Do some women aim too high?

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This is off the back of my quote below from another forum:

Most women want someone attractive, funny, intelligent, brimming with romance, earning at least the national average, at least 5'11 and good in bed. They need to like their friends, and have nice friends themselves. They must cook and be tidy. They need to pander to every little thing she wants, but never be a pushover/doormat. They need to have the perfect level of jealousy to show they care, but without being so much so that she cannot have male friends.

Why they all think they deserve the above, whilst never meeting an unrealistic list of ideals from a guy's perspective themselves, is baffling.

Still, I'm sure they'll find their Mr Big/Bill Compton/Brad Pitt/etc eventually. ;)
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Do many modern women want an unrealistic man?

How many of the 12 attributes do you tick?

Attractive
Funny
Intelligent
Romantic
Earning national average
5'11 or taller
Good in bed
Get on with each other's friends
Able to cook
Clean/tidy
Pander to their needs without being a pushover
Show the correct level of jealousy

I have a bunch of female friends who are dating, and keep ending things because of a handful of really pointless reasons. I keep telling them that the chances of meeting Mr Perfect, and then him being single and interested in them is very slim, but they will have none of it.

Surely a certain amount of realistic compromise is expected?
 
Of course they do. So do some men.

Some of both have a low self esteem, and do the reverse. Some aim high and hit not too far off the mark. Some aim low and excel themselves. Some take what they can get.
 
krooton said:
How many of the 12 attributes do you tick?

Attractive - Check
Funny - Oh I'm ****ing hilarious
Intelligent - Mensa level IQ
Romantic - Nope sorry.
Earning national average - Above!
5'11 or taller - Nope 5'10
Good in bed - I can sleep for hours. Hung like a horse too!
Get on with each other's friends - nope.
Able to cook - Do oven meals count?
Clean/tidy - A little.
Pander to their needs without being a pushover - I rule with an iron fist
Show the correct level of jealousy - never show it.

:D
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Hell even I don§t tick all those boxes. Anyway those women that do want all that will end up old and lonely. Same as any man who wanted similar.
 
It's true on the most part, look at this Edward Cullen rubbish! I tick quite a lot of those boxes but only because that's what i'm told I am by my girlfriend (funny, attractive etc) I am 5'11, able to cook (just about! and my pancakes > hers!) I get on with her family great and her friends.

She's not like most women of course she isn't, that's why I love her and I don't think she has a list of ideals like that. But there do seem to be a lot of women hell bent on this ideal male who doesn't really exist. Of course I bet there are tons of men like that too and equally are as baffled when they think a woman may have similar ideals in looking for a partner.
 
Attractive - I'm no George Clooney, but i would say i'm average in my looks.

Funny - 2 men walk into a bar... 'OUCH' - hehe... ahem. Check

Intelligent - I like to think i'm Intelligent, i can happily talk about Quantum physics and politics.

Romantic - I'm an alright Romantic, i do little things that make my GF smile.

Earning national average - I am indeed.

5'11 or taller - I'm 6'0, so that's another tick.

Good in bed - She hasn't complained yet.

Get on with each other's friends - I get on with hers fine, she finds some of my friends weird, hates a few but i haven't seen them on years!

Able to cook - I'm a great cook.

Clean/tidy - Always clean-up and wash-up

Pander to their needs without being a pushover - Meh, i'm a little bit of a pushover

Show the correct level of jealousy - Tick here as well.
 
Hrm, I think I have my ideal bloke, wonder how many he ticks:

Attractive - hrm, sort of handsome in his own way but not classically good looking
Funny - yes, but most of it incredibly silly - his puns really stink sometimes
Intelligent - yup :)
Romantic - at times, in his own way
Earning national average - suppose so, I think we both punch a little above it anyway
5'11 or taller - 6'6" :D
Good in bed - yup!
Get on with each other's friends - yup :)
Able to cook - much more often than I do currently..
Clean/tidy - much moreso than me!
Pander to their needs without being a pushover - he doesn't pander. Def no pushover.
Show the correct level of jealousy - never has, not once. I don't think I give him need to show any though..
 
krooton said:
I have a bunch of female friends who are dating, and keep ending things because of a handful of really pointless reasons. I keep telling them that the chances of meeting Mr Perfect, and then him being single and interested in them is very slim, but they will have none of it.
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Judging by that list - any men who fit that entire list will have boyfriends already.

krooton said:
Surely a certain amount of realistic compromise is expected?
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You're expecting women to be sensible?
 
lol I tick none of them (though I earn more than the national average, which I suspect is what they mean ;) ).

What is the correct level of jealousy? I wasn't aware there were levels of jealousy, I thought it was a case of you were jealous or you weren't.
 
krooton said:
Surely a certain amount of realistic compromise is expected?
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Basically, you know what it's like, you meet someone and start going out and it's kindof cool but not great?

That list is just a number of standard things from which the woman would pick to try and explain why she doesn't fancy someone enough.

If she gets together with someone who doesn't tick all the boxes BUT sets her heart on fire, she's not going to care. I imagine this is the same for everyone...
 
I like to think I tick all those boxes naturally, but then, shouldn't everyone think that?
 
krooton said:
Attractive - Not ugly
Funny - hell yeah, I know all the dad jokes!
Intelligent - guess I am
Romantic - when I can be bothered
Earning national average - fair bit above it
5'11 or taller - 5'10 and a half!
Good in bed - sure am
Get on with each other's friends - I can do, if I like them..
Able to cook - yup
Clean/tidy - yup
Pander to their needs without being a pushover - hell no
Show the correct level of jealousy - no
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Oh well!
 
Chris Rock said it best, 'women get offered **** at least 3 times a week...nah, probably 3 times a day since they been 13 years old' (paraphrased)... therefore they can afford to be picky... a guy gets offered some sex and he's all up for it, because it dont happen often (in relation to bill clinton and the legwinski case) he gonna jump all over it.
 
11/12 apart from the last, but any girl that requires a 'correct level of jealousy' can GTFO

In fact, I'd suggest there is probably a degree of mutual exclusiveness, as anyone that ticks the first 11 boxes should know full well they're a catch, and therefore why be jealous when she's the lucky one ;)
 
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