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Sorry to hear fella, but time is a great healer, cliche but true. Get out with some mates, pick up a new hobbie, Use this oppurtunity to enjoy youself and perhaps do things you weren't able to do or had time for when you where in a relationship.
Take it easy
Take it easy
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She's young, you're young. You both have so much to live and experience anyway so grab this opportunity to enjoy yourself, see the world and have fun.
It hurts, it sucks, but it'll get better, you'll get over it, and you'll meet someone else.
It hurts, it sucks, but it'll get better, you'll get over it, and you'll meet someone else.
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I split from my ex almost 3 years ago now and we'd been together almost 10 years (i'm 35). Weren't married but have a wonderful son together which made things more complicated. Met an amazing women soon after and aside from my boy wish i'd not wasted 10 years of my life with my ex now.
Time is a great healer and you'll find someone else despite how **** it feels right now and at 21 you've got a lot of time to enjoy yourself
All the best mate.
the one thing i enjoy about being single is having more money, not having to travel miles to see someone (most of my relationships have been distance ones) and I don't feel guilty about talking to/looking at other girls so enjoy your new wealth ;D
so enjoy your new wealth ;D
Given that you'd been going out since 15 its more then likely she was going to try something else with someone else, it hurts but thats the way it is.
There is nothing anyone can really say to cheer you up for a while.
It doesn't seem like it now, I know, but; you'll get over it.
There is nothing anyone can really say to cheer you up for a while.
It doesn't seem like it now, I know, but; you'll get over it.
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And they say moderators have no heart
Very thought of you dude.To the OP - really sorry about your problems though
Hope things work out soon.
Do not let on in any way shape or form on Facebook, verbally, or whatever to anyone other than your mates that you are suffering.
Use your anger, and other emotions to motivate yourself.
Don't contact her again. Just don't. She's rubbed your nose in it so stuff her to be honest.
Don't actively (Read: publicly) pursue a new relationship, or pine for the benefits being with her gave you.
Even if for some reason you want to, you'll never have her back now. She'll only realise what she had when she can no longer have it. I.e. when you've moved on.
All the best.
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Best advice in this thread.
Feel sorry for you OP. Chin up and go get a stunner and your soon forget about her
I was going by the Kinsey reports which say 50% of males vs. 26% of females have extramarital sex during their lifetime. The data is from the US 50 years ago though.
More recently (1994, 1997) studies on adultery have been around the proportions of 15% females and 20% males - studies are named on the wikipedia page. It's one of those things that is difficult to measure given that it relies on self-reporting, and the theory is that women will under-report and men will over-report thus skewing the statistics further.
To be honest I thnk it's as simple as 'people cheat' and men and women are as bad as each other.
My sympathies to the OP once again - life will go on and be the better for having a cheat out of your life.
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Ergh, I don't like those statistics. I realise they're pretty old statistics but makes me hope that my better half is also in the better half of the population. Brrrr.
The best thing you can do is shut her out and turn off what feeling you can get away with before they overcome you.
I've been there and done that all before. They moved on, way before I knew anything too, and i felt locked away by my feelings. I was a few years before I trusted anyone again. Worst time I care to recall but there's worse things going on in the world and you can now take the free time you should normally use with your partner and maybe try something new or spend more time with friends and move on.
Rising to her public Facebook and otherwise exploits will only end in further pain to yourself. I hope it doesn't affect you as a similar situation did to me (but I was a couple years younger), you obviously deserve much better
I've been there and done that all before. They moved on, way before I knew anything too, and i felt locked away by my feelings. I was a few years before I trusted anyone again. Worst time I care to recall but there's worse things going on in the world and you can now take the free time you should normally use with your partner and maybe try something new or spend more time with friends and move on.
Rising to her public Facebook and otherwise exploits will only end in further pain to yourself. I hope it doesn't affect you as a similar situation did to me (but I was a couple years younger), you obviously deserve much better
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Seem more women do it these day but meh maybe its just more women in my area cheat
.Best advice is to move on cut contact. Just take it on the chin its hard but I guess at least she told you every thing (unless shes lying). In most cases your left to wonder what happened and that will keep you up at night.
Move on and focus on the good things in your life. Time will heal honestly even thou these words will seem fruitless now but in 6 months time your be laughing about it.
What? You were using studies done in the 1940s by a zoologist to try and make a legitimate point? Have you read the study? Kinsey classified any couple that had lived together for a year as married, which skewers the statistics somewhat and makes the whole study rather irrelevant as an accurate statistical piece.
As highlighted at the time, there were some rather distinct problems with how he collected the evidence: large portions of the samples come from prison populations and male prostitutes, and people who volunteer to be interviewed about taboo subject are likely to suffer from the problem of self-selection. As John Tukey said:
"A random selection of three people would have been better than a group of 300 chosen by Mr. Kinsey."
Indeed, the person that followed Kinsey as director of his Research Institute for Sex, Paul Gebhard, spent most of his time cleaning up the data and removing large amounts of it.
Kinsey's report was nothing more then an elaborate expression of his own agenda, that was biased and based on his own sexual preferences more then anything else.
If we, foolishly, take Kinseys statistics as accurate for a minute: 50% of males commit adultery, 26% of women. Then, your statistics follow this with a more recent study saying it's 20% to 15%. So there is a convergence. Will the next study show 10% of men and 30% of women?
The argument that men cheat more is banded about mostly by raving feminists, or more worryingly by women that need to justify themselves. It's annoying, it's irritating, and it's plainly not true.
Cheers for all the replies people! Feeling the vodka today . I have taken motivation from this just not as much as I should (tishard). Aye I have been getting out meeting new people but I'm just not myself right now. The only thing that's done me big time is lack of eating, couldn't eat for a week. All that gym work down the pan thanks to her... Stone in a week nasty. Getting back to normal now the only inspiration for this post was the facebook update oooow that hurt .
. I have taken motivation from this just not as much as I should (tishard). Aye I have been getting out meeting new people but I'm just not myself right now. The only thing that's done me big time is lack of eating, couldn't eat for a week. All that gym work down the pan thanks to her... Stone in a week nasty. Getting back to normal now the only inspiration for this post was the facebook update oooow that hurt .- Status