What do you think about love?

Yes its cool to love because society says so. people get married at such a young age and its awfull...life hasnt even begun yet they are dedicating there lifes to another. pffffttt no thanks
 
To quote spaced :D
"You know what they say about love and war.
One involves a lot of physical and phsycological pain, the others war."

In all fairness, you know what I love about love, it's a basis for a lot of great songs.
I mean without love we wouldn't have ****in powerballads, BANDS LIKE WHITESNAKE WOULD NOT EXIST!
Imagine how horrible that would be, Journey wouldn't have written midnight train, most of the beatles songs would be gone.

But you've gotta have love. It's heartbreak which sucks, the only upside is it lets you know you're not dead inside.

Also, arranged marriages are stupid. "Marry this bloke, he's from a rich family" or "Marry this bloke, we like his parents" yeah thats love. Not.
 
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Neil Gaiman said:
“Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses, you build up a whole suit of armor, so that nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life...You give them a piece of you. They didn't ask for it. They did something dumb one day, like kiss you or smile at you, and then your life isn't your own anymore. Love takes hostages. It gets inside you. It eats you out and leaves you crying in the darkness, so simple a phrase like 'maybe we should be just friends' turns into a glass splinter working its way into your heart. It hurts. Not just in the imagination. Not just in the mind. It's a soul-hurt, a real gets-inside-you-and-rips-you-apart pain. I hate love.”
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Nix said:
Mike, as an evolutionary biologist you of all people shouldn't be complaining about that. I mean, objectively speaking - what is love? *tilts head* - it's just an intense pair-bonding process.

Chances are, those who chase 'love' or a partner to rely on, never learnt to stand up on their own two feet in the first place. Be a man first; be great. At the moment, whether you fight me on this or not, the reality remains the same: you are still a boy. Grow up first, then you can let some gold-diggin' hoe-bag tug your heart-strings and tap your best-mate. At least then you'll be better prepared to stick your finger up at them and walk. :o
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To break a piece of music down so that it is nothing but a 'mere' intricate pattern of notes is to miss the bigger picture, or at least the picture that really matters.

I could like at love through a 'scientific' (I use this word extremely loosely) perspective or in an evolutionary context, but that does nothing but remove you from reality - being in loving relationship feels good and is thus understandably desirable to many. Insisting on breaking such emotions down into chemicals is, in my opinion, removing yourself from the realities of being human.

And I am well aware that I am young. I think the best thing to do is to let yourself have many experiences as only then will you be able to truly understand what and who will really make you happy :)
 
Nitefly said:
To break a piece of music down so that it is nothing but a 'mere' intricate pattern of notes is to miss the bigger picture, or at least the picture that really matters.

I could look at love through a 'scientific' (I use this word extremely loosely) perspective or in an evolutionary context, but that does nothing but remove you from reality - being in loving relationship feels good and is thus understandably desirable to many. Insisting on breaking such emotions down into chemicals is, in my opinion, removing yourself from the realities of being human.

And I am well aware that I am young. I think the best thing to do is to let yourself have many experiences as only then will you be able to truly ascertain what will really make you happy.
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See, I know where you're coming from (the part in bold I especially agree with) - it's akin to the science/religion and beauty debate recently. It all applies here. I just didn't like the way you brushed away those who've come to a sterile conclusion for whatever reason; I mean, it's easy enough to say they're wrong - but do you ever stop to wonder why said person has come to their particular perspective? Incidently, what's to say there isn't beauty in seeing the workings? However, again: I refer back to the part in bold.

I'm not trying to take the beauty out of love here, I mean - I'm still a romantic at heart so-to-speak, and I understand that it feels nice and inspires great emotion; but it still fundementally is nothing more than a mammal's pair-bonding process. This is where I'm coming from: sure it's beautiful and pleasing, but let's not forget ourselves.

Also, as a note, that 'boy' remark wasn't necessarily aimed at you: more the young chap who created that thread. Just avoiding any misunderstanding there is all. ;)

Again, agreed and this is partly where my earlier ideas of being a man first stem from. I've come from a totally different angle from you, with ideas I can only assume would probably 'alarm' you, but I've ended up with roughly the same conclusion. Stop being so hasty chap. :D

Finally, just to throw this out there: half the fun in life is in expectation and desire. Consequently, realisation is the other half. Anant, don't just wait on realisation, learn to enjoy what's special about where you are at the moment; it will not last forever. You'll be old one day and then wonder why you didn't just try and enjoy things for what they were instead of stressing over trivial matters.
 
