How can I live with my brother?

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V4NT0M

V4NT0M

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So, due to money being tight my brother moved in with me a few months ago and it's getting harder and harder to live with him. We have similar interests and have a laugh but when it comes to housework or even being tidy he just never seems to want to get off his ass and do anything. He rarely ever puts anything away after he uses things.

I always get "I'll do it later" or "In a bit" but obviously later takes days sometimes weeks to come. Unlike me who likes to keep quite tidy though I'm not OCD he just seems to want to live in his own crap.

We've tried taking things like hoovering up and washing up in turns, but his turn always seems to take a few extra days or weeks.

Anyone had similar house mates and any idea how we can structure the chores and most importantly how I can motivate him to tidy up after himself and have a little pride in himself and the house?

The worst part about it is that the house is messier and even when it's my turn to do stuff I'm less motivated to do it because I know it's going to become a total mess.
 
I hate to say it but if you want him to get off his arse.. tell him he's out unless he starts pulling his weight.
 
My brother is exactly the same. I get mummy to tell him off though :)

But yeah with no dis/incentive it's not gonna change.
 
hard one to say as you don't want to appear like a parent but instead a concerned friend. i'd say try making him realise what he is doing and how it's effecting you (and your partner?). act disappointed rather then angry/annoyed so that he feels like part of the team and he's letting it down, rather then you against him etc.

what about "hurting" yourself on something he left out?
 
I'm in pretty much the same situation, my answer? remove anything that he uses that's mine until he starts doing as he's bloody-well told! change internet acces password, remove hard drive from xbox360, refuse to give them back until stuff gets done, worked a treat, and I plan on doing it again in a week or so, just gotta find the right tactics
 
Your first post seems to suggest you maybe the younger brother is that correct?

TBH it shouldn't matter, you just to talk to him and explain your issues IMO of course, I don't know the ins and outs of your family history. I'm an older brother, but we have a good relationship because we talk, and we do live together. But no matter the amount we talk, I still seem to do the most house work.
 
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I hate to say it but if you want him to get off his arse.. tell him he's out unless he starts pulling his weight.
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You were kind enough to take him in, the least he could do is tidy up after himself.

Ultimatum!! Wise up or the vacuum comes out and you're out the door :D
 
I lived with my brother for a while last year, he was quite bad with the dishes - but so am I. In the end, it just began to work. He'd do his share of the dishes in a suitable time. The worst thing about living with him was the sheer amount of bad food he ate, all the time. I took it as a challenge to try and change him though and taught him how to cook.
Moaning to my mother also helped, no doubt. Sure she had a word!
 
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