To take a freebe or not.

moremoney · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:13

A few days ago i started a thread about a trip to London, that i wanted to take with my 12 year old daughter,(for 2 days, for 12-13 Sept).

I told my mother about this idea, and today i recieved a check in the post for £500.

She also phoned me whilst i was watching the Arsenal Celtic game, just to say she wanted to pay for it.

Now i can afford to pay for it, but my mum has loads of money so she can as well.

What to do. Say thanks and let her pay, or say no thanks because i am a proud son.

oxygene · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:14

Easy. Pay for it yourself, then use the money your mother gave you to buy stuff for the girl? This way you ge to take her there and have a good time.

Ascendancy · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:15

Say thanks and let her pay. Refusing could offend her, and if she can afford it then why not let her spoil her son and grandchild.

buckeejit · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:15

oxygene said:
Easy. Pay for it yourself, then use the money your mother gave you to buy stuff for the girl? This way you ge to take her there and have a good time.

This

Burnsy2023 · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:15

oxygene said:
Easy. Pay for it yourself, then use the money your mother gave you to buy stuff for the girl? This way you ge to take her there and have a good time.

I totally agree. Let her go wild on Oxford St

Zefan · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:16

Returning it will make her feel like she's made you feel uncomfortable (which I know she has), so really you'd be doing the best thing by letting her pay.

moremoney · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:17

Burnsy2023 said:
I totally agree. Let her go wild on Oxford St

I had thought of this , but why can't i go wild on Oxford street instead

deuse · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:19

oxygene said:
Easy. Pay for it yourself, then use the money your mother gave you to buy stuff for the girl? This way you ge to take her there and have a good time.

This

oxygene · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:20

Ok let me put this another way. My brother has kids, and my mum (their grandmother) has very little money. The one thing she wishes she could do mroe then anything is treat them sometimes.
So if you take the money from your mother, you are happier cause you have to spend less, the kid is happier cause she gets more toys / pressies / clothes, and your mother is happy cause she can treat her grand kid. Do everyone a favour and take the money

metamorphpwner · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:22

i partly agree with oxygene, but i'd probably also buy something for the mother, it's her money but it's still a present so she'll be happy with that.

moremoney · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:23

Zefan said:
Returning it will make her feel like she's made you feel uncomfortable (which I know she has), so really you'd be doing the best thing by letting her pay.

Yes.

DanH84 · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:30

metamorphpwner said:
i partly agree with oxygene, but i'd probably also buy something for the mother, it's her money but it's still a present so she'll be happy with that.

good plan, let her pay for it, take lots of spending money and buy something really nice for your mother while you're down there.

Burnsy2023 · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:34

moremoney said:
I had thought of this , but why can't i go wild on Oxford street instead

Because she's 12 and will appriciate it more. And making someone happy is always a nice feeling.

ubern00b · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:38

moremoney said:
I had thought of this , but why can't i go wild on Oxford street instead

You had your time, I assume. This is your daughters time. Always put your kids first.

moremoney · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:39

Burnsy2023 said:
Because she's 12 and will appriciate it more. And making someone happy is always a nice feeling.

I hope i make you feel nice warm and cuddley by agreeing with you.

mac1st3 · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:41

and for the love of all that is holy, make sure you AND your daughter thanks your mum, so very common is it to say thanks on behalf of the child, but then the child just assumes this is normal, not a treat, expects it more often and your mother gets ignored or just seen as mrs moneybags

but good on the lot of you for being the type to do stuff, the people I know, (mostly the dads) don't do anything, just sit round ignoring the kids like an inconvenience :/

/rant >.>

durruti · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:43

Let her pay for it, if she has the money then why not - just make sure she gets her due credit and thanks.

Burnsy2023 · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:43

moremoney said:
I hope i make you feel nice warm and cuddley by agreeing with you.

Quite frankly I'm surprised you even asked the question.

Ricochet J · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:43

Keep it. A mother never stops providing no matter how old her son is.

meghatronic · 18 Aug 2009 at 22:46

Ascendancy said:
Say thanks and let her pay. Refusing could offend her, and if she can afford it then why not let her spoil her son and grandchild.