should i stay or should i go

dave1983

dave1983

dave1983

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I know this isn't a relationship forum, however need your advise guys

Long story short been with my partner for about 8 months and live with each other, and for the last couple of weeks have been rocky to a point where were breaking up nearly everyweek.

last week we argued and she said that she didn't care anymore and that i could txt other women and she wouldn't care.... after that i couldn't take it and i said that's it's over! afterthat she got my clothes threm all over the hallway ect... she said that i couldn't use the electric or sleep on the chair as it was hers.

my partner works as a nurse so the time we do have is not much as she sleeps most of the time, so i rarely get any effort from her, iv'e noticed that one minute she's nice and sweet nxt she's argumentative, pikky and nasty, she likes to manipulate things and make me feel guilty, however im not perfect becuase she didn't show me any affection or interest i began txting other women, and about two weeks ago she new about it and didn't tell me. i owned up to it but promised that i wouldn't do it again, which i haven't!

from your point of view would you give your bf/gf another chance, i must have given her about 2-3 already i just don't know how much more i can take

thanks for your opinions

dave
 
Sounds to me, personally, that it's dead in the water.. if you are arguing all the time I can't see the point in sticking around.

Also it reads that you kinda know that already, and are just looking for confirmation.
 
Have you tried discussing this?

It does sound like it may have ran its course, but it could also be down to misunderstandings, (Women are fickle creatures), she thinks you have had enough of here, so makes it even worse to punish you.

It could be depression, Nursing is a difficult job and if she isn;t feeling appreciated, then that would explain the mood swings.

Talk it out!
 
Jph said:
If in doubt, do without.

It seems like you two don't want to be be together any longer, so why prolong it?
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true, i just try and make things work, i think both of us have changed quiet a lot she even said that she doesn't like to spend time with me, thats why she works late :mad:
 
You've only been together 8 Months and already are haivng a rough time, hardly see each other and have stress you don't need.

Move on..
 
Cause i was a mug in the past, i let her treat me the way she wanted, i used to get punished if i didn't do what she wanted, she would self-sobtage the relationship, and is very controlling and insecure.
 
time to get a new pasty to smash. May I suggest checking your local checkout girls for talent :p

edit: just seen ur above post. dude gtfo of that one, shes got her way and wont want to change. I had a relationship like this and as soon as I tried to change it is when the big fallouts happened
 
dave1983 said:
Cause i was a mug in the past, i let her treat me the way she wanted, i used to get punished if i didn't do what she wanted, she would self-sobtage the relationship, and is very controlling and insecure.
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Stop being a mug and kick her to the curb. Take her control away and move on.
 
Sounds like you don't love her the way she wants you to and vice versa. Maybe time to call it a day bro.
 
dave1983 said:
true its just very hard to let go of someone ya love, this sucks big b'lls
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if you love her (and despite what you have written here - i very much doubt you do) and don't want to end it, sounds like you both need to make some fundamental changes

I don't want to offend you but the way you have written about it and your behaviour with texting and so on sounds fairly immature as does your partner's approach. Perhaps if you want to get through this you need to go to relate or similar to equip yourselves with the tools to behave better towards each other.
 
Skidder said:
if you love her (and despite what you have written here - i very much doubt you do) and don't want to end it, sounds like you both need to make some fundamental changes

I don't want to offend you but the way you have written about it and your behaviour with texting and so on sounds fairly immature as does your partner's approach. Perhaps if you want to get through this you need to go to relate or similar to equip yourselves with the tools to behave better towards each other.
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i must admit what i done was wrong and immature, in relation to one of the post saying give her abit of slack, the fact is i do, i help her in every way she's kept financial things from me like not paying half the council tax which could have put us in a difficult situation, i always help her financially and emotionally, whenever she comes home i let her relax ect.. i know that i love her but not like i used to which she know about that as iv'e told her, when she asks me to change i do and stop things.
 
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