either way prepare to move on.
 
he just rang me then, I ignored it but he kept goin so I thought it best to answer. He said he spoke to her about what happened between them and he says she said that its not a big deal what happened and if it hadn't have happened that night then it woulda been another time. Then he said he told her about my feelings for her and she never suspected anythin and only saw me as a mate.

He started off the conversation by sayin "everythin is fine" and I think thats just disgraceful, I dont know how I feel about this now, except sick. The fact that he could so easily just have her anytime is horrible and that I dont even stand a chance.

I dont want to go home now, he was tryin to get me to come back but I said no, not yet at least. I feel like cryin everytime I even think of goin back in that place, I'm such an idiot for even doin this in the first place.
 
anksta said:
he just rang me then, I ignored it but he kept goin so I thought it best to answer. He said he spoke to her about what happened between them and he says she said that its not a big deal what happened and if it hadn't have happened that night then it woulda been another time. Then he said he told her about my feelings for her and she never suspected anythin and only saw me as a mate.

He started off the conversation by sayin "everythin is fine" and I think thats just disgraceful, I dont know how I feel about this now, except sick. The fact that he could so easily just have her anytime is horrible and that I dont even stand a chance.

I dont want to go home now, he was tryin to get me to come back but I said no, not yet at least. I feel like cryin everytime I even think of goin back in that place, I'm such an idiot for even doin this in the first place.
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He has made things so awkward. Might I suggest get hammered and bringing back two girls :D
 
I know its hard mate but you just got to not let your emotions get the better of you here. I knows its a rubbish situation but either one day you will look back on this and wonder why you were so upset, or you may not even remember it at all. Just go home and get it done with. You cant hide up uni all night :)

Go sleep on it and see how you feel in the morning.

Edit: My advice is rubbish, do what ken said :)

edit2: I cant believe he told her this.. The guy is a bit of a ****
 
He's just stitched you up by telling her you like her?
O-M-G

I'd be fuming now personally. Go home, ignore all, get to your room and close the ****ing door. You can't ignore it but there is no point in sticking around waiting to go home now.

Man up and just blaze in the house and straight to your room, you'll be safe there. Just barracade the door and point a shotgun at it ;)
 
have you called him a ****** and cracked him one on the jaw yet?

sort it out with him and just ignore her - for being a blatant tease

go out get drunk (he's buyin) and pull someone else.
 
Knubje said:
He's just stitched you up by telling her you like her?
O-M-G

I'd be fuming now personally. Go home, ignore all, get to your room and close the ****ing door. You can't ignore it but there is no point in sticking around waiting to go home now.

Man up and just blaze in the house and straight to your room, you'll be safe there. Just barracade the door and point a shotgun at it ;)
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no I told him to tell her because she would know that somethin was up between me and my mate. I dont know what exactly he said though which I'm worried about.

I want to go home but I have to storm through the living room and kitchen and its that bit I dont want to do.
 
I think you need to put some perspective in there. It's life, both the good and bad happen, move on and you'll be happier for it.

Doesn't sound like a great friend but that's just my own personal feelings on the issue.
 
Your mate has been a bit of a ***** over this.

He knows you like this girl, yet goes and sleeps with her, even after he told you not to?! He deserves a massively stern talking to, upto you if he's worth keeping as a friend or not.

As has been said before, the girl can't really be blamed for anything, unless you actually told her you liked her (even though she would probably have had an idea you did). Us men do have a tendency to think a girl likes us, when they only see us as mates...

I can sort of relate, except it was a kiss rather than a shag, but I got over it within a year or two and we've been together now for 5 years :D

Feel better soon mate.
 
anksta said:
no I told him to tell her because she would know that somethin was up between me and my mate. I dont know what exactly he said though which I'm worried about.

I want to go home but I have to storm through the living room and kitchen and its that bit I dont want to do.
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Window?
 
is uni open 24 hrs?


or you could wait outside until they go out in the evening? then hold up in your room until the end of the year?
 
Dude, go home at least, serious. Just walk in through the rooms you have to and get in your bedroom.

The best thing that can happen is that no one is in the communal area and you get in scott free, worst is that you see someone and have to say hello and walk on by.

Killa_ken said:
Window?
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Or this :D

Personally I think surfers last advice was good. Get over her as best you can now, sort it with your mate and go out getting lashed and he's buying!
 
Welshy said:
Your mate has been a bit of a ***** over this.

He knows you like this girl, yet goes and sleeps with her, even after he told you not to?! He deserves a massively stern talking to, upto you if he's worth keeping as a friend or not.

As has been said before, the girl can't really be blamed for anything, unless you actually told her you liked her (even though she would probably have had an idea you did). Us men do have a tendency to think a girl likes us, when they only see us as mates...

I can sort of relate, except it was a kiss rather than a shag, but I got over it within a year or two and we've been together now for 5 years :D

Feel better soon mate.
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been together with who? and a kiss from who or to who?


Killa_ken said:
Window?
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wont open


Surfer said:
is uni open 24 hrs?


or you could wait outside until they go out in the evening? then hold up in your room until the end of the year?
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yeah it is and they're not goin out, I can wait til they start workin or whatever though but I dont think that will happen tonight.
 
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