to anyone thats been cheated on by a partner...

[eggcup]

have you stayed with them, and if you have split up, did you stay friends after???

 

[James07]

If someone cheated on me they would be gone, and never spoken to again..

Theres no need for it, ever.

Dont be with me if your gonna cheat on me!

 

[Azagoth]

No and no, and neither did I stay friends with the guy who she was seeing behind my back. He happened to be one of my closest friends, a guy I'd known and hung about with for over 25 years.

 

[Vita]

Never stayed with them or stayed friends. People like that aren't worth it.

 

[James07]

No and no, and neither did I stay friends with the guy who she was seeing behind my back. He happened to be one of my closest friends, a guy I'd known and hung about with for over 25 years.

Nout like pulling yur heart out with a folk is there!!

Dont blame yah fella.

 

[Nitefly]

If someone cheated on me they would be gone, and never spoken to again..

Theres no need for it, ever.

Dont be with me if your gonna cheat on me!

That's a pretty naive way of viewing things. Some circumstances are worse than others.

If, if there circumstances are apt, you throw away a potentially stronger and long lasting relationship because you were not prepared to work things through, then you would be a chump.

Obviously, it's not always black and white.

 

[mattyprice4004]

If they want to cheat they can **** off.

 

[Kristoph]

That's a pretty naive way of viewing things. Some circumstances are worse than others.

If, if there circumstances are apt, you throw away a potentially stronger and long lasting relationship because you were not prepared to work things through, then you would be a chump.

Obviously, it's not always black and white.

Surely you could reverse that and say that they threw away a long lasting relationship because they were not prepared to work things through - and cheated instead.

 

[James07]

Surely you could reverse that and say that they threw away a long lasting relationship because they were not prepared to work things through - and cheated instead.

+1

 

[Gilly]

I was cheated on, she's dead to me. Anyone else would be, too.

 

[Nitefly]

Surely you could reverse that and say that they threw away a long lasting relationship because they were not prepared to work things through - and cheated instead.

That is of course an entirely valid way of viewing things and I'm not denying it might be appropriate action.

However, to be completely closed minded restricts options and possibilities before assessing whether they are appropriate or worthwhile.

I don't think I'd blow a 5 year marriage away if both parties were prepared to give the relationship a chance to recover.

 

[arknor]

If, if there circumstances are apt, you throw away a potentially stronger and long lasting relationship because you were not prepared to work things through, then you would be a chump.

the chump would be the person in the relationship that stays to get cheated on for a second time.

but i guess some people never learn

 

[James07]

I was cheated on, she's dead to me. Anyone else would be, too.

Thats my way of thinking

 

[-westy-]

I've been cheated on - Tried to get back together, and found there was no trust whatsoever.

Tried to stay friends, but she turned out not to be the person i thought she was.

 

[Nitefly]

the chump would be the person in the relationship that stays to get cheated on for a second time.

but i guess some people never learn

You are prescribing a series of events which might not happen.

 

[arknor]

You are prescribing a series of events which might not happen.

but its more than likely to and the odds are its all you would be thinking about whenever your partner is out.

but if you would like to explain in what situation its considered forgiveable to be cheated on please explain?

obviously we are assuming the person beeing cheated on was an ideal partner who gave nothing but love

 

[Steve2000]

I don't think I'd blow a 5 year marriage away if both parties were prepared to give the relationship a chance to recover.

No matter how long you remain together, the relationship will NEVER be the same again. There will be no trust, and it will always be there looming over you.

IF they are willing to cheat then they obviously don't love you 100%. No point clinging on, plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[Nitefly]

but if you would like to explain in what situation its considered forgiveable to be cheated on please explain?

I never said anything about blindly 'forgiving', I said that partners can 'work things through'.

obviously we are assuming the person beeing cheated on was an ideal partner who gave nothing but love

I don't think anyone should assume anything about any hypothetical relationship. This is the real word, not a fairy tale.

A family member of mine once cheated on his partner. There was a very turbulent period and a loss of trust, but over the years they worked things through and are now happier than ever. That was 5 years ago. So on some occations it clearly is worth the effort. On other occations it might not be.

 

[Nitefly]

No matter how long you remain together, the relationship will NEVER be the same again.

Of course it won't be the same as before.

IF they are willing to cheat then they obviously don't love you 100%. No point clinging on, plenty more fish in the sea.

Again, a very black and white picture is being painted.

 

[mattyprice4004]

No matter how long you remain together, the relationship will NEVER be the same again. There will be no trust, and it will always be there looming over you.

IF they are willing to cheat then they obviously don't love you 100%. No point clinging on, plenty more fish in the sea.

This!