Poll: Ever had trouble dealing with a girlfriend/boyfriend's sexual past?

What number are you?

  • 1

    Votes: 78 60.0%

  • 2

    Votes: 19 14.6%

  • 3

    Votes: 9 6.9%

  • 4

    Votes: 6 4.6%

  • Other

    Votes: 18 13.8%
  • Total voters
    130

x-ray1983

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x-ray1983

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Not a particularly family freiendly topic, but one that is at the moment effecting me so I'd like to see if anyone had similar experiences.

As far as i know, people generally come under 4 categories:

1 - the past is the past, it doesn't bother me he/she is with me now.

2 - I am intimidated by some things that happened in his/her past, they have had more sexual partners than me, but it does not overly effect our relationship

3 - there are one or two things that really bother me about his/her past that I struggle dealing with for a number of reasons.

4 - Obviously there is the option that it's so bad you are considering breaking up.



Any of you categorise yourself in any of the above, if so how did you deal with it, or did you not?

Dicuss?
 
99% of the time 1, but certain things can be innocently said that turn my stomach, I'd never let it be an issue though
 
2.

If my gf had an exessive amount of partners than sorry but that would bother me. Also, if an ex of hers was hung like a donkey and she mentions it, then i would think she'll be comparing myself to him all the time
 
x-ray1983 said:
Not a particularly family freiendly topic, but one that is at the moment effecting me so I'd like to see if anyone had similar experiences.

As far as i know, people generally come under 4 categories:

1 - the past is the past, it doesn't bother me he/she is with me now.

2 - I am intimidated by some things that happened in his/her past, they have had more sexual partners than me, but it does not overly effect our relationship

3 - there are one or two things that really bother me about his/her past that I struggle dealing with for a number of reasons.

4 - Obviously there is the option that it's so bad you are considering breaking up.



Any of you categorise yourself in any of the above, if so how did you deal with it, or did you not?

Dicuss?
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Are you quoting Women's Own magazine or are you studying Psychology ?
 
Well i am a 3 potentially 4.

She had a threesome at the age of 21 with two 27 yr old guys from her Hockey Club (a lovely Surrey club). That really gets me, I hate that a lot. The thought of it, the way they would have talked about it after amongst the other lads on the team etc. I hate it.

She has also had a lot more sexual partners than me and had sex in public (under a CCTV camera).

That combined bothers me.



Thing is to meet her you wouldn't know, lovely, intelligent, well-spoken, etc etc. This never bothered me before, but as our relationship has gotten more serious and I am looking more to the long term I am wondering if i can cope with this for the next 5 years, or rest of my life.
 
robgmun said:
2.

If my gf had an exessive amount of partners than sorry but that would bother me. Also, if an ex of hers was hung like a donkey and she mentions it, then i would think she'll be comparing myself to him all the time
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What is excessive? What if she thought your number was "excessive"?

As for size, I lol'd

Oh and 1. for me
 
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