People that don't say "thank you" when you hold the door for them
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What has hypothetical Welsh, Scottish & Irish Independance got anything to do with this?
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I can open a door fine, no need to thank anyone for that, if you hold a lift, then i will say thanks..
Why do you expect people to say thank you? if i open the door for my neighbour because she is about 60 and the door is a bit heavy, i would absolutely love it if she pretended i didnt exist and thought the door opened magically..
Manners.
Maybe you should think about why you're holding the door open for people in the first place, it's obviously not to grant them passage, as you gave that to this woman and still you weren't satisfied. Seems to me you're expecting a pat on the back so your so called courtesy is purely self-serving.
People don't have to thank you, you don't have to do anything for them, don't get so worked up grasshopper.
People don't have to thank you, you don't have to do anything for them, don't get so worked up grasshopper.
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This happens to me nearly everyday, i hold the door for the same woman nearly everyday for 3 years and never got a thank you.
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what you do is speed up and overtake them after the first door, open the 2nd for them, and then slow down to allow them to open the third
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When this happens I try to turn it in to a joke.
"Cheer up you old cow" usually goes down well
"Cheer up you old cow" usually goes down well
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Technically speaking you're supposed to be holding the door open because you're a nice chap. Otherwise it goes from being 'just a nice thing to do' to being 'trading compliments'.
Like my missus, driving, gets angry when people don't thank her for letting them out at a junction. I'm like 'So basically it was a 'conditional' nice thing you did. Not just a nice thing, a nice thing with strings attached .. and of course they have no choice but to accept your offer whether they want to or not, and god forbid they don't do their bit in return.
What would you think if you held the door open and the women said 'No thanks' and waited for you to close it before opening it herself? You'd be mortified with the insult. So it's a MANDATORY nice thing you're doing for her (she has to accept the gift), and she has a MANDATORY obligation to say something nice back to you? Doesn't sound so black and white now!
Like my missus, driving, gets angry when people don't thank her for letting them out at a junction. I'm like 'So basically it was a 'conditional' nice thing you did. Not just a nice thing, a nice thing with strings attached .. and of course they have no choice but to accept your offer whether they want to or not, and god forbid they don't do their bit in return.
What would you think if you held the door open and the women said 'No thanks' and waited for you to close it before opening it herself? You'd be mortified with the insult. So it's a MANDATORY nice thing you're doing for her (she has to accept the gift), and she has a MANDATORY obligation to say something nice back to you? Doesn't sound so black and white now!
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I think you'd come across as a bit of a knob if you started an argument out of someone not saying "thank you" when you held the door open for them, even if they're the one being rude.
I always say "thanks", "thank you" or "cheers" when someone holds the door open for me, but I don't take it for granted and don't necessarily expect people to acknowledge me when I do the same for them. Maybe I should?
I always say "thanks", "thank you" or "cheers" when someone holds the door open for me, but I don't take it for granted and don't necessarily expect people to acknowledge me when I do the same for them. Maybe I should?
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Don't you hate it when you think about holding the door, check how far the person is behind you, stop to hold the door..
...only to realise they are further away than you thought, so you end up holding it for what seems like an age
...only to realise they are further away than you thought, so you end up holding it for what seems like an age
Don't you hate it when you think about holding the door, check how far the person is behind you, stop to hold the door..
...only to realise they are further away than you thought, so you end up holding it for what seems like an age
Or hold the door, then realise they are not going the same way as you. Who feels the bigger tit, you for holding the door or them for shuffling past and mumbling something about going somewhere else?
It absolutely boils my **** when I hold the door open for people at work and they breeze through without even so much as a glance. I remember them and they'll never get the door held for them again, ignorant *****
It's called manners.
Maybe you should think about why you're holding the door open for people in the first place, it's obviously not to grant them passage, as you gave that to this woman and still you weren't satisfied. Seems to me you're expecting a pat on the back so your so called courtesy is purely self-serving.
People don't have to thank you, you don't have to do anything for them, don't get so worked up grasshopper.
It's called manners.