Think i just got the "Good Friends" treatment :S

HybridX said:
lol totality im going i7 920 in 2 weeks lol.
Well done for geek comment of the thread though lol
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Lol. Well on topic, just get drunk and text her something along the lines of "Do you want to be more than friends?". She sounds as if she will make up something like "But I want you as a friend and if we get together I will lose you as that" so then you know she's not interested. She sounds like an outgoing sort of person though so she would show more intimate interest if she was interested as she doesnt sound shy.

Stop faffing about though and just do it. You'll feel better after just coming out and asking her... then you can post results on here.
 
HybridX said:
Problem im immensely skint until my ex work pays me on 30th so the whole wine and dvd thing isnt helping at the moment lol
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well, I'm sure you've got some suitable dvd that would be equally terrible :p or she's pretty much guaranteed to have something appropriate :)
takeaway/wine etc, isn't too important, cook for her/just chill infront of the tv, doesn't need to be some massive romantic gesture, jsut something relaxing to take her mind off her situation
 
!bluetonic! said:
Why does it have to be wishful thinking? Are you waiting for her to make a move. Is she waiting for you to make a move. Aged Whiskey is made is less time.

How are you with playful flirting? Get a one-legged prostitute to teach you. If anything, it will make a humours anecdote in a few years time at your wedding speech. If you don't send a message, it won't get through. Wear some super-tight jeans and see if she notices your crotch. If she does, then she is interested.

Tell her some humours observations about your job. "A woman asked for the meat counter. I pointed to myself and told her is was right here. "

When you see an ugly guy with a sexy women ask yourself 'How come he's with her"... It's because he asked her!
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To be honest, flirting isn't really going to work. She's not really that sort of girl and I'm definitely not that sort of guy. When I said "win her over", I meant let her get to know me more, that sort of thing, rather than wearing her down. I'm not good-looking and I do come across as a bit shy and rather unconfident/awkward to begin with, it's only by keeping at it that people tend to realise I'm actually quite interesting, funny and worth knowing. It's only by me stepping out of my comfort zone a bit in the first place that we've gotten to know each other as well as we do now. The problem I face is weighing up the risks of whether to try and take things further or not. God knows I want to, but I'd also hate to jeopardise our friendship. I realise that's not a very manly thing to say, but I don't have many friends now since finishing uni (everyone's moved away/back home and I have my own place now), and it's very rare that I meet people like her that I feel I can actually just be myself around, so it'd be a lot to lose. Especially from a work point of view, I get on with people there but she's the only person I can actually talk to about stuff. Everyone else these days just seems so...shallow.

I don't feel like I've explained the situation very well to be honest, but I'd go on for hours if I were to try to, so I'll refrain from that. I think I just have to do what I feel is right. I'm just not sure what that even is yet.
 
Considering she can get really soppy im thinking of bringin out the big guns

E.G Armageddon... i dont know ANY emotional women that dont blub like a baby when they see that.

Ive asked her is she wants to hang out after work so lets see what happens
 
SciNeT said:
Aww thank you/aww bless... you're clearly the friend I'm afraid. ;)
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I agree with this, 'aawwww' is never indicative of interest beyond friends. It implies cute/sweet, which in turn implies friend.

Hopefully not the case, but going on past experiences and those of my mates I doubt it.
 
My take on what you've just said;

HybridX said:
She text me asking her if i was meeting her still, i replied if shes wants me to
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This makes you sound insecure and unsure. You left the decision up to her which is a no no. I'm not sure if the idea was to 'play hard to get?' If so It doesn't come off that way.


HybridX said:
She then replied with "if your busy ill goto my mates for lunch xx"
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I see that as a **** test. Basically baiting you to beg to see her.

HybridX said:
i text her back saying something along the lines of well i want to see you what are you doing then going to your friends or meeting me
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You 'want' to see her? Sounds like you 'need' to. Then you gave her the choice of seeing her friend over you? This sounds both needy and again insecure. Of course she would want to see her friend over you, but should you give her the choice? No.

In my opinion you should have said (not in a stroppy way) that you're going out to eat anyway, and if she still wants to join you then she's welcome, if not then no biggy.

Fair play the story about her x kicking off could be true, but from the sounds of it she would probably of had more fun, in the emotional sense, than she would have 'probably maybe if you want me to' lunch with you.

This may sound harsh but I mean no offence and am just offering my take on the story. As someone said, look up basic 'pick up artist stuff.' Don't get bogged down in all the pick-up lines and routines, but focus on how to display yourself and handle yourself around women.

Basically, make decisions, stick with them, believe in yourself, don't get taken for a ride and have fun!
 
Get her really drunk, seduce her, smash her pasty, take photo's of her passed out naked dribbling vomit and saliva in your bed then bribe her to be your girlfriend under threat of posting said photo's on Facebook. Thats what I'd do...
 
krooton said:
I agree with this, 'aawwww' is never indicative of interest beyond friends. It implies cute/sweet, which in turn implies friend.

Hopefully not the case, but going on past experiences and those of my mates I doubt it.
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I wouldn't say so. I've always said "aww" to certain thing that my now bf has said. Doesn't mean that I only ever wanted him as a friend. It could just be what she says. Also, sweet/cute aren't just friend terms either, just because they're not sexual/imply something sexual doesn't mean that a relationship is off the cards.

From reading this thread, guys seem to read way to much into how girls say/do things. Not all girls play games, you know. ;)
 
HybridX said:
TBH aside from the multiple jokes etc there is some interesting reading here.

I reckon ive blown it though tbh
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You can read all this advice and if you try and take all of it onboard it'll just mess you up even more.

I would sum it all up in that you just need to tell her the truth and quickly, no more fannying about, get it out there, if she's at all interested then you'll hear what you want to hear, if not then you at least have your mind at rest.
 
Hai you guyz! Sorry but I cba to read the whole thread aside from the OP's first post. So has he had any luck or what? :D

If not...CARPE THAT DIEM OP!
 
I bet she's spent the day on some extreme knitting or ironing forum asking "why wont this cretin ask me out, its not like ive not dropped enough hints" :p
 
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