For all the family we lost in 2009 - we'll never forget you

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This is a post for all those who lost family in 2009. A place for us to say a few words that come into our minds when thinking of our loved ones that passed away.

I'll start the ball rolling.

I lost my Father to pancreatic cancer in June. I nursed him for the last 3 months of his life and am still traumatised by the suffering he endured. I watched my dear Father slip away day by day, getting weaker and weaker. He became totally dependant on me. I fed him every day. I was with him when he passed away. I did my best. It wasn't enough.

I miss you Dad x
 
Wow, what a strange and morbid thread. 6 people of whom i was close died, don't really want to go over them all in detail though. Miss them all.
 
I watched my Grandma die in July. She had fought thyroid cancer for 8 years but in the end it took her. The hardest day in my life by a long way.

I know she is smiling down at me from up there now though.

Miss you Gran!
 
My Grandad lost both his sisters within 2 weeks of each other in March 2009 to cancer. As difficult as it was seeing them go, they're no longer in pain, but they will always be missed. The one thing that got to me was at the second funeral, we took a minute to remember Aunt Val and my Grandad simply said "bye, sis." - that choked me up so much, and still does thinking of that moment.
 
I lost my mother to stomach cancer in March of last year. Everything happened in the span of 3 months. Far too much happened far too quickly and to be honest i have tried not to think about it too much, it's all kept in mental boxes i've tucked into the crevices of my mind. She was diagnosed around christmas 2008 and quickly her condition deteriorated.

I was with her every step of the way. From being the one to let her know it was terminal to holding her hand and watching her take her last breath. Through out it all she always said she would recover and would try anything, never giving up hope and never complained. Speaking to some friends of the family i now know in her heart she knew her time was up and she was actually maintaining a front the whole time to actually give our family hope and an easier time accepting her condition.

I love you mom, you are the greatest !

The death of my mom has really made me look at life a lot more differently now and whilst i never did anything that really disappointed her (except she never saw me married or have any grandchildren) i could have done a million things far better. I certainly took her for granted far more than i should have and now it's too late. I hope anyone reading this really treasure the time they have with their family.
 
Lost my gran. Was flying abroad to go see her in hospital but flight got delayed and she passed away before I made it. Mum says it was for the best as she didn't look well. R.I.P.
 
Didnt lose anyone in 2009, lost a good friend of mine this year though, diagnosed with bowl cancer just over 18 months ago.

Died on the 25th January 2010, aged 25.

Im 24 and really didnt expect to be losing a friend to cancer. Like his parents didnt expect to lose their son.
 
Danm54 said:
Didnt lose anyone in 2009, lost a good friend of mine this year though, diagnosed with bowl cancer just over 18 months ago.

Died on the 25th January 2010, aged 25.

Im 24 and really didnt expect to be losing a friend to cancer. Like his parents didnt expect to lose their son.
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this is especially tragic to me as thats my birthday, i was 30 on 25th jan reading this thread is depressing, i am very sorry for your loss
 
I lost my Father In Law who I'd known for 35 years and never had one miss-word with him.
He went in with a blocked esophagus and it turned out he was riddled with cancer.
He came home and thankfully he died quite peacefully and without any mess (we were told blood could come from everywhere).
I miss you Dad.
 
It wasn't 2009 but I lost one of my best friends in 2007. She was involved in a hit and run as she was cycling to work. She didn't even make her 18th :(

RIP Abi x
 
I lost my Dad to cancer, It was the hardest thing to watch a man you Loved and idolised all your life fade away to a shell of his former self,

I spoke to him on the phone the in the morning of his death telling him i would be seeing him that evening because i had to work, Unfortunatly he passed away 1 hour after i spoke to him, i was devastated that i never got to comfort him at the end.

I miss you Dad but know you are in a better place x
 
My Dad died just before 2009 began, 18th December 2008. He had 'Mesothioloma' - cancer from where having worked with asbestos. (Imo) him having the biopsy made it spread from the back of one of his lungs to his brain. Although currently incurable it isn't unheard of for people to die of something completely unrelated since this can be a very slow growing cancer but once it hit the brain in a hard to reach place, there was nothing we could do.

I was pleased he was pain free for much of the time he was ill and had the disease not spread to his brain he was set to go to receive alternative treatments by doctors in Hampshire. Unfortunately the cancer was always one or two steps ahead of us. I can't believe its possible that he could go this early on....I always believed he would be here until I was quite a lot older.

I miss you Dad, I love you very much. Will see you when I pass on.

I am also very sorry for other peoples' losses here, too. :(
 
It's funny, you never realise what you've got until it's gone.

I miss the people that have left me and my life, I'll never forget them.
 
Spie said:
This is a post for all those who lost family in 2009. A place for us to say a few words that come into our minds when thinking of our loved ones that passed away.

I'll start the ball rolling.

I lost my Father to pancreatic cancer in June. I nursed him for the last 3 months of his life and am still traumatised by the suffering he endured. I watched my dear Father slip away day by day, getting weaker and weaker. He became totally dependant on me. I fed him every day. I was with him when he passed away. I did my best. It wasn't enough.

I miss you Dad x
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I hope I never know pain like that, I am sorry for your loss.

KaHn
 
KaHn said:
I hope I never know pain like that, I am sorry for your loss.

KaHn
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Thank you.

A lot of people here have suffered similar pain, most of them in silence.

There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of Dad. I still can't believe he's no longer here. I guess that will take time.
 
2009 was the first year I didn't go to a funeral. So for that I'm thankful.

However, I'd like to extend my thoughts and condolences once again to you Spie as I cannot even begin to imagine to lose a parent, even more when you've done all you can and it just doesn't seem to be enough. I'm sure he was/is proud of you, and thankful to have been so well looked after in his last moments on this world.

I also would like to extend my thoughts and condolences to all of you who have lost someone dear to you recently, and wish you and your family the strength to continue living your lives as best you can.
 
Spie said:
Thank you.

A lot of people here have suffered similar pain, most of them in silence.

There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of Dad. I still can't believe he's no longer here. I guess that will take time.
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I also lost my Dad to cancer last year, he died in March, 3 months to the day he was diagnosed with it. He'd been suffering for a few years with back pain and put it down to old age, turned out to be a tuma from his prostate that spread throughout his spine. He worked right upto the day of his diagnosis and you could count on one hand how many sick days he had off in his lifetime, a year away from retirement too.

I still can't believe he's gone and I do struggle to talk about it, living on my own I have no one to talk to and going to work takes my mind off things (I don't like to bother work colleagues with it when I'm feeling down).

I'm sorry for everyone who has lost someone, reading this thread and contributing has made a little bit of difference for the better. Thank you.
 
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