Am i being unreasonable?

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Last weekend i went to a biking competition in essex. stopped over the saturday night in a field then awoke sunday morning to find a text from my girlfriend saying some guys had been in the house in the night and tried to rob us. I called her and she said they'd come in, come upstairs and saw her in the house and then legged it. Apparently both her and my other housemate had gone to bed without either of them checking the doors, leaving both the front and rear unlocked.

After calling again a little later sunday morning she tells me my xbox games had gone, so roughly twenty games (MW2, ME2, Borderlands, Guitar hero etc...) so probably what, £15 each average?

Get home and go to ride my bike to work the next day and that is nowhere to be seen either. I'd only just finished building that up and it was a lovely bike. Spent maybe £350-400 on it by only buying extreme bargains. If selling on ebay it'd probably fetch £500-550.

This seems to be the only stuff missing and all of their stuff is fine, so just mine gone.

Now my girlfriend is mega guilty about it and has offered to pay me back, though she has very little money at the minute so it'll be a while. My housemate just sort of said "unlucky" and i walked out the room to avoid ramming the sofa through his skull.

The big question is, am i being unreasonable in thinking i should be asking them to sort it out/replace everything or maybe even just some of it. There was no insurance, but the policy i now have (mrs boats heard the two guys comment on the tv, speakers etc in the lounge so i got one straight away) won't cover if the doors are open so it would have been irrelevant as it would be void. I'm not really confrontational and hate asking for things from people at the best of times so to me it feels wrong asking them to sort it, but other friends seem to think i should be making them fix it or claiming my housemates bike as my own.

What do the OCUK'ers think?
 
You should have had insurance, you'll get no where trying to force people to pay up for forgetting to lock the door.

Put yourself in their shoes, we've all done it, it was just bad luck.
 
Wow that's terrible news. I would be extremely annoyed at the two of them but I guess you can breath a sigh of relief that no harm was done to either. I think they should offer to pay you back at least some of the total amount that was stolen.
 
He has a textbook narcissistic personality disorder but as far as trustworthy goes i think the worst he's ever done is borrow a small bike part to fix his for the afternoon. I'm 95% sure he wouldn't do that, in all the time i've lived with him he's never taken anything unless by error, always pays bills on time and just got his student loan through near the end of term so has a fair reserve in the bank for tesco 7p noodles.
 
You should have had insurance, you'll get no where trying to force people to pay up for forgetting to lock the door.

Put yourself in their shoes, we've all done it, it was just bad luck.

I've been in their shoes. I've been to blame for someones stuff getting lost/damaged/taken several times and i've always replaced it for them,but then i'm a generous person with a huge conscience. My stuffs gone because they neglected to keep it safe. Besides, when i spoke to admiral/tesco/aa/directline they said it wouldn't be covered if the house was left unlocked.
 
Where was the bike? It's the most expensive thing you're listing, I'm assuming it was inside because if not then how would it be your housemates fault if it was stolen from outside?
 
Just gotta bite the bullet and accept your stuffs gone. They made a mistake but anyone could've done it. Only got yourself to blame really for not having insurance. I was in 2 minds when I got my own place last year about getting contents insurance but when I looked into it I only ended up paying a tenner a month and this turned out to be invaluable as I had my bike nicked from the rear of my house.
 
He has a textbook narcissistic personality disorder but as far as trustworthy goes i think the worst he's ever done is borrow a small bike part to fix his for the afternoon. I'm 95% sure he wouldn't do that, in all the time i've lived with him he's never taken anything unless by error, always pays bills on time and just got his student loan through near the end of term so has a fair reserve in the bank for tesco 7p noodles.
Hmm, inside job then?

If it's bad luck, I'm sorry, it's just that. But I would try and sort something out. Even if it's just a meal or something (principle).
 
Where was the bike? It's the most expensive thing you're listing, I'm assuming it was inside because if not then how would it be your housemates fault if it was stolen from outside?

Yep, inside the house in the back room (have to go through the ktichen and hallway to get to it) along with three of his bikes.
 
So the thieves must have come in the house, gone through the kitchen and hallway to a room with four bikes in it, but only liked the look of one of them, which they must have removed at that stage. Was your bike the nearest to the door or would they have had to move the others to get to it?
Then grabbed some Xbox games but didn't spot anything else worth taking. Perhaps there was nothing else in the room. DVDs, videos etc all hidden from view?
After they presumably dumped the items outside they came back in and went upstairs but got scared off.
Not to be unnecessarily suspicious but that sounds suspicious.
 
For the games, I dunno if they could fork over some cash to replace a few I would call it quits with that, the bike however is a different matter, something worth that much should have been insured.
 
You should have had insurance, you'll get no where trying to force people to pay up for forgetting to lock the door.

how exactly would insurance have helped given that there was negligence involved on the part of the tenants i.e. leaving the door open..

how about if you accidentally tread on someones laptop or if you leave the bath running by mistake and it floods your flatmates room below and kills his hi-fi and LCD TV.... - both mistakes that anyone could make but still you'd think the person who made the mistake would have the decency to pay up
 
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Not to be paranoid, but your housemate stole all your stuff and sold it/is going to sell it.

this tbh...

housemate was clearly banging his g/f when he was away then they concocted a plan to sell his stuff on e-bay to build some funds for when they run away together...
 
this tbh...

housemate was clearly banging his g/f when he was away then they concocted a plan to sell his stuff on e-bay to build some funds for when they run away together...

+1.

Except they spent the funds that night on class A chemicals.
 
well your not being reasonable

bike should have been locked up if it wasnt insured. games in a locked room maybe ? im sure insurance can cover you accidentally leaving a door unlocked or a faulty lock. hell i left my bike in the garden and they still paid up after some whinging :o
 
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