Any one happy being single or just become single and nervous about dating ?

I think there's a massive confidence thing. I was in a relationship for 2 years and immediately before that one for 3 years. When I was with my last GF I remember thinking that if I was single I'd be able to chat up and bed most of the women in the bar and considered myself good at talking to women.

Now that I don't have the luxury of going home to a beautiful women who loves me, I find that that confidence has disappeared out of the window!
 
hmm do I enjoy being single? No.
Do I prefer it to the potential misery and heartache of a relationship? Yes.

My first and last relationship with a girl who tore me to pieces has somewhat changed my perspective on things. I'm lucky in that I'm quite handsome and very confident so I tend to be able to get almost any girl I want but it never goes beyond a one night stand or more than a few weeks where the get-togethers are purely for sex.

Truth be told though I've become a sex addict in the last 3 years so I dont know if I'd even be able to be in a relationship with one woman anymore.

Kinda worries me
 
[TW]Fox;14056572 said:
Purely my personal experiences. I did not enjoy being single and kept telling myself it was great, I had loads of freedom, I could do what I wanted but it ended up being a case of just who was I trying to convince..
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Funny, I did that but in reverse during the last 6 months of my relationship! Guess you aint got any dawg left in you, I imagine I will grow up soon as well (but not to soon, I've been having a very good year)
 
Being single is great. The freedom to just do what the hell you like is brilliant but only if you have plenty to keep you occupied. I have a lot of hobbies and im constantly doing something to keep myself busy and most of the time i forget about women completely. That being said, who doesnt like being in a good relationship? Since a break up last January last year with my gf of three years ive dated a few people and each one of em' turned out to be very strange/psycho. I tried doing the internet dating thing which was a disaster, i even met a girl but she had some serious issues. Ive also had friends set me up with girls, again, turned out to be a nightmare.

I used to be nervous about dating as id get all wound up about trying to win the girl over, impress her and just hope she'd like me. Now though my attitude has totally changed. I couldnt care less anymore. After meeting wierdo after wierdo im not bothered about their opinion, its more a case of trying to figure out if they're barking mad early on. I dunno what it is, maybe its because im getting older, but 10 years ago dating was so easy and meeting the nice girls was absolutely no problem. My only conclusion is, all the good ones are taken.....or is it just that women in general turn into loons with age. I have no idea, but it scares me.
 
net_slayer said:
Being single is great. The freedom to just do what the hell you like is brilliant but only if you have plenty to keep you occupied.
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Definitely true... I'm either out with mates, going to concerts, out driving/exploring, doing flying lessons, music study or gaming. There's a few other courses and things I have lined up as well so I have no clue how I'd fit a serious relationship into the equation :)
 
When you find the right person, being in a relationship is much better than being single.

Solari said:
Definitely true... I'm either out with mates, going to concerts, out driving/exploring, doing flying lessons, music study or gaming. There's a few other courses and things I have lined up as well so I have no clue how I'd fit a serious relationship into the equation :)
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This ties in with what I said above - if you find the right girl, there's no reason why you can't both fully enjoy doing the things you mention.
 
Solari said:
Definitely true... I'm either out with mates, going to concerts, out driving/exploring, doing flying lessons, music study or gaming. There's a few other courses and things I have lined up as well so I have no clue how I'd fit a serious relationship into the equation :)
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When you get to the mid 20's where all your mates have gf or married then you'll find it is almost impossible to get them out of the house for any period of time.
 
I had gf's from the age of 16 to 32. Was only single for around 8 months of the total time. Now single for 18 Months and not looking for a long term relationship. Last gf was a terrible drain for the whole 4 years I was with her so now I'm looking after No.1 and loving it.

Sure I miss the affection and 'stuff' but I'm quite happy as I am until I'm ready for something serious.
 
I loved being single for the last couple of years it was great after being in a relationship for 3 years. I've met someone now though and its a little scary to be honest.

I enjoyed the going out and "the chase" a little bit too much while I was single. It kind of got boring though doing the same thing week after week and meeting up with girls I wasn't particularly arsed about so I guess Im ready to give a relationship another go. To be fair shes the only girls Ive met thats made me want to give it up and I'd regret not giving it a go.
 
I've been in my relationship since I was 18. I'm now 22.

I don't know what to think really. I am happy most of the time with her. I think its just like most relationships you argue every now and then ;)

I'm still not sure if I'm 100% happy in this relationship. But I guess I have a fear really of ending the relationship and regretting it.
 
shifty_uk said:
After coming out of my first proper relationship, which lasted two years I was almost desperate to find another permanent relationship, for a period of again, nearly two years - I generally don't associate with anything short term. Although this time promising myself I'd live by the "no ass is worth thinking that much about" theory.

