Am i being unreasonable? (girl issue)

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First off, apologies to those that are sick and tired of seeing threads about women, but i need a little advice from fellow gentlemen. To cut a long story short, i met a girl a few weeks ago, it was actually one of my friends that set us up together. Now things have been going smoothly, lovely person, we have things in common, the usual rosey stuff. Cut to today, im told we are going out this weekend for drinks, a typical Saturday night outing. Now alarm bells start ringing in my head and i remember her saying she is still friends with her ex's who hang around in the same crowd she does, basically theres a good chance we'll be out in a group with someone from her past.

I asked if any of her ex's will be joining us and she told me that there is a high possibilty we will be bumping into one of these guys. Obviously im not entirely comfortable with going out to begin with as i know none of her friends and im going to stand out like a sore thumb. Now, she has also said that when shes out she likes to flirt with guys, even ex's, and that its part of her character and i have to just 'deal with it' and that shes not going to change how she is with guys. Well that right away got me in a foul mood, she expects me sit back and watch her flirt with other blokes on a night out. Well, i voiced my obvious concern that its just a bad idea in the first place and im definately not cool with it at all to which i was called various colourful things and have been ignored for the rest of the day. Why we have to spend time with any of her ex's so early in the relatonship, i have no idea. Id rather just catch a movie and have a few drinks in a bar as a couple afterwards and have quality time with each other.

Im sure anyone will admit that seeing their girlfriend flirting with other fellas will really hack them off. I think it just shows a complete lack of respect for the other person in the relationship, especially when its rubbed in their faces. Ive gotten a bit peeved over the whole thing and how im expected to just put up with it, so now i just dont want to bother. Am i being unreasonable here? I just dont want to be treated like an absolute mug and she refuses to understand this.

Cheers gents.
 
nah she is being unreasonable either u need to stop her doing that (and she can, i have done it before, dont take no deal with it crap) or ditch her dude cuz there is no need for someone to be like that

oh and dont worry your were not tired of it, were all here to help =]
 
She's being unreasonable. Flirting with guys is bad enough let alone flirting with ex's. Save yourself the trouble mate and get out of the relationship.
 
It sounds like she lacks total respect for you.

Why would she want to go out flirting with guys, especially with ex's, when she can be spending time with you instead?

Say byebye to her.
 
She's doesn't want to change and the relationship isn't mature enough for you to change that. You're better off without it. If I were you, I'd end it now, on good terms, and get on with enjoying life.
 
Im sure anyone will admit that seeing their girlfriend flirting with other fellas will really hack them off. I think it just shows a complete lack of respect for the other person in the relationship
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and so does any sane person.

i dont see why people in a relationship need to give the impression they are single and flirt with others unless they are the type who are always looking for something better.

get out now! i wouldnt put myself through it and if someone was flirting with my missus i would lay them out.
Do her, then do one tbh
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more like if you did her get down the clinic and get your self checked out for STDs
 
I fail to understand her logic in thinking that it's ok to flirt with other guys, in front of you. I suppose it's fair enough a little harmless flirting when you're not around, we all do it from time to time, but it's not really on if she's doing it while you're there.

If it's early on in the relationship, I'd be seriously weighing up how much I'd like to give it a go with how much I want to put up with it.

My opinion, for what it's worth, would be to go along to this night, and see how it goes. If it does indeed turn out to be dire and she's acting inappropriate, then say goodbye. But I really wouldn't be surprised if she didn't act like this, and she only kicked up a fuss because she 'doesn't want to be told what to do'.
 
I didnt bothere reading the op but from the general jist I can safe;y say do her then do her friend then move on.

Marky out!
 
I don't know how old she is, but she sounds like an attention seeking child.
Dump her before you become another "ex" on her list.

We all flirt......but not in front of our partners......unless we hate them.

My opinion Don't go. If you do you will feel a fool.
 
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