Think i just got the "Good Friends" treatment :S

Zenduri

Zenduri

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Meh women....... I need help decifering this strange bloody creature.

This thread oozes lameness so im prepared for the evident ribbings and "such a p***y " comments im gonna get.

Im 24, shes 20 we're work collegues or was until yesterday when I was laid off due to "over staffing".

We get on like a house on fire, texting in the evenings, have those instances where we look up and find ourselves smiling back at each other and to the extent that every break, lunch, before work, after work shes hanging around me and coming over to me for a hug god knows how many times a day.

I've been trying to pluck up the courage to say something for weeks and dont get me wrong I want to, but she is stunning and im not exactly the best catch. But considering I got laid off I thought what the hell might as well try and make it a bit more obvious I really like her and if it goes **** upwards its not like i have to work with her now.

Anyway I went to see her at lunch today and when I turned up she runs down the road and literally jumps at me arms open nearly sending my flying into these 2 old women behind me (they found it funny).

So we spend about and hour together just talking and she admits she was nearly crying when I left work on tuesday.
So im thinking surely I cant be reading this entirely wrong so we part and I text her about half hour later saying I really enjoyed seeing her which she responded with the same.

Anyway after about 100 texts this evening between us I sent something along the lines of

"Well im going to miss seeing you every day at work so we'll have to keep in contact better, it feels like i've lost something special"

She replied "well im going to miss you more"

I replied "how do you know youll miss me more than I miss you"

Then the bombshell came...

"it felt like I lost a really good friend and i know ive found one"

She now wants me to meet her at lunch again to spend time with her...

So... back to handcream and razzle or keep trying?
Anyone had this similar sort of treatment and what outcome did you have?


Insults/Jokes/Witty comments may start now
 
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The friend zone is a myth maintained by people who are either too wimpy to ask a girl out or fancy a girl who doesn't find them attractive.

You can rescue this, but you have to be more than a friend. By that, I mean somebody with oomph and sex appeal, not just an ear that 'understands'.

Better to make a move and find out rather than to wallow in grief for what could have been. Be warned, the more you faff with being forward, the more awkward it will eventually be.
 
Lol you should see half the texts from me and her doochickey they all ooze the same cheese.

I forgot to mention she split with her ex 2 weeks ago and shes been hanging around me since like a tramp on chips.
 
Nitefly said:
The friend zone is a myth maintained by people who are either too wimpy to ask a girl out or fancy a girl who doesn't find them attractive.
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I agree with the last part but you can only know you're in the friend zone if you make a move. I don't think it's a myth. It means the girl sees you only as a friend because she doesn't find you attractive.
 
HybridX said:
I forgot to mention she split with her ex 2 weeks ago and shes been hanging around me since like a tramp on chips.
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Well then I think you probably already realise you should take it a bit easier in this case! (Edit: either that or smash said pasty while you can). Was she with her ex for long?
 
Jambo said:
I agree with the last part but you can only know you're in the friend zone if you make a move. I don't think it's a myth. It means the girl sees you only as a friend because she doesn't find you attractive.
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The friend zone, in my experience, has been a reference to a stalemate situation where the individual (usually a boy) feels too awkward to make a move because the two are good friends. There may be different interpretations of that phrase, however!
 
Ah, rebound!

You're only going to get hurt mate. If you're going to explore some caverns, I'd do it then get the hell out of Dodge.

Either way, nothing ventured and all that lark... send her an MMS of your gibblets and see what happens.
 
This is the issue Jambo, im not fat but im stocky and shes 5 11 same as me and has a figure to die for. Sometimes I get the impression she cant be without me then overtimes its we're friends its ok
 
Hmm she's either going to say no because it's too soon and she's not ready for it, fair enough, or she's hanging around with you because she likes the attention (especially after breaking up with her bf), did he finish with her? If yes then this last point might be the one. How long have you known each other?

You should just come clean. You will go crazy being her 'friend' until you know for sure where you stand.
 
Just lol Nix.
Also im loving the use of "smash the pasty" on OcUK, never heard ti before but i think its a fantastic phrase.

Re her and her ex, she broke it off realising he was a ******** and it doesnt seem to bother her that she broke it off.
They were together 8 months, ive known her for 2-3months and before she broke up with her ex she was getting more friendly with me eg hanging around more, the hugs etc


To me its a case of "the words say friends but her actions say otherwise"
 
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Hmm, so HybridX, you're wondering whether you're just her cuddly, watch Grey's Anatomy together while eating Ben and Jerry's, lunch sharing, post break-up companion, i.e. basically you're her girl-friend, or whether she sees you as more than that.

Solution: Ask her. Should you fail to possess the necessary testicular mass to do this, if ever you're alone together, perfect example being sitting on couch, watching Grey's Anatomy, eating Ben and Jerry's, make some lingering eye contact and see how it feels. You'll just 'know' if there's anything there. (p.s. Don't rape her)
 
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