Life's Do's and Don'ts

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Thought it might be a good idea to get people to post their do's and don'ts based on their personal experiences.

Here's a few of mine from lately:

Washing your car before a wedding?

Never wash you car the morning you are taking a car load of bridesmaids to the church. Why? because one of the girls I was taking brushed her dress over a slight wet patch in the inside of the door which was filthy and has a small amount of grease.. So she had a black line down the back of her dress. She cried for ages.. so did I nearly when the Mrs kicked me in the lower hemisphere.

Take cash when selling a car!

This seems quite obvious but when selling a car, always ask for cash.. or at least ask for a bankers draft or wait for funds to clear before handing over the keys. In this case, the person buying the car was a neighbour so really didn't think it would be a problem accepting a cheque.. So he handed me a cheque for £750 and we did the paper work etc. Afterwards, my Mrs said, “You’re trusting, what if the move tomorrow?”. I laughed, and said, “Silly mo, I don’t think that’s going to happen, do you?”

Why are woman always right.. Can you believe it; a removal van was parked outside their house this morning and they are gone!
 
Do ...

make the most of life.
Follow your gut instinct. It's always right.
try to learn from the past.

Don't ...

Change just to suit somebody else.
Be afraid to show the real you, your emotions etc. (Why should we hide how we are just because it might not look "cool")
be a doormat.
be scared to take chances
 
Do:

Cook something nice for yourself and friends at least once a fortnight, it makes you feel like you've accomplished something.

Don't:

Put everything off just because you can't be bothered, DO buy a tin of red bull and knuckle down to the job in hand, finish it as soon as possible, then go out and do some exercise.
 
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be
it. The long term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by
scientists whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
than my own meandering
experience…I will dispense this advice now. Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth; oh nevermind; you will not
understand the power and beauty of your youth until they have faded.
But trust me, in 20 years you’ll look back at photos of yourself and
recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
you and how fabulous you really looked….You’re not as fat as you
imagine. Don’t worry about the future; or worry, but know that worrying is as
effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing
bubblegum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that
never crossed your worried mind; the kind that blindside you at 4pm
on some idle Tuesday. Do one thing everyday that scares you Sing Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts, don’t put up with
people who are reckless with yours. Floss Don’t waste your time on jealousy; sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes
you’re behind…the race is long, and in the end, it’s only with
yourself. Remember the compliments you receive, forget the insults; if you
succeed in doing this, tell me how. Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements. Stretch Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your
life…the most interesting people I know didn’t know at 22 what they
wanted to do with their lives, some of the most interesting 40 year
olds I know still don’t. Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees, you’ll miss them when they’re gone. Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t, maybe you’ll have children,maybe
you won’t, maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the funky
chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary…what ever you do, don’t
congratulate yourself too much or berate yourself either – your
choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s. Enjoy your body,
use it every way you can…don’t be afraid of it, or what other people
think of it, it’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever
own.. Dance…even if you have nowhere to do it but in your own living room. Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them. Do NOT read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly. Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for
good. Be nice to your siblings; they are the best link to your past and the
people most likely to stick with you in the future. Understand that friends come and go,but for the precious few you
should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and
lifestyle because the older you get, the more you need the people you
knew when you were young. Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard; live
in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel. Accept certain inalienable truths, prices will rise, politicians will
philander, you too will get old, and when you do you’ll fantasize
that when you were young prices were reasonable, politicians were
noble and children respected their elders. Respect your elders. Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund,
maybe you have a wealthy spouse; but you never know when either one
might run out. Don’t mess too much with your hair, or by the time you're 40, it will
look 85. Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the
ugly parts and recycling it for more than
it’s worth. But trust me on the sunscreen…
 
Can we have one thread in GD that isn't ruined by crap comments, please?

Do:
Make a move - it is better to feel bad / humiliated in the short term and move on than to sit and wallow about what might have been.

Don't:
Stop yourself from making your new friendship grounds by confining yourself to the regulars. There is nothing better than having several key friendship groups to have fun with. The more people you know, the more people you meet who might become good friends.
 
Do:
Make a move - it is better to feel bad / humiliated in the short term and move on than to sit and wallow about what might have been.

And if the person is worth it, it'll end up well. I've got 3 absolutely ace friends out of this, and we are close as can be, much closer than when there was interest either way.
 
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