yer i wasn't sure whether that would go down well. Basically what i mean by that, is that the child has had his/her way for so long that it can't comprehend a refusal. Also if it never really has to do anything, i.e. mum can i have some food, mum can you get me this, mum can you get me that etc etc, your parents become slave figures and the child thinks it is the boss.
I agree, if its got to the stage where the mother has to call out the police to deal with a 10 year old then something is seriously wrong with the way the mother has brought up the kid in the first place.
You see the wee buggers all the time, you know the sort, the wee ***** that roll about the floor bawling their eyes out in Tescos or whatever because there mum refused to buy them a bag of crisps or some other junk. I've seen ones that were hitting their mother because of her refusal to buy them something.
The wee buggers have no respect. They shouldn't see their parents as a money piñata, or a walking treat dispensary. They should have to earn their treats, not misbehave to the point where their parent gives in to shut them up.
The parents need to stop being spineless and actually stand up to their children, let them know that no means no, and if that fails, give them a slap on the arse to shut them up. If you don't do it, the kid wont respect you, and you'll just get walked over like a doormat till the ungrateful child moves out.
They shouldn't be in the situation where the parent has to resort to bringing in a third person to the argument to resolve problems. I especially hate those parents who say "stop it, or the man over there will shout at you". Thats just saying to the kid that you know that it doesn't respect you, but you hope its fear of strangers is sufficient to stop its actions.
Some parents just need to buck their ideas up, and sort out where they stand in the relationship with their kid.