Pregnancy dilemma

jp_bl_68 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:46

sniffy said:
You NEED to tell her everything and just talk; we can't help you with that mate.

This.

Keep, adopt, abort or separate. Those are your options.

Biohazard · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:46

YYYYYYYYEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEHHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA COWBOY.

Glaucus · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:47

StewartMG said:
I don't understand this whole "it's up to her argument" tbph, ok she is the one pregnant but by having it she is ruining your life as well, so surely you have a say?

at the end of the day, you have no say.

johnny6 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:48

It’s not necessarily a quick fix, as some women never fully get over having an abortion. So I'd urge you not to pressurize her into getting an abortion, and only go down that route if that’s what she wants.

I'd hate to say it but regardless of what your feelings are on the matter, the decision is totally out of your hands.

adam0109080 said:
She knows I desperately don't want the child and even said she'd understand me walking away - but it's not something I could do, not to mention hardly looks good to a child when theyre old enough to realise their dad walked out and just left them...

Walking away from her doesn't mean walking away from the child. I split with the mother of my child when he was 3 months old. 15 years later I still see him almost every weekend.

Energize · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:49

What crappy protection were you using? Sure she wasn't cheating considering you don't see her very often?

graemer · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:50

who doesnt struggle sometimes baby or not.

is it unfair to have a sibling with a different father - I have seen, worked with, plenty of single parents who actually do better that children in the "typical" family (if there is sucha thing these days).

There is no need to dump her andwalk away just be there in the best way that suits the three, soon to be 4, of you.

You sound like a straight up person. I am sure you will do the right thing just tell her your fearswithout pressuring her.

Schizo · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:50

Biohazard said:
Jeremy kyle tbh

roflmao....thats not nice,the man is trouble and needs help and support from normal people and not jeremy kyle.

4T5 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:51

Yer righto Troll boy, Just tell us who you was in a prior forum life & then take your bannage.

adam0109080 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:52

Energize said:
What crappy protection were you using? Sure she wasn't cheating considering you don't see her very often?

The pill, which is why after 7 years I kinda wondered why now it failed?! Even though I know its not 100% reliable.
But the thing is, it's the type that needs to be taken within the same time every day...And if she's taken it outside of that time scale thats probably whats happened... But as said above the male has no argument, of course you can use condoms, but I don't think there is anyone who is seeing a partner for 7 years who would still be using condoms...

chrispystix · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:53

Hovis!

Mr Doovde · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:53

Does she really want the baby, or is it mainly to prevent depression? As AcidHell2 and sniffy have mentioned, you must discuss your feelings with her as soon as possible.

adam0109080 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:54

Im not sure if she does, she just doesn't want to suffer depression and go back into a rut which she is not long out of, hence my guilt at the whole situation as well.

I've not really asked her for what reasons she'd keep the child other than that...

Randomface74 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:55

StewartMG said:
I don't understand this whole "it's up to her argument" tbph, ok she is the one pregnant but by having it she is ruining your life as well, so surely you have a say?

Yea but if they don't see it that way, what r u gonna do about it?

graemer · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:55

now you have to be kidding. The idea of a daily pill is that you build up protection so missing one or even 2 days will make little if any difference as long as it wasnt more than a week.

Randomface74 · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:56

The pill shouldn't be used alone. And the pill isn't protection FOR YOU.

If she gets a cold or anything the pill can stop working completely.

I've changed my mind, it's ur own stupid fault.

Energize · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:57

adam0109080 said:
The pill, which is why after 7 years I kinda wondered why now it failed?! Even though I know its not 100% reliable.
But the thing is, it's the type that needs to be taken within the same time every day...And if she's taken it outside of that time scale thats probably whats happened...

That's a lesson learned then. Never rely on the pill, especially considering your putting your trust in someone else taking it properly. You have to take responsibility yourself and use a condom or get a vasectomy.

But as said above the male has no argument, of course you can use condoms, but I don't think there is anyone who is seeing a partner for 7 years who would still be using condoms...

That's because they've had a vasectomy.

Biohazard · 28 Nov 2009 at 19:58

learn kungfu

No1newts · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:00

Dear god that solid wall of text melted my eyes, unfortunately not before it gave me a headache

Man up here and do the right thing i.e. support the kid if she chooses to have it. You dont need to be with her to support the child.

Glaucus · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:00

graemer said:
now you have to be kidding. The idea of a daily pill is that you build up protection so missing one or even 2 days will make little if any difference as long as it wasnt more than a week.

go read up on it. Oh sod it here it is.

Y

Yes, as long as the pill is taken every day consistently. Pregnancy can occur if the pill is not taken correctly. For example:

* If pills are begun too late in the course of the menstrual cycle

* If two or more pills are missed in a row

* If pills are not taken in the correct order

* For the really low-dose pills, even if you are half-day late taking the pills

What are the chances of getting pregnant using the pill?

* Typical use: 5 percent

* Perfect use: 0.1 percent

What if I miss a pill?
Although you should take the pill at roughly the same time of day, it is not considered missing the pill unless you forget to take the pill for the whole day.

* If you miss any hormone pills, you need a backup method of birth control (such as condom) for the rest of the month.

* If you miss one hormone pill: take it with current day's pill (2 total) as soon as you remember.

* If you miss 2 hormone pills: take 2 pills as soon as you remember, and 2 the next day, then back to normal.

* If you miss three pills, that's it! You will get your period. Throw away the package and start over with a new package.

* If you miss a sugar pill, don't worry about it. Stay on track with your pack.

Which is why an implant is better.

graemer · 28 Nov 2009 at 20:03

AcidHell2 said:
go read up on it. Oh sod it here it is.

Y

Which is why an implant is better.

It depends what pill you take the combination pill is the most common that missing the pill is only important at the stage of the cycle ie first week and last week.

"You could become pregnant depending on when you miss pills and how many of them you miss. There is a highly increased chance of pregnancy if you go without hormones for seven or more days in a row. This could happen if you don’t start a new pack on time and/or forget to take the last one or two pills in the pack." Planned Parentood

Actually just re read my post and isnt it ironic that a website called planned parenthood may be giving poor advice about contraception.

Anyhoo a bit off topic.