Would it bother you if...

-westy- said:
..your girlfriend still wore the engagement ring from her ex on her other hand?

Up to now, it hasn't bothered me - but considering the subject of an arguement we've had, I found it kind of hypocritical.

Would it bother you?
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It would bother me from the get-go, in fact i probably wouldn't get invloved with her on any level until she agrees to get rid of it
 
Umm I think it's slightly disrespectful or inconsiderate at least that she's still wearing it. I mean, it was an ENGAGEMENT ring; it would probably have been different if it were just a ring he bought her for her birthday or something. As a girl I can appreciate that the ring may be very pretty or what have you, but it's always going to be a gift from another man and a sign of something pretty serious she shared with somebody else before you. If he died or something, then that's different. But ehh... No. I wouldn't carry on wearing the ring no matter how pretty it was.
 
If I was convinced she was only interested in the ring as a piece of jewellery I'd be OK with it, probably. Depends what the argument was about.
 
Fritzy said:
and a sign of something pretty serious she shared with somebody else before you.
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You say that...my ex was proposed to by text, she said yes because she didn't know what to say...so just because a girl has the ring, doesn't mean it's for all the right reasons etc. ;)
 
Got some unwanted jewelry you'd like to exchange for cash? :D

Sorry. No, not really, women love that whole "Oh I don't mind we're together now and thats all that matters, bugger the past" thing.
 
robgmun said:
It would bother me from the get-go, in fact i probably wouldn't get invloved with her on any level until she agrees to get rid of it
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Why would you be threatened by a ring?

My attempt at examining the possible female logic behind it is as such:

She might like it as a piece of jewellery, couldn't care less about the guy who gave it to her, and/or may even wear it to spite him as he wasted his money on it.

Or she likes it as a piece of jewellery, and may fondly remember times they had together and sees it as a happy keepsake, you know it's perfectly acceptable to look at past relationships and partners with a fondness if you had some good times together

You don't have to instantly deject anything to do with them as soon as your relationship ends, it doesn't mean she wants to go back and **** him and get married either, but if that is the case, any endeavours with her aren't going to end well, regardless or not of whether she's wearing a ring.

You're probably making up and placing more meaning on the ring than she does.
 
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I think I'd try and be mature and act like it didn't bother me, but yeah it probably would. I think she should consider your feelings a bit more, whether it bothers you or not. And if it is only a piece of meaningless jewelery she should bin it.
 
Smear your man-juice on it when she's asleep, so from then on whenever you get a twinge of 'that's weird' you can smile with the thought of her carrying around a crust of mini-westys- on her finger.

:p
 
David41 said:
And if it is only a piece of meaningless jewelery she should bin it.
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Most jewellery is meaningless, how many pieces of jewellery do women own that has 'meaning', an engagement/wedding ring, and a few gifts? how many of that actually sustains it's meaning for a lifetime? the meaning is substantiated by the relationship.

What about all of the jewellery they bought for themselves, that has no 'meaning' either, should they throw that away as well?

They wear it because they like extravagant shiny luxuries, if people are getting so threatened over jewellery, the jewellery isn't the issue, the issue would be there regardless of whether or not she was wearing some jewelry which you've pronounced must have some deep meaning and she wants to go and marry whoever gave it to her.
 
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shauncr91 said:
Well since rings generally are there to seal the promise to marry, yes.
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This isn't always true .. my ring was given to me as a birthday present from my bf and although it does have significant meaning its nothing to do with marriage/engagement. In regards to the question I think if you with someone else and your still wearing a ring an ex gave you especially an engagement ring it would suggest maybe still holding a torch for them.
 
Mr_White said:
Why would you be threatened by a ring?
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That's the kind of bullcrap that woman would say and doormat men will eat up. If she has a ring then she's still hankering after a lost love. And isn't 100% focused or devoted you, get rid and get a proper woman that isn't emotionally broken
 
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robgmun said:
That's the kind of bullcrap that woman would say and doormat men will eat up.
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No it's not, it's a logical conclusion, if it's not, you've either got some issues, or you don't trust her.

If you don't know what her feelings are, or if she's still got such strong feelings for whoever gave her the ring that she wants to go and marry him, then you're ****ed either way, ring or not.

Why do you attach this illogical mystical force to a piece of jewellery? sometimes a ring is just ring ;)
 
Would you guys expect your women to get rid of everything their ex's ever bought them? They were all bought for her because they were in love or in a relationship or whatever.
 
Yes, it would bother me. In the same way it is unacceptable to give a ring you were going to give to another/or did and was refused etc to your current partner.

Regardless of whether she feels it means anything, the point is that it was given as a symbol of their 'love' or relationship and intent to marry and spend forever with eachother. Why she would want to continue to wear it is beyond me. It being pretty is not a reason, she could sell that ring and buy a new one. It sounds like she places sentimental value on the ring and doesn't want to part with it.
 
Gackt said:
It sounds like she places sentimental value on the ring and doesn't want to part with it.
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So you're not allowed to place sentimental value on something you've been given by someone you loved, and is not unreasonable to assume are probably still fond of them if it ended amicably.

Do you propose that everything and anything to do with them is destroyed and dejected as soon as the relationship is over, any keepsakes aren't allowed, otherwise she can't be trusted and wants to get back with them?

Rather irrational, isn't it?
 
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