A life, lack of ....
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What exactly are you asking? How to make new friends? What to do with your life? Your post is vague to say the least...
You have a low self esteem because you have a sense that you're not doing anything worthwhile. Joining a club or society may be worthwhile, although you need to watch you don't get too absorbed in it to the detriment of anything else.
You could do something such as learning a foreign language - it would help your job prospects. You could take on some charity work, worthwhile and again would help your job prospects.
In short though, it's not you, it's the position your in.
I was unemployed for 3 months a very long time ago, and it made me feel awful.
You could do something such as learning a foreign language - it would help your job prospects. You could take on some charity work, worthwhile and again would help your job prospects.
In short though, it's not you, it's the position your in.
I was unemployed for 3 months a very long time ago, and it made me feel awful.
Not looking for any advice to be honest, just curious if anyone else is feeling a bit down at the moment i suppose.
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It's generally a good idea to clarify the subject of a thread when posting one.
Anyway. I'm sure you're not the only person 'a bit down'. Plenty of people are unemployed and struggling. At least you went to Uni and therefore probably have more employment prospects than many.
You say that, but the reality is that employers don't really give a toss unless you have the experience to back it up. As a fresh graduate in a recession you're stuck between a rock and a hard place; you can't get a job unless you have full-time relevent experience, but you can't get the experience because you don't have the job. It's idiocy at its finest.
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I'm crying a river here...
Someone with a degree still has better employment prospects than someone who doesn't. The 'experience' thing is entirely relative. If 5 people go fo a job, none of them have experience then the one with the degree is still more likely to get the job.
Starting Uni has crippled me financially as I had to leave my rather good paying full-time job and gone from having £300+ a week disposable income to having less than £20! So yeah loving the Uni but I'm only getting the fraction of the experience now. Not really feeling down though just a slow phase right now, going to start a decent part time job in November ish so thing will pick up at least. Still I do feel you, I'm pretty damn bored right now too.
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Yer i wanna go to Uni but i cant afford to, the so called goverment that helps us, has decided, that i aren't entitled to a penny to help me through it, as it still goes on my parents wage.
Although i live with my GF, been working for a year, and have seen my parents a handful of times.
Life is always gonna throw things at you unexpectedly, and everyone gets down from time to time, you just need to keep yourself busy and think positive.
In terms of work, improve your portfolio, charity work?
Generalised job until you find an appropriate one?
tbh I wish I was in this situation... starting A-levels and really cba, just don't have the willpower to force myself to work - so instead I end up posting here. I would enjoy sitting on my arse all day - just remember all those times you would have loved to do absolutely nothing but couldn't... enjoy it while it lasts.
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So why are you doing A-levels? Unless you enjoy it i dont see you doing well? No offence or ought but i did this in my first year of college and failed miserably, then really got off my ass changed course and loved it and came out with amazing grades.
Some things... just seem better when you're not doing them or at least not supposed to be.
Sitting on your arse all day without much company is one of those things.
I hate it! I've gone from working 60+ hours a week on two jobs in Newcastle and Sunderland (while living in Washington!) just 3 weeks ago to only having 11 hours of lectures and workshops at Uni and 1 or 2 shifts working on a bar. I do get easily bored though I suppose so each to their own eh?
If you aren't already doing so I'd start getting yourself fit. That will help build up your self esteem. If you can afford to, join a gym.
You could consider doing a bit of volunteer/charity work too. It'll get you out meeting people and it will look good on your CV.
You could consider doing a bit of volunteer/charity work too. It'll get you out meeting people and it will look good on your CV.
You're attitude is soon going to change, especially if you don't go to Uni. Also, you're lucky to be in college atm because it's one of the most secure places to be, you have no real housing worries due to being at home (I hope), and most likely no real financial worries because you don't really have any financial outgoing such as a mortgage/student living etc.
State funded education while living at home is the best place to be atm, my friend left college this year and hasn't found a job, and he's just so down about the whole thing because he just sits around most of the day trying to find a job and is really struggling.
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But at 21/22 when most people leave university you're going to have very few people at that age with zero experience, so the point is moot. In realitistic terms seek, it's very hard for a graduate at the moment; no-one cares about the degree - they want 3-4 years full-time experience on the cards. I know this because I spent a year clinging to my sanity for the very same reasons the OP has listed. You're trying to sugarcoat something, and although that's nice of you - it's not practical and sentiment is not what he needs at the moment. The boy wants his life back, not some bitter words from the green-eyed monster.
Besides, needs are relative and let's not forget that people are creatures of habit; so what if the boy has a degree - he's still struggling now irregardless of what he has after his name and a degree did not prevent that and it will not solve it by virtue of existing. The reality is, in the current job market; you need relevent experience. Graduates aren't a holy grail - they are also seen as being risky, expensive to train and pragmatic, so therefore likely to 'fly the nest' as soon as the weather changes. Couple that with having no tangible experience in a given area - what is one to do? Saying "Oh, don't worry - at least you have a degree." isn't going to change anything. It's just a poor exercise at making people feel better. If you really want to make the poor lad feel better; help him find work and change his circumstance.