I've never understood how people can just accept things and/or the way they feel and 'get on with it' leaving so many stones unturned and questions unanswered. I think that's the problem for me, it drives me to destraction; I don't want it to be my destruction!
Does everyone front happiness...
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Seriously dude, you need to go out and explore. Anything. Keep trying new things until something sticks.
I had a very boring and lonely (despite living in a house of 5 people) 6 months after uni. It was the drive to just 'go out and bloody well do something' which got me dancing. It's a simple pleasure but the joy of the music, the g-forces, the connection to the other person, and the (for me) glory in showing-off a bit... Wonderful. Pure pleasure.
I'm not saying dancing will be your 'thing' but /something/ will.
I had a very boring and lonely (despite living in a house of 5 people) 6 months after uni. It was the drive to just 'go out and bloody well do something' which got me dancing. It's a simple pleasure but the joy of the music, the g-forces, the connection to the other person, and the (for me) glory in showing-off a bit... Wonderful. Pure pleasure.
I'm not saying dancing will be your 'thing' but /something/ will.
I can relate to the opening post and the penultimate one - always wondering why such and such things happened, just so I can learn from it, or make amends. It frustrates me wanting to analyse everything; I just cannot move on easily, I'd rather find out what went wrong and fix it. And similarly, I do wonder if things would be easier if I was stupider. But then, I accept who I am and how I deal with things in my life. I have never been a naturally happy person as a result. I do things that make me happy in the short term, but in the long run it will be tough but I think I know what is needed for that to happen.
Well, what's the alternative? Sit and stare into space, looking all deep and meaningful, while pondering the universe as a single tear rolls down your cheek?
People that 'get on with it' aren't any less intelligent. They still think about 'deep' things. They've just realised that they're not special, they're not thinking incredible new thoughts that nobody has had before, they're not going to find all the answers. And if they waste all their time thinking that they are something that they're not, then life will pass them by and they'll end up feeling just like you do.
Bingo. Took me a long while to realise this.
Ok let's not be so melodramatic here. You have to realise that some questions make no sense and have no answers. They are likely based on false premises. Learn to accept that you will never know everything.
Another +1.
Speak for yourself - I consider myself to be 'special' as in I value myself and I believe that I can make a difference to things I get involved in (not special as in that I think I am better than anybody in particular). If you don't have any faith in yourself that you are of value then life is never going to be a sack of fun.
I think that was the point he is trying to make.
We are all individuals, (in unison: "Yes! We are all individuals!") of course, and we can all make differences - but apart from maybe the first philosophers who tried to figure out existence and its meaning away from religion, most of this agonising about happiness and the meaning of life has been done already - and by many many many people.
You have to find your own way to enjoy life, rather than sitting around prattling about how rubbish and meaningless it all is.
There's always an answer, again relating to real life scenarios here, I like to learn from my mistakes and I can't do that if I just 'move on'.
I don't have regrets, they anger me, I guess that's why I work through something until it's cracked and thus I can say I have no regrets?
Maybe that is the mistake though. The fact that you can't just 'move on' is perhaps the thing that is causing you to feel as you do.
I'm not saying it's always the case - but a lot of the time simply moving on and doing something else is what enables us to learn from our mistakes and often leads to the answers we were after anyway. Or alternatively, you might just realise that the questions you had at one point in time don't actually matter that much a bit further down the line...
I feel the same - I am like the opposite of the OP I have so much happiness sometimes that I have to keep it supressed
...and sometimes I feel like saying to some people "I am one of the most amazing people you will ever come across in your life" I feel the same - I am like the opposite of the OP I have so much happiness sometimes that I have to keep it supressed
I have a gun, don't push me.
I'm kidding, you sound lovely and I can't wait to meet you.
Funny thing is I get that quite a lot, but I don't have to tell people, they find me interesting, entertaining, enlightening and empathetic. I have a lot of friends of a very wide age range.
Do you know when you see someone on tv, or hear a tune, and think "where have a I seen/heard that before..I know I have..it was in..hmmm...it was.." and you know the answer is in the tip of your tongue but you just can't come up with it. You just sit there twirling the image/tune inside your head feverishly trying to come up with the answer.
No matter how hard you squeeze your brain you can't come up with it! It's only when you 'move on' doing something else and seemingly forget about it, that it suddenly hits you and you remember it.
There is a moral in this and all of 'you' better figure it out!
Is the moral that we should just look everything up on IMDB?
Or that Google = Happiness?
They had better get that tagline in there - they aren't far off.
Bleek - you seem very keen to tell us how wonderful you are and how everything in life is good and you're a great friend to all your friends who think you amazing, etc.
Can you maybe concede that something is wrong, if you feel so awful all the time? Maybe you have a tendency to dwell on things? Maybe you have a bit of a superiority complex?
Maybe it's time to realise that everyone is in a bit of an existential muddle (why else would people get religious?) and it is just time to get on with it and stop looking for deep and meaningful fulfilled happiness?
Something said to me the other day - actually in relation to the over-examination of kids in schools (which is now on the slow turnaround) - is that a pig doesn't get fattened by weighing it. You need to feed yourself things, varied, little things, that contribute to your overall well-being. You won't get happy by analysing your lack of happiness.