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NeoReloaded

NeoReloaded

NeoReloaded

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Hey guys not really a question as such, but mainly some where to vent and any advice you can give would help... if there is actually going to be some serious replys ;) I'll try to make this as short as i can so forgive me if it sounds like im babbling on a bit!

Up until 4 months ago i was seeing a girl who (long story short) screwed me around for 6 months then ran off back to her ex! Anyways 2 month ago i was out with a mate and his girlfriend and his girlfriend brought one of her mates out to cheer her up as she had recently been dumped by her boyfriend!

Didn't really think much of her at first as she seemed really quiet and a bit upset so i didn't speak to her much! A few weeks pass and i see her at a house party of my mates who i was out with that night and she seems a bit happier so we got talking and i heard her talking to my mates girlfriend telling her how she thinks im cute and lovely!

The night ends and she adds me on Facebook the next day, but once again i don't see or talk to her for a few weeks until one day i get a random txt from her (no idea how she got my number) just saying Hi etc so i txt her and we carry on txting non stop for the next 3 days till we meet up at the week end! We meet up and we just spend the whole of Saturday and Sunday flirting with each other just having a bit of fun infront of all my mates and hers then i find out she's been telling one of my mates she likes me and she's even had dreams about me!

It was a bank holiday Monday the day after so we decide to meet up round mine, watch a movie and grab something to eat and all is good until things start moving way to fast as before you know it we are all over each other and end up sleeping together on our first date if you can call it that! It didn't bother me at the time, but for the next 3 weeks she's coming round every night and even staying round, i mean im a 21 year old guy im not complaining if im getting some poon every other night, but in the back of my mind i know this was all gonna back fire and go **** up! How bloody right was i?!

Just as i start really liking her she starts to be really distant and i try not to think anything of it till i ask her last Tuesday! The answer is one i've heard one to many times "Im not ready for all this yet"?????!!!!! Considering it was her that came after me in the first place how the bloody hell can she turn round and say that?? Since last Tuesday she has phoned me twice crying her eyes out saying she's sorry, how she's confused and how she's still hurting from her ex cos he treated her badly! She came round on Sunday and we had a bit of a chat and she said she wants to take things a lot slower, but how the hell does she expect me to go from being so "close" to her to just hanging out having fun for a while? Im so confused right now especially as she has still been bombarding me with txts every day and she's gone on holiday to Turkey for a week with a few friends to chill out and get her head round a few things so i guess next week will tell how this is all gonna pan out :/

Thanks :D
 
wall of text crits you for 100

condense your post to teh essentials. it will make things clearer for you too
 
She hooked up with you on the rebound from her ex, with predictable results.

Now she's finally engaged her brain, but she still doesn't know what she wants. Move on.
 
You caught her on the rebound, and now that she's discovered that your prowess in bed is lacking, she's jumping ship.
 
She's rebounded and now she regrets it. Don't force her to stay in a relationship she doesnt want to be in, tell her you understand and that you've enjoyed what you had anyway.
 
i say take it slow and eventually it will become fast again, i mean were you happy when she was always around you staying over etc ? if you were then listen to her and try and accomodate her needs, only you know if she's worth it
 
Dmack said:
i say take it slow and eventually it will become fast again, i mean were you happy when she was always around you staying over etc ? if you were then listen to her and try and accomodate her needs, only you know if she's worth it
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Well yeah i was even though through all this we made it clear to each other that this is nothing serious, but we both seem to have got to close! I said to her i know im just a fall guy for her ex and that just made her cry and start saying how it's not like that etc etc...
 
I would say just see each other as friends for now. She's possibly scared of getting hurt again if her ex had messed her about.

how long ago did she split from her bf?
 
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Dont we look good together though :p
 
NeoReloaded said:
I said to her i know im just a fall guy for her ex and that just made her cry and start saying how it's not like that etc etc...
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Bad move rookie... if you're still interested (which i assume you are as you made your post) I would take it slow give her some time after her holiday to chill and then text her to ask how it went etc. Then I would ask her out for a casual drink (go to a pub and get one of those to share combo things) and just start from scratch. Ok I admit its not the most romantic idea in the world but its a casual environment and theres no need for pressure. Above all I wouldn't persist in asking her where you stand (I know you want to know) as I imagine you will just upset her. Give her time and she will make up her mind. Just stay relaxed, chilled, friendly and polite. :cool:

Aero

(in my opinion of course)
 
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