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Moses99p said:
What is love? It's an awesome (and sometimes a terrible!) thing which can't be adequately explained.


Maybe the cynicism with regards to love stems from your aforementioned misanthropy?
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My misanthrophy and cynicism are one in the same Moses99p.

They're an inevitable consequence of the experiences life has thrown at me. Frankly, I think such a perspective is inevitable. Some are lucky and avoiding it, whilst others are still balancing on a knife's edge. I'm not the only one who has this outlook. Indeed, where has this perspective of mine influenced my regard for 'love' or altered what 'love' should/could be in what I've said?

We can appreciate love to its highest regard, but why do we have to take it out of all proportion to the point we forget who we are? I don't want to become love and I don't want escape into it; I don't see the point. I want to be myself, enjoying love for what it is.

Does riding a rollercoaster suddenly lose its fun or appeal just because you know it runs on electricity? The only thing we should be watching out for is the ride breaking down, or queue-pushers. That, and possibly feeling a little sick afterwards.
 
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manbearpig said:
are you really 15? i didnt think there was anyone else on here a similar age to me lol, i really think i need to get myself a girlfriend, but they seem to shy away from me..:(
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I'm 15, nobody i would even consider going out with could understand love. So it's probably not worth the trouble...
 
Nix said:
Does riding a rollercoaster suddenly lose its fun or appeal just because you know it runs on electricity? The only thing we should be watching out for is the ride breaking down, or queue-pushers. That, and possibly feeling a little sick afterwards.
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That's brilliant, I like :)
 
Nix said:
Anant, don't just wait on realisation, learn to enjoy what's special about where you are at the moment; it will not last forever. You'll be old one day and then wonder why you didn't just try and enjoy things for what they were instead of stressing over trivial matters.
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Thanks for your wonderful insight Nix :)
I'm not sure that I can enjoy things as they are for the moment, simple because of two *sigh* women. I use the word women, because it would not be as convincing an arguement if they were "girls".


I'll call them A and B.

Woman A: Wonderfully intelligent, nicest person I've ever met. I'll eat my keyboard if she doesn't get 13A*s at GCSE. She is a truly great person. Other people thinks she complains/whines a lot, doesn't bother me one bit.

Woman B: Not quite as intelligent, but I think she's as nice :) Lost virginity at 13 or 14. Attempts to fit in with one of the popular cliques/groups.

These two used to be best friends, and I first became friends with them 3 years ago. They used to tell me all the time that they loved me. My relationship with both was always solid, but I did get paraniod if they ignored me from time to time. Then around November 08, woman A started going out with somebody from my house (at school). So I saw a lot more of her, and whenever she was in the boarding house, she'd come and look for me, which I think is absolutely lovely :). But then Jan 09 she broke up with him, and on that day she was going round talking to and hugging everyone, except me. I was within a 5metre radius for about an hour and she didn't speak to me once. Since then our relationship got worse and worse, but then on a scouts trip in summer 09 she forgot her sleeping bag so I let her share my blanket for the night. In a vain last minute attempt to rescue the friendship, I bought her a birthday present last month and apologised for our broken friendship, I don't think it worked. Also noted that our relationship was much better when she and woman B were best friends.

Woman B, our friendship has always been there, but the problems mainly come from her popularity. Also she seems to have a weird black people fetish, which doesn't exactly help, as they have huge willies. I hardly ever see her anymore as we're not in any of the same lessons. But once she did come to look for me which I thought was pretty good of her. She still gives me a big smile everytime she sees me, but we just don't connect on the level that we used to. She was also on scouts trip mentioned above, and we held hands for the whole night.

I understand that it's platonic love I'm speaking of here, as opposed to what was mentioned in the op, but I still think it's relevant.
 
Being inlove is amazing. Only when the other person is inlove with you too, otherwise it can be the worst thing in the world. ;)
 
Moses99p said:
I dunno. Erm, say the Northern Lights... they're easily explained by science, sit down and read for a little bit and it'll all make sense. They're wholly explainable, but at the same time their beauty and impact is indescribable?
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I think you've missed the point somewhat man.
 
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