Anorexic what to say

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I've got a friend who i think is anorexic. She's really skinny and underweight however is always saying she's fat and gets really upset. I've read allot on the Internet of what not to say to people suffering from it. However I can't find anything to say that will cheer her up. Does anyone have experience with what I could say/do to cheer her up?

Cheers Guys

Mark
 
does she workout?
whats her diet like?

could do with some stats really (height/weight) etc...

if she doesnt do already, get her eating good (lots of meat/veg/fruit) and go running with her?

i cant say i would know what to do in the situation apart from above...

edit: claimed if you havent been already :D
 
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she probably weighs 6-7 stone at a push and his probably just short of 6 ft. And she's a vegan so doesn't eat anything that has came from an animal. She's already collapsed a few times I would imagine its due to lack of food so its getting quite serious.
 
introduce her to me....unless she is an ugger :D

She probably needs to see some pics of her self compared to someone fat as womens mental image of them selves is generally way off.
 
I had a friend who was anorexic for years. It doesn't matter what you say to her it won't change anything, your best bet is to get her to go to a doctor before she becomes seriously and irreparably ill.
 
Show her this:

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mleanz1 said:
she probably weighs 6-7 stone at a push and his probably just short of 6 ft. And she's a vegan so doesn't eat anything that has came from an animal. She's already collapsed a few times I would imagine its due to lack of food so its getting quite serious.
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I'd advice you talk to her parents mate see what they say, it sounds like she may require medical attention reagrding the condition.

/edit a BMI that low is serious see http://web4health.info/en/answers/ed-dia-weight-bmi-calc.htm
 
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M0T said:
I had a friend who was anorexic for years. It doesn't matter what you say to her it won't change anything, your best bet is to get her to go to a doctor before she becomes seriously and irreparably ill.
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Yeah that's my main concern. I just don't want to see her get ill. Problem is there is no way she'll let me take her to the doctors.
 
wow... thats very underweight
my god, what do you feed a vegan...

is she not aware she has a problem & have you confronted her with your feelings on the matter?

could be hard for her to accept criticism from you, if that is the case... you would be better going with her to the doctor or even a personal trainer at the gym to get her to pack on some weight, it doesn't have to be fat remember

personally i eat nothing but meat for nearly every meal... with eggs for breakfast, so im not brilliant with this...

porridge oats/fruits/veg/nuts (almonds/pistachios)/brown bread is seriously all i can think of atm edit: rice/potatoes/wraps/meat replacers?

she needs to be eating atleast 3 solid meals a day... maybe you could mirror her eating for support?
 
Tell her she's hot, start dating, take her to dinner, get her hooked on some good vittles, take her home and watch some movies with some cheese and cracker platters, sleep, make her a nice breakfast in the morning, hang out the rest of the day, hot dogs for lunch, etc. etc. Basically, FEED HER!
 
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Yeah that's my main concern. I just don't want to see her get ill. Problem is there is no way she'll let me take her to the doctors.
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Has this problem arisen since she became a vegan or was she a happy little vegan before whatever happened to distort her body image/perception so dramatically?
 
taking her out, trying to feed her and showing her photos of fat people next to her won't make any difference.

Ever heard the saying "you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink", same with this. As for the photos, she may still see herself as being just as fat as them.

Best thing you can do is to speak to her parents and visit a local GP. Tell them that you are scared for your friend and they can give you some good advice.

She needs professional help. Other than making her and others aware you can't help :(
 
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Does anyone have experience with what I could say/do to cheer her up?
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In 1988 I got sectioned into a mental asylum for my own good so you could say I have a lot of experience (my family got together and got me sectioned).
Since 1985 I'd been anorexic and then moved to bulimia where I wouldn't leave the toilet until blood came out.
It was a hard struggle that nearly cost me my life, I was also very close to suicide and had to have an operation on my bowels because I'd destroyed them.
I eventually recovered and then worked voluntary for an eating disorder charity for about a year dishing out advise to other anorexics and concerned parents.
BTW, contrary to popular belief there were more male anorexics than female anorexics during that time.

Anyway, there isn't a lot you can do until she confesses to it and that might be when she collapses and goes into a fit like I did.
Even then she might deny it so either she owns up and asks for help or her brain gets more & more frazzled.

Good luck.
 
dmpoole said:
In 1988 I got sectioned into a mental asylum for my own good so you could say I have a lot of experience (my family got together and got me sectioned).
Since 1985 I'd been anorexic and then moved to bulimia where I wouldn't leave the toilet until blood came out.
It was a hard struggle that nearly cost me my life, I was also very close to suicide and had to have an operation on my bowels because I'd destroyed them.
I eventually recovered and then worked voluntary for an eating disorder charity for about a year dishing out advise to other anorexics and concerned parents.
BTW, contrary to popular belief there were more male anorexics than female anorexics during that time.

Anyway, there isn't a lot you can do until she confesses to it and that might be when she collapses and goes into a fit like I did.
Even then she might deny it so either she owns up and asks for help or her brain gets more & more frazzled.

Good luck.
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jesus, good work... cant have been easy
 
Again as others have said, she needs help from professionals as this is a serious condition, not just a "thing" that people go through. Until the ball drops in her mind that she isn't fat then she needs monitoring before something bad happens.

Just support her and in the nicest way possible, mention going to see her GP. If her parents dont know of it then try and into contact with them because surely they can help.
 
I was at a very low weight years ago, people kept on saying that I needed to gain weight but until I saw a photo of myself I simply didn't agree with them.

Your friend,.. take her to a nutritional advisor who treats this kind of condition, the nutritional aspect isn't the hardest part...its her mind that needs re-educating. If they have experience in treating various conditions then they can help with the psychology too.
 
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