My Dad *It Aint Working Out*

No father should behave like that, not in front of his children no matter what, he is an adult if its the drink then he can only help himself, to be violent and abusive when drunk takes a scumbag imho, I have always been drunk and never been violent and I never will.
 
bakes0310 said:
I know its selfish but what i want to do is just carry on how we are and see each other on saturday. Ill forget all about it cause im leaving next month and thats whats most important for me. In the mean time ill just see him saturday mornings (he only drinks at night) and not go out with him to parties etc where theres alchol.
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Thats pretty poor to be honest.

Seeing as nobody else in the family has the guts to stand up to him, you are his only hope.

You have to stay strong when you confront him and don't take any crap from him. Tell him he need's help otherwise one day his alcoholism will come back to haunt him.

I know it's easier to say than do, but I don't think you have a choice.

You have to try and help him.

And if you don't, you will never have an meaningful relationship that you could have.
 
My dad was an alcoholic when I was about 16, I told him that unless he got help I didn't want anything to do with him, the next day he got in touch with AA and they helped him get over it.
 
gazzamcg said:
Thats pretty poor to be honest.

Seeing as nobody else in the family has the guts to stand up to him, you are his only hope.

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Completely agree with this comment.
You're the only person that could possibly help him, and theres no easy way out for your dad.
alcohol is such a hard hole to get out of when it gets extreme, he needs your support right now.
I know its easy for me to sit here and say that, but he's your dad at the end of the day..
And he deserves and needs your help.
 
gazzamcg said:
Thats pretty poor to be honest.

Seeing as nobody else in the family has the guts to stand up to him, you are his only hope.

You have to stay strong when you confront him and don't take any crap from him. Tell him he need's help otherwise one day his alcoholism will come back to haunt him.

I know it's easier to say than do, but I don't think you have a choice.

You have to try and help him.

And if you don't, you will never have an meaningful relationship that you could have.
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Good post, i hear what your saying but its just complicated for me. Ive properly known him for 3 years and in thoes 3 years i know theres some stuff you dont talk to him about.
 
The only alcholic I've ever known was a much better person once they had kicked the addiction and turned teetotal, sadly for them it was too late for the family relationships though.

So, I'd say option 2, and try to steer him towards professional help.
 
Sadly bakes0310 only he can decide if he wants to quit the booze, from what your saying he hasn't hit rock bottom yet. My dad went from a 6ft 2 and 16.5 st a very solid guy to a frail 7st skeleton with about 5-6 weeks to live this helped him come to the conclusion he was rock bottom and excepted help!
 
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You say there's some stuff you dont talk to him about. If he's not going to change that attitude then there's no hope in your relationship tbh.
 
Ever since i was a kid, there would be some occasions where i did go up my dads for weekends. From what i can remember this is where i get my uneasiness (is that a word:p ) towards my dad. I was about 6 i think and me and my dad went down blockbusters to rent a video game for me (ghostbusters on mastersystem:D ). Anyway i was playing it and i said to him "this is rubbish" or i could have said " this is crap" either way i got the next response. He sounded a little angry and said "come here" i said "no". He kept telling me to come here each time me saying no, getting a little more scared and him getting more angrier and gritting his teeth. So i went to him, and he punched me in the stomach, i still remember crying for ages.

The point of the story is that i think thats why even today im still a little intimadated by him. It might not even be that reason, but its the only thing i can come up with. But it doesnt matter either way its in the past, were getting on, obvisouly these drinking fuelled arguments and fights dont help.
 
^TANK^ said:
Sorry I could have wrote that better, I mean now. Personally that would have niggled away at me.
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Nah i never really think about it, doesnt bother me and like i said its in the past. I look to the future i got the start of a great career ahead of me next month. Its gonna be pretty much my life and i want to concentrate on that:)
 
give him the truethful reason why you have not seen him in so long.

when he realises its drink, or happy kids, he will make the right decision. If he doesnt... option 1 tbh.
 
bakes0310 said:
Nah i never really think about it, doesnt bother me and like i said its in the past. I look to the future i got the start of a great career ahead of me next month. Its gonna be pretty much my life and i want to concentrate on that:)
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Well I take my hat off to you in that respect:cool:, I wish I could leave my demons in the past.
 
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