After getting into another serious relationship five months ago - which is what I longed for.....Despite loving my partner, I often feel weird......like I'm not as dedicated and perhaps don't think as much of it as I should. I seem get a fair amount of attention, which results in me often having an urge for more. :confused: :eek: Maybe I just need to give it time.

So erm, yeah! Maybe single life aint that bad for some - all depends on the person though, find out what you're after.
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This sounds exactly what I went through. I ended up in said relationship for 2 years and for a long time wanting out. Now I am out, I want back in :(
In reality I think I realise that if we got back together it would be fine for a few months and then I would feel the same. Something wasn't right despite loving each other and getting on incredibly well, we just became friends more than anything.

You never know what you got till it's gone (they paved paradise, put up a parking lot)
 
Raymond Lin said:
When you get to the mid 20's where all your mates have gf or married then you'll find it is almost impossible to get them out of the house for any period of time.
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I'm 30, mate. A few of my friends have already been married and divorced! The ones that are in relationships are all pretty stressed and love getting out of the house when they can.

I've been through a few long-term relationships, was about to get engaged to the last one and had an up-the-duff scare when it all went wrong so had a lucky escape :)

It's easy saying "when you meet the right person", but that seems to be an increasingly difficult thing to do, especially as I'm very certain about what I do and don't want out of life. I don't want to waste anyone's time by letting them think I'm going to change - hence why the thing with the current lass is not going to get serious :)
 
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Started seeing a girl over a month ago, it's quite a tricky one with her though as she's got some trust issues because her ex was a complete ass. We both really really like each other and I see quite a lot each week (shes at Uni in Manchester).

What would you do if you were seeing a girl who you are really into, you both really really like each other, you could see yourself falling in love with her very soon, but she says she can't be with you because she isn't ready for a relationship yet?

She says she really cares about me but doesnt want to hurt me later down the line, because she thinks i'll mess up. She initially used to think I was going to hurt her which was quite annoying as i'm not that type of person, but I think she realises that I won't but it's just annoying when she keeps coming out with the 'It's not you, it's me' lines.

She goes through a phase of saying that we shouldn't see each other as she doesnt want to hurt me, but then texts me saying she misses me badly and wishes I was with her and cares about me sooooo much etc, and we go back to square one ha ha.

Another 'issue' with this at the moment is that her older sister (who is my age) is quite a good friend of mine, but she knows nothing about us, and she thinks she will go ape if she finds out. But I personally don't think she will as she knows what sort of person I am and I'd hope she'd be pleased that her sister isn't seeing some ass. But as she hasn't told her sister, and subsequently her Dad, I can't really go around to her house when she's at home, and she's afraid of coming round to mine as she thinks if she meets my mum and dad then that will cement us as being in a relationship (which she doesn't want atm).
So spending time with her at the weekend becomes a problem, especially when we both want to see each other!

Just wish she didn't have so many issues from her ex, I know she wishes she didn't as she REALLY wants to be with me (so she says) but doesn't want to put her heart on the line again.

Don't know what to do as it's my only serious relationship for ages and I don't want to lose her :(
 
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The girl I am seeing was the same at first, but she is finally coming around to the idea. Her ex was an arse too and she stayed with him throughout it. It made her put her guard up with me instantly and it was hard to get through to her that I wasn't like that... She just didn't want to get to like me because she was scared of getting hurt again. She finally come around to it though now, it was like a switch just flicked when she realised that I couln't cope with her being so closed off and was thinking about calling it a day.

Maybe she will be the same if she knows its really getting to you and she's risking losing you?
 
I've been single for a couple of months now and to be honest I find it a rather rubbish and depressing prospect. Not having someone to share your life with is a pretty lonely experience for the most part. The lack of affection (in every sense) is also kind of lame.

As for dating, I've never found it particularly troublesome. I've always been moderately successful with a sort of 'don't care, see how it goes' mentality. However finding someone who wants to date you, and, er, isn't a nutter and or completely ugly is getting increasingly difficult.

That said, I might just feel this way because I still love my ex rather a lot. Things weren't perfect, but they were certainly better than having no contact with her whatsoever.
 
I have lived in This house Alone for 14 years on 22nd of October so I think it is fair to say I am Happy on my own, Of course there has been plenty of Doris but I am not Mad enough to live with another one. (Yes All women Are Mental).

I do understand that I am different from most though & understand you all Need to be with someone, I do not. Each to there own a. :)
 
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