I met this girl a few weeks ago , we spoke in person and on facebook and got on really well. She has a baby which doesn't bother me but i was getting warning signs that perhaps i should walk away. Although she was having problems with an ex for sometime he had only recently ( 1month ago ) moved his stuff out. The ex from what i was told was a violent person however it's his child so he will no doubt be on the scene now and then for the child. Even though when asked he wants nothing to do with the kid. Now i don't hold that against her , but at the time i couldn't understand why she has everyone believe the guy is still on the scene. Even on FB her dad,mother go on about her ex !
She then tells me the reason she won't tell them is because the father is an alcoholic and will demand to have her back home. Now instead of walking away i felt sorry for her the way she was being treated and wanted to take her out plus she was nice in person. She was never treated right and just wanted to be loved...
Every day i had my doubts , it drove me crazy what am i doing i said to myself. Two days before we went out she then texts me she left her job , couldn't take it anymore and not sure when to go back. But still i see her on friday , knowing full well the more i get involved the harder it would be to pull out.
We had a great time but certain things played on my mind !. Now just recently i find out she's on anti depressants , also she was drunk because she was depressed and she was drunk with the child in the house. I said to her about being drunk and she said she will try to stay off the bottle for the next 7 days , which means she is most likely to be an alcoholic like her dad. Another warning sign. She has also been crying a number of times this week , but why get depressed , get drunk , cry a lot when we had a great time that day!.
So what do i do , instead of thinking over things i go against my thoughts i ask her if she's going to a certain club(not nightclub) and that ill see her there!. I now have second thoughts and tell her i'm not going too tired and she replies that's a real shame because she would like to see me. But i want to pull out now , walk away , don't get involved. Yet i DO , AGAIN AND AGAIN. She also lives 35-40mins away which would be long distance?
It was the same with my ex , i break up with my ex as nothing was working yet every day i had second thoughts. So i made up with her , picked her stuff up so she can stay with me then the next day want to break up again. I CANNOT make a decision and stick with it , my mind will not stop thinking yes no yes no day after day.
I suffer from Autism(aspergers) & OCD , i have no idea what the hell i'm doing. I'm still sticking with my guns about not going tonight , even though i texted if she was going with a friend now she thinks im not going because of her friend.
FFS!
She then tells me the reason she won't tell them is because the father is an alcoholic and will demand to have her back home. Now instead of walking away i felt sorry for her the way she was being treated and wanted to take her out plus she was nice in person. She was never treated right and just wanted to be loved...
Every day i had my doubts , it drove me crazy what am i doing i said to myself. Two days before we went out she then texts me she left her job , couldn't take it anymore and not sure when to go back. But still i see her on friday , knowing full well the more i get involved the harder it would be to pull out.
We had a great time but certain things played on my mind !. Now just recently i find out she's on anti depressants , also she was drunk because she was depressed and she was drunk with the child in the house. I said to her about being drunk and she said she will try to stay off the bottle for the next 7 days , which means she is most likely to be an alcoholic like her dad. Another warning sign. She has also been crying a number of times this week , but why get depressed , get drunk , cry a lot when we had a great time that day!.
So what do i do , instead of thinking over things i go against my thoughts i ask her if she's going to a certain club(not nightclub) and that ill see her there!. I now have second thoughts and tell her i'm not going too tired and she replies that's a real shame because she would like to see me. But i want to pull out now , walk away , don't get involved. Yet i DO , AGAIN AND AGAIN. She also lives 35-40mins away which would be long distance?
It was the same with my ex , i break up with my ex as nothing was working yet every day i had second thoughts. So i made up with her , picked her stuff up so she can stay with me then the next day want to break up again. I CANNOT make a decision and stick with it , my mind will not stop thinking yes no yes no day after day.
I suffer from Autism(aspergers) & OCD , i have no idea what the hell i'm doing. I'm still sticking with my guns about not going tonight , even though i texted if she was going with a friend now she thinks im not going because of her friend.
FFS!
u'll regret it in the future!
LOL