Macroscopic kinetic energy (a car moving) can be converted into microscopic kinetic energy (temperature!). Remember that temperature is actually a macroscopic representation of a microscopic quantity (the kinetic energy of the molecules).
For a gas:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maxwell-Boltzmann_distribution
What happens when an F1 car (or any car for that matter) brakes? You can probably see it if you watch F1, the brakes glow red hot. Primarily that is the kinetic energy of the car being transferred to heat (or microscopic kinetic energy).
Forget about the other car moving for a second: imagine if this girl had hit a 10ft thick super strong brick wall (well, don't imagine too hard, I wouldn't wish that on anyone!) at 30mph. If momentum was conserved at a macroscopic level, the car would bounce back at 30mph! I'm sure you've seen videos of crashes on TV into solid walls, they don't bounce back at 30mph. A significant amount of energy is dissipated through plastic deformation of the steel.