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ste_bla · 5 May 2009 at 20:24

Bit of a random question I guess. Basically at moment Me + Mrs + 3kids live together, she doesnt work due to their ages (1yr old and 2x3yr olds). I work and we get child and working tax credits at moment, not much due to my wage but a bit.

Now we may be splitting in the future and dont want to screw her over money wise so if I left what is she likely to be entitled to? Obv wil give her money for kids however will have to use some of my wages to live..

Cheers for any help!

Morba · 5 May 2009 at 20:29

why 'might' you be splitting soon fella?

Wiggins · 5 May 2009 at 20:32

I'm pretty sure that the working tax credit will stop, child credit will stay the same, her own single benefit may stay the same or increase but she will be entitled to maintenence from you although not sure how much. I would try and keep the CSA out of it as they are a bunch of arses (personal experiences trying to get money). She will also be entitled to housing benefit and she will not have to pay council tax on the property.

Wicksta · 5 May 2009 at 20:32

It always amazes me how blaze people are regarding relationships and more specifically commitment of bringing kids into the world these days.

I'm waiting for the 'spec me a divorce!! :-D

' thread.

Gothic Draconia · 5 May 2009 at 20:32

Income Support for herself, Child Tax Credits for the children. Any declared maintenance you pay would be factored in to her income though and would potentially affect the IS payments.

Morba · 5 May 2009 at 20:33

Wicksta said:
It always amazes me how blaze people are regarding relationships and more specifically commitment of bringing kids into the world these days.

I'm waiting for the 'spec me a divorce!! ' thread.

a simple question on the forum by a member and thats classed as blasé?

Wicksta · 5 May 2009 at 20:34

Morba said:
a simple question on the forum by a member and thats classed as blasé?

I guess it's the way I read the OP then.

aproctor · 5 May 2009 at 20:35

Gothic Draconia said:
Income Support for herself, Child Tax Credits for the children.

If she is going to be a single mum i would suggest she works 16 hours a week and get working tax credits as well, Childcare will also be covered by the state up to £300 iirc as you have 2 or more.

Go to you local council customer services and make a private appointment to see what you will be entitled to.

Burnsy2023 · 5 May 2009 at 20:35

Wicksta said:
It always amazes me how blaze people are regarding relationships and more specifically commitment of bringing kids into the world these days.

I'm waiting for the 'spec me a divorce!! ' thread.

I think it's a bit premature to jump to the conclusion the OP is taking this lightly.

ste_bla · 5 May 2009 at 20:35

Wicksta said:
It always amazes me how blaze people are regarding relationships and more specifically commitment of bringing kids into the world these days.

I'm waiting for the 'spec me a divorce!! ' thread.

LOL, well I thought it would have been together forever, been with her nearly a decade married 4 years. Didnt plan the kids but stuck by her..

Morba said:
why 'might' you be splitting soon fella?

Well just not work in out hasn't for last 6 or 7 months, cant deal with it any more tried for the kids and still will. But asking just in case because can't leave her to struggle financially..

It sucks

Participant · 5 May 2009 at 20:36

Wicksta said:
It always amazes me how blaze people are regarding relationships and more specifically commitment of bringing kids into the world these days.

I'm waiting for the 'spec me a divorce!! ' thread.

Often amazes me how people comment judgmentally on circumstances they know nothing about.

knip · 5 May 2009 at 20:37

ste_bla said:
Didnt plan the kids but stuck by her..

Um, if you didnt plan the kids then there are things you can do to stop having them?
Just saying like.

Wicksta · 5 May 2009 at 20:37

Good luck then ste, you've been together for 10 years, don't let a rough patch of 6/7 months split up your family, especially when you've just had a new baby which undoubtedly puts an extra strain on a relationship.

Have you considered counseling?

Tefal · 5 May 2009 at 20:38

doesn't your wife read/post on here too iirc?

this could get interesting.

Hedge · 5 May 2009 at 20:38

Go to the CAB with her and discuss everything.

Then when shes receiving her benefits and you are helping out financially. Do so by buying the kids clothes or something. That way she cant just spend your dosh on herself .

Wicksta · 5 May 2009 at 20:38

Robbie G said:
Often amazes me how people comment judgmentally on circumstances they know nothing about.

The irony of being called a **** by Robbie G.

Morba · 5 May 2009 at 20:39

knip said:
Um, if you didnt plan the kids then there are things you can do to stop having them?
Just saying like.

he said not planned, not not wanted ;]

dannyjo22 · 5 May 2009 at 20:39

ste_bla said:
LOL, well I thought it would have been together forever, been with her nearly a decade married 4 years. Didnt plan the kids but stuck by her..

3 kids, two goes. I'm betting one of you planned them

Sorry to hear about your troubles, I hope you can make it work. I imagine the thought of getting up and not being around your kids makes it's incredibly tough to walk away

Participant · 5 May 2009 at 20:40

Wicksta said:
The irony of being called a **** by Robbie G.

Never called you anything, and one thing I never do, is judge someone on a personal situation involving information to which I am not party.

By the way, is your signature anything to do with Gulf Air?

ste_bla · 5 May 2009 at 20:41

knip said:
Um, if you didnt plan the kids then there are things you can do to stop having them?
Just saying like.

Well if you really want to know she was on pill (twins) and implant (single) and then also Im allergic to latex condoms!

Really dont want to leave, makes me actually cry thinking about it (havent cried in 8 odd years bar poppingout my knee cap)