Argument with my other half...Who agrees?

[RopAyy]

This is just a quick thread to see who if anyone agrees or understands where i was coming from in a recent argument i had with my other half. To cut a long story short i have a girlfriend who lives a good 80 miles away as she’s at uni, we only really see each other for a couple of days if that once every 4-5 weeks as she is incredibly busy with uni work lectures placements etc. It started a few days ago when she was showing me a few new items of clothing she had bought for a night out now usually she is pretty reserved in what she wears but her new outfit just consists of a 'long' tight fitting t-shirt which obv using it as a dress even with leggings didn’t sit well with me, now im not normally a jealous guy i just got annoyed at this and just requested her that it would bother me a little bit if she wore it when i wasn’t out with her, which is well never she never wants to g out when she’s back home and doesn’t really dress up to see me so im just a little annoyed that she’s happy to dress up (or down) for a night out in a cattle market they call a club. Now she does not understand one bit where i was coming from and just flipped out at me and we never reached any sort of compromise, the blokes and a few of the ladies in my office could see my point of view and understood why it would bother me, now I put it to you guys and girls to put your 2 pennies forward, can you understand what im getting at or not and why either way.

Much appreciated.

 

[neil3k]

stop being a jealous tool it will destroy your relationship

either you trust her or you don't

 

[antijoke]

She's a cheating ****.

Bin her off.



And for a serious reply, stop trying to control her, if she is going to cheat on you she will cheat on you, it doesn't matter what she wears. You need to have the trust in her that she will not cheat on you. The issue is with you.

 

[Viper²]

You tried to tell her what to wear? Oh no..

 

[Aero]

Meh it wouldn't both me because I trust my girlfriend.

 

[fonzee]

how dare she buy something which probably makes her feel better about herself!!

ditch her. in the face.

 

[LiE]

Welcome to the forums. You'll fit right in here.

 

[The Dread Pirate]

She's a Student their allowed to do stupid things and get away with it e.g. TOGA PARTY!

 

[gumbald]

Can she use paragraphs though?

 

[peetee]

I think your OTT too, it depends where you take her when shes home.
Shes probably at uni going to places that are full of other young people wearing fashionable things, whereas home is probably casual and same old same old.
Shes dressing for her surroundings.
Sounds like your relationship isnt going to work, people grow apart.

 

[Tummy]

Nice first post

 

[antijoke]

We really do need a photo to decide the outcome though.

 

[Aero]

We really do need a photo to decide the outcome though.

This would put it all in to context. If we could have with or without said "top" too that I feel would help everyone here.

 

[Cosimo]

You tried to tell her what to wear? Oh no..

Next you’ll be telling her how to behave, then what?

 

[Dogoid]

my eyes bled half way through.

 

[Dolph]

As you've put the story there, she's right, you're being irrational and unfair.

I can understand why you're not happy, but that doesn't make you right.

 

[The_TailGunner]

bin her. get a girlfriend you actually get to see.

 

[Spacedman]

Have to echo the above, you either trust her or not. Can't tell someone how to dress!

 

[Morgoth]

Can she use paragraphs though?

Ahaha.

 

[Tombstone]

I trust my other half, so it wouldnt bother me in the slightest. The question is do you?

If you dont, then frankly I cant see the relationship working. Long distance relationships are tough and taxing enough, if you then also dont trust your partner then the strain of that on a long distance relationship will break it imo.