Valentines Day Panic: Save my relationship

slylittlefox said:
I know, it's a load of bull**** dreamt up by the advertisers. She's a shallow bugger at heart, bless.
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I just really dont get it. My brother and his missus have been having huge rows because the 6 nations England game is on at half 5 on Saturday night, and he wants to watch it. Any other time she'd be like "Yeah course you can" but because its Valentines, shes turned into this she-devil demanding he miss the rugby and take her out "because of what day it is!" What like its a Saturday?

I would much rather someone made a fuss of me and took me out for a nice dinner because they wanted to, rather than because someone decided thats the day you have to show someone you care.
 
Give her food poisoning the day before, then you can act really annoyed with her that she spoilt your big surprise / amazing restaurant night.
 
1 option that may still be available is that many high end hotels do dinner dance type valentines nights. Ring round the local big hotels one of them will still have space.
 
Kerplunk said:
Im sure everyones valentines day goes something like.....All lovey dovey, card/present + dinner then sex ?
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No, it goes something like this:
All lovey dovey, card, "I know we said no presents this year but I thought you might have got me something anyway :(" + dinner then some crap on telly before she goes to sleep :p
 
Whats with all this OTT valentines stuff people do these days. What's the matter with a card or if you want to get something else either some simple flowers or a small box of chocolates? Why the need for overblown grand gestures?

It's the thought that counts surely?
 
Cook at home. Create something amazing. Choose a selection of fine wines.

You'll have a more satisfying night and she'll think you're a love God.

Works for me :cool:
 
slylittlefox said:
I've said I'll stay in and cook - her words were "We're going out. I told you to sort this ages ago" - and now is threatening to sort it herself.

I might just end up killing her. It'll save money and effort. :p
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leave it to her... and watch her fail :cool:

wait... even then you lose because you left it too late :p
 
Muban said:
Whats with all this OTT valentines stuff people do these days. What's the matter with a card or if you want to get something else either some simple flowers or a small box of chocolates? Why the need for overblown grand gestures?

It's the thought that counts surely?
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These are gloomy times. People just want the chance to do something special with someone they love. Surely that's not a bad thing?
 
HangTime said:
No, it goes something like this:
All lovey dovey, card, "I know we said no presents this year but I thought you might have got me something anyway :(" + dinner then some crap on telly before she goes to sleep :p
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Yep, she doesnt believe in it (Good!), but in the 5 years, I always buy a card to be on the safe side. This year, im not filling it in and I will probably keep it till next year.
 
Spie said:
These are gloomy times. People just want the chance to do something special with someone they love. Surely that's not a bad thing?
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I see what you are saying, but why valentines day. If you want to do something special why not do it at a time when you feel they might appreciate it more? If they have had a bad week, or on an occasion special to you both.
 
Not speaking from experience, but cooking at home seems like the better option really, rather than a probably noisy restuarant with lot's of others; doesn't seem very intimite tbh.
 
Spie said:
These are gloomy times. People just want the chance to do something special with someone they love. Surely that's not a bad thing?
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And surely you should be doing it because you want to show them you care, and not because in the OP's case hes been told "he better be taking her out" wheres the fun in that?
:)
 
Muban said:
I see what you are saying, but why valentines day. If you want to do something special why not do it at a time when you feel they might appreciate it more? If they have had a bad week, or on an occasion special to you both.
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Totally agree, and in all my past relationships [we]'ve agreed at the beginning to do what we wanted when we wanted, i.e. don't pander to e.g. the 14th Feb.
 
knip said:
I just really dont get it. My brother and his missus have been having huge rows because the 6 nations England game is on at half 5 on Saturday night, and he wants to watch it. Any other time she'd be like "Yeah course you can" but because its Valentines, shes turned into this she-devil demanding he miss the rugby and take her out "because of what day it is!" What like its a Saturday?

I would much rather someone made a fuss of me and took me out for a nice dinner because they wanted to, rather than because someone decided thats the day you have to show someone you care.
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See I love Valentines, but I would be happier that someone made the effort to make me a lovely meal and bought me something thoughtful rather than big / expensive :) It's an excuse to something nice for someone you care about - not something that's forced.
 
Give her food poisoning the day before, then you can act really annoyed with her that she spoilt your big surprise / amazing restaurant night.
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Best idea by far ;)

Hedge said:
Just book a hotel room and bonk all night long babay!
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That's an idea - but a tad expensive unless we stay in the YMCA.

Spie said:
Cook at home. Create something amazing. Choose a selection of fine wines.

You'll have a more satisfying night and she'll think you're a love God.

Works for me :cool:
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Hopefully we'll have no choice but to stay in so I can **** up a nice meal, and treat her with a bottle of Lambrini

steve-h said:
leave it to her... and watch her fail :cool:

wait... even then you lose because you left it too late :p
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Indeed - she has me by the short and curly's.
 
slylittlefox said:
I know, I know - but try explaining that to her. I even said lets go out for lunch and then go for a drink in the evening, not having it.

Woe is me. :(
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So she is demanding to be taken out? How romantic! I thought Valentines Day was all about romance?
Dump her and find someone who appreciates being made a fuss of in private. She sounds very mercenary :(
 
knip said:
And surely you should be doing it because you want to show them you care, and not because in the OP's case hes been told "he better be taking her out" wheres the fun in that?
:)
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You're making me want to dump her :p

To be fair to her - I'm not romantic. It was only a couple of days ago that she was telling me how I hardly do anything romantic for her, which in fairness I admitted. It's just not me. I know that sounds horrible - but it's not something I hold dear to me.

In fact, maybe I'm making her want to dump me :p
 
Valentine's Day is just another day. But why not enjoy it and make it more special than every other day? It's a celebration... why not celebrate?

Me and the gf are going to Brighton for it. Booked a hotel room and have a Brazillian themed party (not a typical alcohol/sex fuelled rave, it's a salsa thing cause I know she likes that kind of stuff) to go to. Aside from that, seeing where the day takes us.
 
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