A massive moral dilemma - how do I approach this?

Just change her password and not her security question.

She will soon change it all then :p
 
to the op. a similar thing happened to a friend of mine not so long ago. he guessed his girlfriend of about 18 months password on the second attempt (he says he was bored) he read her emails and it turned out she was still very close (close but not cheating but a bit of flirting - only via email) with an old school friend who had moved away. there was NOTHING other than a few harmless winks, friends kisses at the end of emails etc but this screwed with his head big time (he didn't tell her for nearly a month - but he kept reading her email) and he eventually told her in a ''do you still see/keep in contact with xyz'' and what started as an simple conversation snowballed into him being convinced she was cheating with him (she wasn't hadn't even seen the bloke since he moved in 2001) and it ended because he said he could never trust her. bottom line is, she'd done nothing wrong but you know what us blokes are like!? jealousy took over and he admits now it totally clouded his vision. they are slowly working things out but it will never be the same.

what you are faced with here, is pandoras box. i suggest you don't open it, no matter how tempting it is. in fact, i'd even go as far as to get you gf to change her security question to remove any temptation and get it out of your head.
 
Ziggy said:
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LOL @ that. :D

To the OP: It's probably best that you never read her mails, even if you never intended to I'm still suggesting that you don't. Similar to the story a few posts above, if you happen to come across anything like harmless flirting it will totally mess with your head and you'll just become paranoid, and probably never see her in the same light again.

Just keep your head out of her mail, don't tell her about the security question, you're only worrying because you found out how easy you think her question is, if you'd have never tried to guess it you never would have known and thus wouldn't be concerned in the slightest despite the information still being the same.

If you tell her you tried to guess it then the above is probably applicable to her, she'll start not trusting you and I don't think you really want that? Just keep quiet about the entire thing, OR, if you really want to you could go ahead and change her security question to some random numbers or letters, try and give her the impression her account has been hacked, but don't tell her. Then, when she tries to login and can't you can help her change her question to something far more strong security wise and everybody's happy, right? :)
 
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bledd. said:
Just tell her "you have an easy security question, change it"

I don't see the issue
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Because women are usually mad and pent up with hormones! :o

If he says that she'll rage at him for trying to guess the security question in the first place!

Unless that's just Welsh girls that would do that. :(
 
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